***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
Dave,
WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
your question.
The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.
To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.
Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?
The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
attracted to.
This does two things:
1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.
2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.
Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.
Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).
Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.
If you're reading this right now, and you're
one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
she said:
"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."
I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.
It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.
Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.
Don't let it bother you.
Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
woman's wishes.
But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.
The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.
I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
this.
It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.
Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.
This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.
And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.
First of all, don't start acting TOO
DIFFERENTLY.
If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.
If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
that happens.
If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.
With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.
As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!
When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.
As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
running away.
In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out
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Go check out some free video preview clips, and
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I am a good looking guy but never really got the
chicks i wanted, only got ones that wanted me.
That is history now thanks to your material..
In the lecture hall a chick asks me pointing "is
that free?" (meaning the seat next to me coz the
hall was full)... i made it out she was pointing
at my lap and i said.. "No you can't sit on my
lap, how about this seat?!". she cracks up
laughing and sits down.
I tease her hard at the interval, and after
lecture she asks me if i am single. To which i
reply "Yeah, i suppose i have space for one
more!!"- she giggles and calls me naughty.
She texts me all the time now and we plan to do a
proper hook up next week....life is great!
I noticed you can use C&F in doses, just 5 good
hits and you're in. Rest of the time just sit back
and enjoy having a "normal" conversation.
Anybody else noticed this?
J.D. London, England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've made a great point here...
If you start off the interaction with a woman
in the right way, you'll form a "first impression"
that will cause her to see ANYTHING you do from
then on in the context of the "Cocky & Funny"
attitude that you've demonstrated.
I personally think it's a good idea if you keep
up the Cocky & Funny, easing off as you start
having more and more conversation. But, don't stop
entirely, because at some point you'll begin to
lose the magnetic challenge that worked for you in
the first place.
This is another reminder that once a woman
thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to
think of you in that way for a LONG time.
And if you start out by acting like a WUSSY,
then she's going to assume that you will ALWAYS
act like one, and run.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
A casual "playmate" of mine just turned me on to
you and your sage advice and I must admit that
it's terribly accurate. Nothing is sexier than
confidence and if a man can tie it all up with a
funny bow, all the better!!!
Speaking of being tied up, I'm a very submissive
woman behind closed doors but outside of the
bedroom I tend to employ the c&f approach myself
(it's reflex - I come by it naturally). My
question is how do I put these two aspects of my
personality together to achieve optimum success
out there in the dating world?
L. from Vancouver
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Um, well the first thing you do is SEND ME
PICTURES AND GIVE ME YOUR PHONE NUMBER.
I recommend PERSONAL COACHING from me...
nothing else will do. It really is a must.
Your challenge is going to be finding a man who
is a match to you. It's not going to be easy...
(I love my job, by the way.)
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Alright, just bought your book a few weeks ago and
have devoured it twice over! Great stuff in there!
The ladies LOVE this stuff! Now, like they say,
WHEN IT RAINS IT POURS!
I have more ladies than I can handle, being a very
busy college student. Needless to say, I find
time!
Now, my question here is on jealousy:
If Girl A sees me out with Girl B, given Girl A
likes me enough, will this jealousy INCREASE Girl
A's attraction to me? Or, for that matter, Girl A
knowing anything about me being involved with any
other girl? I ask this b/c I'm a little more
attracted to Girl A than the others but still want
to "get to know" the others!! What do you say,
Dave?
Thanks, dk
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Jealousy is an interesting emotion.
Some believe that it's the most POWERFUL
emotion.
Generally speaking, if a woman knows that
you're seeing other women, it will make you more
attractive.
But you must be careful.
Jealousy can make people crazy... and it can
lead otherwise normal people to do all kinds of
insane things. If you make the wrong person
jealous, they can turn into a stalker...
That said, my perspective is that you need to
live your life and not worry about what others
think of you.
This trait will lead to women finding you more
attractive in and of itself.
If you're always worrying about whether a woman
will be upset because she sees you out with
another woman, then you'll be acting like a wussy
all night because you're scared.
On the other hand, if you could care less what
others think of you, then it will project into all
other areas of your behavior, and will lead to
other good things.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey big D-
I've been getting your newsletter for a while now,
and man has it helped- you're a genius! Every
Friday night I go out to parties, but there's
usually the same people there, so they'd notice if
I drastically changed how I act, so I've been
working in your techniques bit by bit, and most
everyone just thinks I'm finally coming out of my
shell.
Last Friday night I was there and there was this
new girl from another school- she'd never seen me
before, so I figured I had nothing to lose. I
went over to her and went all out. She was
wearing one of those shirts that's just a strap in
the back- basically a half-shirt. I walked right
up to her and said, "Ya know, when someone wears
that kind of thing, it can only mean one thing."
She pulled one of those half-smile "I'm hot and I
know it- just give me your stupid line and go
away" looks. So I said, "It means you can't
afford an entire shirt, and you were just hoping
no one would notice since it's dark in here."
