Using Sexual "Chemistry" To Attract Women

When I first made the decision to learn how to
become more successful with women and dating, one
of the first things I did was meet and learn from
guys who were ALREADY masters in this area.

I watched with my own two eyes as these guys
approached women, started conversations, and
created "chemistry"... right in front of me.

I would ask these guys questions about how they
did it... and they'd answer with all kinds of
different answers.

The truth is that most guys who know how to
attract women will think you're a little WEIRD if
you ask them how they do it.

To a "natural", it's OBVIOUS how to attract
women. If you ask a NATURAL how to meet women,
he'll say "just go over and start talking to her."
As if it's that easy...

As you can imagine, this created a little bit
of a problem for me.

I could SEE that these guys were able to
attract women... and I could literally watch it
happen over and over. But when it came to
EXPLAINING what they were doing, most of these
guys just didn't know how.

Well, the more I watched, and the more I
asked... and the more I TESTED what I was learning
from these guys, the more I began to realize that
the reason they couldn't exactly explain what they
were doing is because what they were doing was
mostly NON-VERBAL.

It was a combination of several different types
of "signals" they were sending to women... that
these guys just "understood."

After a lot of study, testing, and trial-and-
error, the picture began to come together for
me...

What these "naturals" were doing was speaking a
DIFFERENT language with women. It was a language
that no one had ever actually described or
explained to me...

The most interesting part?

As I started to do research on the topic, I
found that even though this stuff was right out
"in plain sight", no one had ever really noticed
or DESCRIBED it.

To make a long story short, I took this new
"secret" information that I discovered, and put
together an entire program to teach it to other
guys...

As far as I know, this is the only program of
its kind ever created. In fact, I get emails all
the time from guys who say that just one time
through this program instantly changed their views
on women and attraction... and allowed them to
spark attraction and build "chemistry" or "sexual
tension" with women in every type of situation...
again, IMMEDIATELY.

I call this little-known language "Sexual
Communication." I feel that it's one of the most
important keys to success with women. In fact, I
think that much of my success with women and
dating is the direct result of learning and
understanding this ONE concept.

As you know, I've released the 2nd Edition of
this program... with a DVD video version as well.

Inside this program, I will teach you about a
concept that took me a tremendous amount of time
and effort to learn... and I'll give you an
advanced education on the topic over the course of
hours.

Just like all of my programs, this one comes
with a "try before you buy" zero-risk proposition.
I'll send it to you to check out for 30 days at MY
risk. If you like it, keep it, and I'll just bill
you after.

Do this. Go and watch some of the sample video
clips, and read all the details here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/SexualCommunication

Go watch the video clips. This is important.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To Make A Woman Laugh

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave! I used your email close twice now and it
worked like magic both times: once with a
statuesque black woman, the other with a cute
Asian. Yeah!

One was in a bookstore, the other in a cafe: I
chatted for five minutes, started leaving, then
asked for email.

But what do I at a party where I'm likely to stay
for at least an hour? Pretend to leave, get email,
then stay!? What's the strategy here?

C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Isn't it amazing how easy it is to get an email
address from a woman you've just met? I didn't
believe it myself at first...

Well, it sounds like you have quite the diverse
taste in women... glad to hear that my techniques
cross all racial and cultural boundaries.

If you're at a party, the strategy is:

"Well, it was nice talking to you... I'm going
to get back to my friends... {turn away}... Hey,
do you have email?"

Then get her email and go back to your friends.
If she starts up a conversation again with you,
you now have all kinds of options.

Think about it.

And, if you or she leaves early, you can still
contact her later. Nice.


***QUESTION***

Hi,

I bought your book and its been money well spent
as far as I'm concerned. The email/phone approach
works like magic; I have never, ever gotten a
phone number in a bar before, and now I can! Also
the "are you touching me" line you mention in your
book is a real winner. And all the general advice
about body language, attitude, its all working.

So now I'm wondering if you can provide some
advanced know-how. The sort of girls I like are
the blonde, high-maintenance "Los Angeles" looking
babes, and they seem to be the hardest for me to
succeed with. Any suggestions on what I should be
doing to attract them? What look I need to have,
methods of approach, things to say, whatever...

(To explain where I'm coming from, I'm tall
(6'2"), thin but cut, average looking, run my own
business and make good money. I try to be both
funny and arrogant but am usually more funny than
arrogant. My style is goatee, black turtleneck,
khakis, black loafers.)

Thanks in advance for any extra tips you can
provide!

A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Lease a Mercedes 500SL, get a big gold chain,
pretend to be a big-time producer, and make
references to your "connections".

The problem with the type of woman that you're
describing is that WOMEN DON'T ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE
THIS IN REAL LIFE. EVERY ONE OF THESE WOMEN IS
TRYING TO COMPENSATE FOR SOMETHING! And it's
usually something like, oh, self esteem,
insecurity, lack of attention from a father
figure, a neurotic need for approval... you get
the picture.

If you want a fake woman, then be a fake man.

Your other option, of course, is to TURN UP THE
MAGIC COCKY + FUNNY FORMULA TO THE MAX. You're
going to have to see her fake beauty and raise her
an arrogant attitude unseen since Ali.

Try it. If it isn't working, turn it up. You're
probably asking for trouble, but since you
asked...


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Great book! It certainly makes much more sense to
bypass those "dating rules" that women seem always
play and make your own rules instead.

I do need your opinion here: I'm successful,
intelligent, cocky/funny (bordering on
a**hole/arrogant at times), not bad looking, and
in good shape. However, I'm Asian/American and
shorter than the average white male. On the
internet, I've had many comments how great I seem
until they learn that I'm Asian-- then I don't
hear from them again. In person, it's a slightly
different story because I can use funny/cocky,
which gives me better responses.

I know that Asian American males have always had
huge gripes about white women and even women of
their own race who will NOT date them because of
the stereotypical (nerdy, needy, backwards, or
arrogant, bad to women, philanderers... list goes
on) AA males that are always portrayed on TV and
movies. And also, you just hardly ever see AA
males with white women (especially in the white
suburbia where I happen to live).

Do you have any special advice here? Any
personality traits we should emphasize? Have you
seen AA males be successful using these techniques
and what have you observed?

Thanks,

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have an Asian friend who's probably about 5'
5" tall, and he's ALWAYS surrounded by young
women. And I mean surrounded. Like 5