Needless to say, she was caught off guard. She
started to get a mad look on her face, so I gave
her crap about not being able to take a joke, and
mentioned that it's a good thing she could at
least afford an entire pair of pants. Finally she
laughed, and said, "What, you don't like my
shirt?" and kind of pouted. So I said, "It's not
bad, but it'd look even better on the floor of my
bedroom." Ya know, those really cheezy pick up
lines can actually work if you deliver them
sarcastically so the girl knows you're making fun
of people that use them for real. Another kind of
backward logic that works, so ya just use it, I
guess. Anyway, about a minute later I got her to
give me her e-mail address and number, and I
walked away. A couple days later I sent her an e-
mail saying it was nice to meet her and if she
wanted to see me I'd be there the next week. She
replied the same day saying she'd be there - and
that's tonight. I'm off to go there now, so I'll
be sure to fill you in on how things go on our
"second time."
Thanks again, David! T in CO
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Love it! Great work, and good job sticking it
out through those first couple of minutes of
conversation.
***COMMENT***
Hey whats going on Dave?
I don't have a question, cause i have the C/F down
patt. So the other night i decided to take it a
little further. I was with this girl and then
after a while, i knew that she wanted to start to
get busy, so I TEASED HER!!!! I don't wanna get
into much boring detail, but I made her want it
more, it was like i owned her. It was great. And
the best part here, I've only received now 2 e-
mails from you. The 2nd one was the one with
questions and stories... and i got it the day
after. What can i say, I'm a natural. Thanks
Dave, keep the e-mails coming... soon to get the
book.
A Saskatoon, SK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, a man who gets it.
It's hard for most guys to lean back and not
give a woman what she wants in the moment.
But, if you can just hold back, tease, and let
the anticipation build up... and learn how to
amplify a woman's feelings by doing this, you'll
get so much further, so much faster.
On the other hand, if you try to keep pushing
forward always, you'll run into resistance at
every turn... and wind up frustrated because she's
telling you to stop.
Nice moves.
***QUESTION***
Hows it goin, Dave? Just wanted to start off by
saying I've read your book and the c&f techniques
have worked wonders. But, lately I've been having
a bit of a problem. See I've had this one girl
who has been my good friend for a few years now,
and shes always set me up with her friends etc.
ppl always joke about how we should get married
and everything and we just laugh... but lately im
realizing that i really do like her. I'm at a
total loss on how i should confront her (the 3-5
minute c&f routine doesn't really apply here!),
and need some tips/ideas from turning a 'just
friend' into a girlfriend.
Thanks in advance,
--CJ from Austin
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you're an interesting guy.
Most guys who have a golden goose (her) that is
laying (no pun intended) golden eggs (her friends)
wouldn't be so quick to try to hook up.
Think about what you're risking here...
If things don't work out with her, you're going
to most likely be out of luck as far as the
getting hooked up with the girlfriends... and
you'll probably lose her as a friend as well.
These things aren't certainties, but they're a
pretty good bet.
If you want to see if she's interested in you,
try using the Kiss Test on her (it's on the second
page of my main web site, and in my book). It
works wonders.
***QUESTION***
Hello Dave,
I totally agree that success with women only comes
when you actually grab your balls, go out and do
something about it - you actually need to IMPROVE
in all of the ways possible. Just recently i've
been concentrating on training my voice.
What advice would you give on how to best train
your voice so it is "attractive" to women - and
generally conveys self-confidence and control? By
the way you sound great on your seminar CDs.
B London
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let's summarize what you've said here:
1) You grab your balls when you go out to meet
women.
2) You like the way my voice sounds.
I'm not sure about you, dude.
lol... the best things you can do to train your
voice are:
1) Speak slowly and clearly.
2) Put more bass in your voice... talk in a lower
register.
3) Use pauses for effect.
Just as important as the VOICE is your "Body
Language" and gestures. In fact your voice tone
and your Body Language make up almost ALL of the
stuff that makes a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.
More great tips on this stuff are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage
***QUESTION***
You are the man. i think people should put a
monument for u. the C&F routine had worked wonders
for me. im actually now getting digits and e-mail.
But this C&F routine got me thinkin. your great
methods are now probably in the hands of a million
guys or even more, so if two guys playing the C&F
on the same girl, who will she choose? like i
mean, do we have then add another part to our
character? And another question, wont these babes
get tired of us guys of approaching them with the
same C&F routine??? i think they will need
something different in their lives so wont they go
for the jerks or some other people???? u gotta
answer these questions for the sake of
humanity!!!!
U.W Israel
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, for the sake of humanity, here's the
deal:
Most guys just want to meet a nice girl and
settle down into a relationship. My materials help
guys do that FASTER than they would have before,
and date more women in the process, so they
eventually meet a BETTER girl in which to have a
relationship than they would have before.
And you don't have to worry... there are plenty
of women out there.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I want to thank you for all of the help. I admit,
I used to be a Wussy. I know this now. But I
recently started working at a store and found a
lady there to be very attractive. I had never
asked a lady out before, because of my shyness,
and being use to them just confronting me or
having their friends do it. I was ready for a
change in this and decided to use your techniques.
I used your techniques and simply asked the lady
out with a C&F approach. Needless to say, after
work tonight we were eating out and SHE actually
requested we go to a more 'Private' location
nearby. I kept the C&F routine rolling all night.
Having to be at work the next morning we decided
to head for home. Keeping up the C&F routine I
ended up with her number and she suggested that we
go out the next night (tomorrow night). I learned
a lot about her and these bring me to some
questions.
She wanted to talk about our lives the whole
night. I kept up the 'Is this a job interview?'
stance and kept off of the normal subjects. But
she kept coming back to these subjects. How do
you get off of these subjects/questions if they
keep insisting? Also, she and I are religious
people, and I am not after the normal 'one thing.'
I'm after a relationship. Keeping in mind that we
are both religious, but sex is not out of the
question completely, how do I still make her feel
attracted to me? I also want to say thank you for
bringing light to the subject of women and God
Bless you for all of the help. You are simply THE
MAN!
Many thanks, Grateful Virginia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think you're on the right track.
If you're looking for a relationship with this
woman, and you're not going to have sex with her
before that point or before marriage, then you're
OK talking about "normal" topics.
The Cocky & Funny material will only make you
more attractive to her, so make sure you ask HER
the kinds of questions you want the answers to,
and make sure that SHE is the right girl for you.
Thanks for the email.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave.
I've read your book and i totally agree with your
C&F attitude (it has worked for me). Anyway, here
are some facts about me:I'm 21 yo, live in Greece,
really handsome,never done a PICK UP(get her
number). Although i look older and...experienced,
I'm quite inexperienced with women. I'd appreciate
if you answered a specific question. Here is the
situation i have been maaany times:I'm sitting
with a friend of mine in a cafeteria. 3 or 4
meters away there is a table with 2-3 girls
chatting or playing a board game.I "catch" one of
them staring at me with that silly expression that
says"I LIKE YOU".What should i do?I should
immediately stand up and approach their table with
confidence. Then what?I'd like you to tell me the
EXACT words i should use.
I look forward to hear from you.
Aris P.
P.S. Please forget about the email. The target
here is clear: Her mobile phone number
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, this is going to sound simple... and it
is.
The first thing you need to understand is that
if a woman likes you, then she's VERY likely to
give you her phone number, email address, or
whatever. I even know a guy who gets women's
addresses and a map to their house when he first
meets them. Really.
You need to just start talking to women.
Walk over to the table, say, "Hi" to one of the
girls, and then ask her a few questions about
herself. Finally, say "It was nice talking to
you... I'm going to get back to my friends." As
you turn to walk away, turn back and say, "Hey! Do
you have a mobile phone?" If she says "yes", then
give her a pen, and say "Write down your number,
I'd like to talk to you again."
It really is that simple.
You need to do that about 100 times in the next
month.
You'll learn so much that you won't believe it.
Do it!
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought your book about a month ago and I have
used some of your techniques to success. There is
this girl I like at my bank and who I thought
liked me. The problem is I let the beauty get the
best of me. I bought your book after I met her in
hopes to getting her. Well I used some charm by
dropping a card through the drive through and
writing if she wanted to go out Sunday night. Let
me tell ya she melted and told me that no one has
ever did that for her before. She told me to give
her my number and that she would call me for
Sunday night. Well Sunday rolled around and she
didn't call but the next time I saw her she turned
red and greeted me with a smile and the apologetic
excuse that I was away this weekend and I feel so
bad I didn't call you and then she bowed her head
and said she was sorry but didn't say she would
call. I asked two of my friends one c+f guy who
has great success with girls and he said you
should have told her "playing hard to get" and
laugh at her excuse to get her thinking. While my
other friend who seems like a wuss at times but
also gets laid quite often said to be up front and
say what happened and lets try again. What do you
think I should do? Should I say anything? Its been
a month but I see her about 3X a week at the bank.
Plus she is always telling the other tellers I
look hot by the way I dress--Armani guy and that I
am well off because I drive a real nice SUV. My
gut feeling is to move on. Thanks.
J in Ct.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, at this stage in the game, I'd recommend
that you ALWAYS get her number and email.
You be the one to email and call her first.
This way you can follow up, and she knows that
you know how to get a hold of her.
The card and the asking her out on a "date" was
probably a little too much, in my opinion.
When you do things like this, you come across
as overly interested.
Better to say "Hey, give me your email", then
to email and suggest a cup of tea. Then, if tea
goes well, suggest something else... and so on.
Let things progress naturally, and don't come
on so strong in the beginning.
Here's what I'd do if I were you:
Next time you see her, say "OK, you're playing
hard to get, but it's not working on me (in a
funny way). Give me your email and number, and
I'll call you in a few days."
Then get her info, and wait a few days to call
her.
When you do reach her, tell her that she owes
you a cup of tea for being flaky. And make her pay
for it.
And make sure you don't act like a needy Wuss,
OK?
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Your material rocks, after Henry Ford, you are the
man who has changed America. I have one huge
question. As you often say, women test a lot and
do it by many different ways. I recently have come
to a certain girl who we call, a woman player. At
some point, were everything I was doing was going
well, she just said "I love you". I know that
saying this on the first date for a guy is a no-
no, but what if she says it. I know that this time
it was a test, but what if this happens and the
girl is serious?
thank-you s-d
Quebec
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you are interesting enough, you're
going to have women saying things like "I love
you" all the time.
And, just like Hans Solo said to Princess Leia,
you need to say...
"I know."
Don't turn into Wussy Boy and say something
dumb like... "really?".
And by the way, if a woman is SERIOUS when she
says "I love you" on the first date, then you need
to be really, really careful... lol.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave
Bought the book a couple of days ago, printed it
off yesterday (guess that defeats the point of e-
books, but it makes it easier to read sitting on
the toilet!) and read it. Went out on a date
yesterday evening, and suddenly I'm like a mind
reader...
Had a date Friday, before reading the book. She
said she doesn't even want to talk to me again.
Date last night (Sunday), was a bit cold and
wasn't opening up. Had a few beers, then told her
I could tell her things about herself that no-
one's ever told her before. Did a few minutes of
that, she melted and asked me was reading a
woman's mind my party trick! Bear in mind I only
picked this up from reading the book, and threw in
a bit of common sense and guess work into it to
make it sound good :-)
She went home to hers, I went back to mine. Asked
her to text me on my mobile when she got back
home. She done that. She's already emailed me this
morning too. Suddenly after all these years it's
starting to make sense...
Enough of my rambling, thank you for a damn fine
book. It's very early days, but already things are
changing.
Thanks again, keep up the good work!
A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's funny, because I get a lot of emails from
guys who say things like "I downloaded your book
today, and I sat and read it all the way
through... then I went out and got a girl's
number", etc.
Of course, the best is when I get the success
stories like yours from guys who are taking the
materials, and using them to get responses from
women that they've never gotten before.
Great job...
Now, if you're ready to take your success with
women up about ten more notches, it's time for you
to get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is jam-packed with literally
hundreds and hundreds of fantastic concepts and
step-by-step techniques that will dramatically
increase your successes... far beyond where it is
right now.
You can watch some great sample video clips and
get all the details here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you're reading this right now, and you
haven't downloaded my online eBook, you need to go
and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and
literally be reading it in a few minutes. Go
download it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
And I'll talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Have you ever noticed that "funny guys" tend to
fall into two categories:
1) Dorky Funny - The type of guy that a woman
laughs AT (not WITH)
2) Confident Funny - The type of guy that not only
makes women laugh, but makes women laugh in a way
that ATTRACTS them
...?
So what's the DIFFERENCE between these two
types of guys?
Why is it that women find some guys "dorky"
even though they're LAUGHING?
What causes that "key difference"... where a
woman is laughing WITH you and not AT you?
More importantly, how can you actually USE
humor to create ATTRACTION?
As you already know from reading these
newsletters, I've developed a technique that I
call "Cocky & Funny"... and it is like MAGIC when
it comes to creating a powerful attraction with
women.
I have gotten so many questions about how to
use this technique, that I actually took the time
to create an entire AUDIO/VIDEO program on the
topic.
I call the program "Cocky Comedy" - and it's
the most powerful education available on how to
use humor to create attraction.
Did you know that MOST laughter is NOT in
response to something that's funny?
It's true.
Think about most of the things that people
laugh at... things like the weather... or like a
common experience... or a million other things...
NONE of which are FUNNY.
Laughter is not about humor. Not USUALLY, at
least.
Laughter is about TENSION and RELEASING
tension.
And I'd like to teach you how to create and
release tension... in a way that is both CHARMING
and FUNNY to women... and how to do this in a way
that makes conversations easy and natural... and
that ultimately creates a POWERFUL attraction.
Inside this program, I'll also teach you
different Cocky & Funny "lines" for every type of
situation with women - so you'll be prepared for
ANYTHING.
Take a minute and read this letter, learn a few
techniques, and watch the video clips of the
program:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
I really believe that this program can help you
create powerful attraction with women.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
A success story with a question and lessons
learned the hard way.
Question: perhaps you have addressed this before,
but why do women choose unstable "losers" over
stable, "good guys" like me? One may noticed this
and labeled it the "SPCA" syndrome: "Society for
Prevention of Cruelty to Animals." In other words,
the woman goes for the "stray," not the "well-
bread."
I think it goes to the issue of challenge, which
has two aspects. One is "benign": the man has to
be a challenge in the sense that he is not too
available. Another, which is negative, is the man
is so "damaged" that he presents a challenge in
another, less benign way: the woman wants to "fix"
him. I heard Dr. Laura the other day, although I
usually cannot stand her. Some dimwit woman
called in and said she had been dating guy A, who
was nice, and was now dating A's friend, B, and
she did not know what to do. A was a good guy and
stable, B was a lowlife but was "exciting." Dr.
"Queen of Life" jumped all over her, asking this
genius how she would answer the same question if
her own daughter asked her that question. It was
clear by the idiot's "OK" after being given this
advice that she did not get the answer she wanted
and will probably stick with B.
Success story: Confidence.
1. Parents and religion. About 10 years ago, I
was dating a surgeon who was Jewish. I am not
Jewish, so that made a big difference and was
ultimately one of two factors leading to our
demise (the other was that I could not trust her).
She told me her parents did not approve of me
since I was non-Jewish. I just told her to her
face, "I don't care what your parents think. I'm
not here to please them." I think this took her
by surprise and increased her respect for me.
You my want to do columns on these if you have not
done so already: dealing with parents; dealing
with different religions.
2. Signs that you are confident. Every dating
advisor stresses male confidence. Watch the
woman's actions and listen to her words to detect
if your confidence is "showing" or "hitting." The
surgeon gave me two of the greatest compliments I
ever received, which confirmed that I was "doing
things right." Both were out of the blue. One:
"I can't figure you out." Two: "I never know
what you are going to do next."
Suggestions:
1. Criteria. Before arranging a blind date, be
sure to the extent possible that you ensure the
woman meets your "criteria." DO NOT BE SHY ABOUT
THIS. For example, a friend of mine (I will call
her "A"), working through a friend of hers ("B"),
set me up with a blind date I will call "Carol". I
drove about 30 minutes to meet the woman. When I
saw her, I immediately knew I did not like her
looks. The "clincher" occurred as we approached
the hostess, who asked us where we wanted to sit.
"Carol" immediately said something like, "I have
to sit somewhere I can smoke." At that point, the
date was effectively over because I am vehemently
nonsmoking. It is simply not negotiable with me.
So, we sat at a table to the side of the
restaurant instead of a waterfront table.
LESSON: neither my friend nor I remembered to
check for smoking. And, while I went ahead and had
the dinner, I lost about an hour's driving time
and the time and money for the meal with nothing
in return. The experience was a complete waste
except to re- learn the lesson: ensure the woman
is a nonsmoker.
Another interesting tactic would, after she said
something about smoking, be to say, "I'm sorry. I
did not realize you were a smoker. You know,
really, since I do not smoke the evening will be a
waste of your time and mine, so let's call it
quits." And then I should have then simply left.
The problem is that this action would have gotten
me in trouble with my good friend "A."
2. Eject after her infidelity. After you have
been dating a woman and the two of you have been
exclusive, at the first sign of her infidelity,
PUSH EJECT AND DUMP HERE. Infidelity is an
irreparable breach of trust and cannot be
repaired. I tried to fix a relationship after such
an incident, and she continued to remain in touch
with her "secondary lover." Despite advice to
dump her and her continuing affection toward me, I
held on for a few more months, which were
miserable, before finally pushing EJECT and
unilaterally dumping her with no warning or
discussion. The lesson is: pay attention to what
women DO, not to what they SAY.
C. J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, thank you for taking the time to
think this through and for clearly communicating
the points you've made. You've brought up some
important ideas, and I'd like to comment on them.
ON THE DR. LAURA STORY AND YOUR QUESTION...
One of the things that Dr. Laura doesn't get in
this particular situation goes a little something
like this:
THE WOMAN IN THE STORY WASN'T USING LOGIC TO
DECIDE WHICH MAN TO FEEL ATTRACTED TO, SO TRYING
TO CONVINCE HER WITH LOGIC IS A WASTE OF TIME.
Now, you made some valid points about the woman
enjoying the "challenge" of the "stray" and/or of
the "unavailable" guy.
This is good stuff, and it's accurate.
But, the REAL key to this situation is that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. Attraction is a
POWERFUL EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response.
And, as you might know, when you're feeling a
powerful emotion, it's difficult, or in many
cases, almost impossible to override that emotion
with LOGIC.
The woman is clearly ATTRACTED to the
"lowlife", but she also knows in her MIND that she
"should" stay with the "stable nice guy".
EMOTION beats LOGIC any day of the week when it
comes to attraction and female behavior.
Being a challenge and being unavailable are
things that TRIGGER the emotion, but once it's
triggered then there's not much that a woman can
do about it.
And as you noticed, not even advice from the
"first lady" of relationship logic can change it.
So to answer your question, the reason why
women "choose" unstable losers over stable guys
like you is...
THEY DON'T CHOOSE AT ALL.
There is no logical "decision" being made. When
it comes to ATTRACTION, "choosing" doesn't even
come into play.
If you want women to feel that powerful emotion
called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to learn
how to communicate and behave in the way that
TRIGGERS ATTRACTION.
Are you with me on this? You can get a lot more
of an "in-depth" understanding of how and why
women become ATTRACTED to men here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication
ON YOUR SUCCESS STORY AND CONFIDENCE...
I think that you're on the right track here.
When she came to you to tell you that her
parents didn't approve of you, and you responded
by saying, "I don't care what your parents think,
I'm not here to please them", you effectively made
yourself MORE powerful in her heart AND mind than
even her parents.
I'm taking a wild guess here, but I'll bet that
when she came to you to tell you this, she was
telling you because she was thinking of breaking
off the relationship and this was her way of
"introducing" the idea.
When you responded by saying, "I don't care
what they think", you probably scrambled her
signal a little. She was probably confused, but
MORE IMPORTANTLY, she was probably EMOTIONALLY
ATTRACTED to you at the same time.
This combination of confusion, emotional
attraction, and you asserting yourself as more
powerful than her parents because you didn't care,
is almost unstoppable.
As you say - "Every dating advisor stresses
male confidence". The more I've thought about
this, the more I realize that the FOUNDATION for
confidence is LACK OF INSECURITY.
In other words, if you want to be confident,
you have to START by getting over the things that
you're insecure about. Once you do this, you'll
realize that "confidence" isn't really that
important at all.
Women are generally attracted to men who don't
need APPROVAL from anyone. Call it confidence if
you want. But, I think it comes down to becoming
secure in the world and comfortable in your own
skin.
ON YOUR SUGGESTIONS OF CRITERIA AND EJECTING A
WOMAN AFTER INFIDELITY...
It's a GREAT idea to be VERY selective and to
let women know about it, EVEN IF SHE'S YOUR
"TYPE". Women are generally more attracted to men
who are more selective.
Of course, it is important to keep high
standards in life, because they usually lead to
better results in general.
And in response to your recommendation to dump
a woman at the first sign of infidelity...
This is probably a good policy.
But, there's something else that you should
probably take away from this as well.
If a woman isn't loyal, there's a good chance
that either:
1) You did a poor job selecting the type of woman
to have a relationship with in the first place...
...and/or...
2) You stopped doing the things that created the
ATTRACTION in the relationship, and turned into a
WUSSY.
In either case, there's something to learn and
improve in the future inside of YOURSELF.
YOU must learn how to KEEP HER INTEREST over
the long-haul if you want to "cheat-proof" your
relationship.
...and on another note... I really believe that
there's more than meets the eye when it comes to
success with women and dating.
The process that creates the magic emotion of
ATTRACTION is mysterious, seemingly illogical, and
"counter intuitive". If you don't understand it,
then it just won't make sense.
It's taken me literally YEARS to be able to
both attract women AND be able to explain how to
do it.
AN IMPORTANT QUESTION FOR YOU...
It's time for a new start right now.
Can you feel that "new" energy?
The beginning of a new start is an opportunity
to look back on the past year or so and think
about what went right, what didn't go so right...
and what you'd like to do DIFFERENT this time
around.
This might be YOUR time for success with women.
If it is, then you're going to need to make a
commitment to yourself, and then FOLLOW THROUGH on
that commitment.
This part of your life isn't going to "get
itself handled". YOU are going to have to do it.
If you'd like to take advantage of the time,
effort, energy, and money that I've invested
learning how to be successful with women and
dating, then I recommend that you check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.
Instead of going through years of trial and
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silver platter.
It's packed with hundreds of incredible
techniques and concepts for making women feel
ATTRACTION, and it contains over 12 full hours of
digitally recorded material, plus a 100 page
workbook.
You can check it out here... make sure to watch
and listen to the free samples:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then you need to do that
right now. You can download it now and be reading
it in just a few minutes... It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
Go check them out.
And make this year about getting this part of
your life handled. It's worth it.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Before I ever learned how to attract women, I
used to watch how those guys we call "Players"...
would walk into a room, leave with the woman of
their choice... and make it look so damn EASY.
I used to think to myself that it would be SO
fantastic if I could do that.
I figured that these guys must be "good
looking" or charming... or have SOMETHING...
...something I didn't have.
Later, after I learned the SKILL of meeting
women, I realized that the most important thing I
had been missing was knowing HOW to ATTRACT women.
Here's the BOTTOM LINE:
ANYONE can learn to meet women.
But if you don't UNDERSTAND how to create
ATTRACTION, then you will beat your head against
the wall YOUR ENTIRE LIFE and still not have any
success.
The BEST way for YOU to learn how to create
MASSIVE attraction is to read my downloadable
eBook called "Attraction Isn't A Choice".
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
I believe that YOU can learn how to create
powerful ATTRACTION in women... and I believe you
can learn it FAST.
If you want to learn the psychology and
techniques to creating attraction with women, then
go download and read my eBook here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
Download it now.
Talk soon,
David D.
In a minute, I'm going to share with you
several word-for-word "lines" you can use to meet
a woman anytime, anywhere.
But first, a question:
Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet,
but you didn't know what to say?
So you froze...
... and you missed your chance to meet her?
Every guy has been through this - myself
included.
The mistake most guys make is thinking they
have to make up something to say on the spot -
something spontaneous.
This couldn't be FURTHER from the truth.
If you prepare ahead of time, you will ALWAYS
have something to say - and you'll never miss
another chance to meet a great girl.
In fact, a new friend of mine has taken this
idea to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.
He shared with me what he calls "Back Pocket
Openers."
These are easy ways to start a conversation
with a woman that you can use ANYWHERE.
They're casual, fun, and flirtatious.
You don't HAVE to use them - if you want to
make up something on the fly, go for it - but
anytime you don't know how to start a conversation
with a cute girl, they can make ALL THE
DIFFERENCE.
You'll never again have the excuse "Well, I
would have approached her, but I didn't know what
to say..."
One of the Back Pocket Openers he shared is
where you use your LOCATION as a point of
conversation.
Let's say you're at a grocery store and you see
a woman you want to meet...
You say something like:
"Ok, excuse me, you're way too cute for the
grocery store... you can't go out looking like
this... it's too distracting... it's just wrong,
I'm sorry..."
(Of course, you deliver this in the Cocky &
Funny way that I talk about here in my newsletter
and in my eBooks and other products.)
You can use this same opener WHERVER you are...
"... you're just too cute for the bookstore..."
"... you're just too cute for this airport..."
"... you're just too cute for the sidewalk..."
When you use this approach, you communicate
that you notice her looks - but in a way that is
charming, playful, and classy.
You can also tweak this approach and say
something like:
"You know, I hate to be guy that hits on you at
the grocery store... but, yeah... I'm that guy..."
The fact is, my friend shared a lot MORE than
just this one approach.
In fact, he shared tips on how to touch women,
where to go on dates, how to use your body
language to attract women, and a whole lot more.
He's one of the senior instructors for PickUp
101, a company that takes guys out in the field
and literally TRAINS them to be pick-up machines.
He's been featured on USA Today, CNBC, and has
taught guys all over the world how to be more
successful with women.
(He's taught quite a few celebrities as well,
but I can't reveal exactly WHO...)
His name is Daniel Johnson... and if you want
specific techniques you can use to connect with a
woman wherever you find her, and give her those
feelings that make her ATTRACTED to you from the
very start... then you don't want to miss this
killer one-on-one interview I just recorded with
him.
Here are just a few of the secrets he shared:
- How to use "role playing" to amp up the
attraction FAST - even with a woman you just met
- How to use body language to flirt and interact
with a woman in just the right way... so she wants
to get to know you better
- Exactly what to say... word-for-word... if you
hit an "awkward pause" with a woman and you don't
know the next thing you should say (once you learn
this simple technique, you'll never have to worry
about what you're going to say again)
- How to make fun of yourself in a way that makes
a woman more attracted to you - not LESS
- How to use physical touch so that no matter
what other guy comes up and flirts with the woman
you're with, she'll go home with YOU
- The 3 E's of touching a woman you just met
(learn these and you'll take things to a physical
level without rejection)
- How to use eye contact to make a woman
interested in you - without saying a single word
- A simple exercise you can do in the mirror at
home, anytime, to train yourself to give a woman
the feeling of "connection" with you
- How to use your nervousness to build your
energy when you approach a woman - and why it's a
mistake to try to hide your fear
- How to respond when a woman asks you a boring
question - like what you do for work - in a way
that takes the conversation in an interesting
direction (even if you DONT have an interesting
job... or a job you even like)
- A special technique to use when you're
approaching a particularly special and attractive
woman (hint: it's called "The Movie Moment"... and
she'll feel like you came straight out of a movie
into her life... this one is PURE GOLD)
- and much more
I'm going to release this interview as this
month's edition of my "Interviews With Dating
Gurus" Monthly CD Audio Program.
If you're already subscribed, sit tight. You'll
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The secrets you will learn in this interview
are PRICELESS.
The tactics my friend shared are easy to use,
and get results nearly EVERY TIME.
If you follow his steps, you will not only
learn how to approach women better - but you will
improve EVERY aspect of your interactions with
women.
You'd be crazy not to see for yourself how easy
his tips are to use.
Here's the thing:
This interview is going to press this Friday
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you get your hands on it.
You can sign up here:
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Oh... and when you do, I'm also going to send
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This bonus interview is one of the best I've
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I don't think so. When you see just how good
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Have you ever wondered why some guys can walk
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I KNOW that you know what I'm talking about.
We all know guys who have the "talent" of
striking up conversations with women...
conversations that women actually ENJOY.
And even though they were just AVERAGE-looking
guys, women always found them SEXY... and wanted
to get to know them better.
Well, I honestly believe that I've unlocked the
SECRET KEYS that these guys use, and I share them
in my program "Approaching Women."
They will give you the confidence to walk right
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you've NEVER done it before.
Here are just a few of the specifics you'll
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- The one word to say at the very beginning of
your approach that DOUBLES your chances of being
successful
- How to INSTANTLY stand out from every other man
that has ever approached her - so a woman knows you
are an opportunity she shouldn't DARE pass up
- The 10 things that PREVENT you from approaching
women - broken down and explained (I had to deal
with each one of these 10 things personally - if
you're having problems starting conversations with
women I GUARANTEE one of them is on this list -
AND that I can show you a quick and easy way to
ELIMINATE IT.)
- A surefire way to completely eliminate that
sinking feeling you get when you see a woman you
want to approach (Use this one "in the field" to
get yourself back on track FAST.)
- A lesson from early humanity that will help you
completely destroy your fears of approaching women
FOR GOOD
- The real "genetic" reasons we are afraid of
approaching women (When you know what they are, it
is almost too easy to dispel these fears FOR
GOOD.)
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and turn yourself into a "machine" that approaches
any woman - anytime- in ANY situation - without
even thinking about it
- and much more...
I suggest you try my Approaching Women program
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If you go to the link below and "opt in" to my
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-- A new interview mailed to you once a month each
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I'll talk to you soon.
David D.
***Dating QUESTION From A Reader***
{NOTE: This is a short question, and it refers
to another newsletter I sent out in the past. If
you don't immediately get it, just read my answer
and all will become clear.}
"The Guy in the bar Story...
Why should he have left the bar as soon as he got
the waitress' phone number?
This is "Ultra Extra Important" you said. I think
I know why he should have left, he was probably
staring at her all night and she was turned off by
it, but give me your complete insight on why he
should have left immediately after getting her
e-mail.
Thanks, R."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As I said in the newsletter you quoted above,
this concept is VERY important.
Understanding why you need to leave at this
point is part of understanding the dynamic called
ATTRACTION.
So before I get into the specifics, let's talk
about the underlying process that creates
ATTRACTION...
1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional
reaction.
ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our
minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we
mate with someone with the best possible genes.
I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical"
and lame, but it's the damn truth.
Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or
love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time,
and it has a purpose that is very important.
2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it
isn't created by things that "should" create it.
Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of
compliments when you first meet a woman, and
kissing up to women to get their approval are
examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create
attraction... but don't.
When you understand how attraction works, you
begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own.
Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...
and I think you should understand it if you want
to be successful with women. My second book is
called "Attraction Isn't A Choice", and you can
go and download the online version of it right
now... which I highly recommend... right here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like
needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of
compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to
go out of their way to be overly "nice", it
usually backfires.
Women run from Wussy men (either that or they
go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually
pays).
4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally
programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of
behavior when they encounter a woman who they're
attracted to.
When you combine this Default Wuss mode with
nervous body language, you create an almost-
impossible barrier between you and ever creating
ATTRACTION.
5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can
ruin an interaction with a woman.
You must know when to leave, hang up, or end
the interaction.
Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.
YOU EITHER INCREASE OR DECREASE ATTRACTION -
IT'S ALWAYS EITHER GOING UP OR DOWN...
Of course, there are more ingredients to
ATTRACTION, but these will set the stage for where
I'm going with this...
In every situation, you can do something to
INCREASE the ATTRACTION... and you can do
something to DECREASE it. In other words, there's
always a way to dial up this magical emotion.
And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even
when you've just met. In fact, this is often the
best time to do it.
Let me ask you a question...
What would most guys do in the situation with
the waitress (or maybe a bartender)?
Imagine it.
You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute
gal serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being
Cocky and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's
enjoying your company. You say "Hey, do you have
email?" and she writes it down for you...
WHAT DO YOU DO?
You could...
a) Sit there and keep talking.
b) Stay and talk to her a few more times.
c) Wait around hoping that you can go home
with her.
d) Leave.
So let's do a little critical thinking about
this situation before I comment (or maybe this
will be the comment, we'll see).
If you:
(a) sit there and keep talking, what's likely to
happen?
In my experience, unless you're the ultimate
Mac Daddy of all time, the only place to go is
DOWN.
Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more
difficult.
And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.
All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.
Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.
If you:
(b) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends who
show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?
Again, we're dealing with a situation that
almost can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already
gave you the info. Now she might start thinking
"Oh, this is just another loser who hangs out all
night and gets drunk with his buddies... like the
other 47 guys who hit on me."
Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.
All downside risk, no upside rewards.
If you:
(c) wait around hoping that you can go home with
her, I think you're REALLY taking your chances in
the situation.
Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up
artist of all time, you're not likely to be taking
home the bartender by sitting in front of her and
drinking all night... for the same reasons listed
above.
But what if:
(d) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting her info?
What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an
interaction like this one?
Well, let me ask you: What effect does
disappearing have IN GENERAL on people?
It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes
the other person think "I wonder where he/she had
to go so fast?"
You can also combine this with having something
very INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might
say:
"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up
with some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."
This technique of leaving the moment I've
gotten a woman's information has worked WONDERS
for me... and for many guys I know.
The long and the short of it is that if you
stick around after you get the info, you create no
tension, no mystery, and no curiosity.
On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY,
and have something interesting (even if you don't
say what it is) to go do, then you're seen as
busy... the kind of guy who has a life... someone
who is in demand.
Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates
curiosity.
Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging,
and generally NOT having other things to do.
It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you
from other guys, and something that will
demonstrate all the right qualities with a single
move.
Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or
DECREASE the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I
recommend that you start thinking of how to
increase it as much as you possibly can, because
if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then almost nothing
else matters.
Let's shift gears.
When it comes to CREATING ATTRACTION, you can
take it to the next level... and the next... all
the way to the point of "getting physical" with a
woman...
...I've gone from not being able to even TALK
to a woman I don't know... to being able to
approach any woman in any situation and have a
VERY HIGH chance of getting a date with her... and
of course more, if I want.
If you're reading this right now, and saying to
yourself "I would really like to know how he does
that", then I'd like to share the secrets with
you.
And I'd like to do it at absolutely ZERO RISK
to you.
I want you to get a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD Program... and I'll send it to
you without charging you up front.
Really.
Go through the WHOLE PROGRAM.
TRY some of the things you learn.
I absolutely guarantee that you will start to
see IMMEDIATE results. Women will respond to you
differently, because you will see things from a
new perspective.
If you don't get immediate results, just send
it back and you won't be charged.
Go check out some great video samples here:
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...and if you would like to learn the basics of
how to be successful with women and dating, you
need to go download a copy of my online eBook
"Double Your Dating." It and the three bonus
booklets that come along with it are a killer
introduction to my concepts and techniques. You
can download it and be reading it within a few
minutes. It's here:
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
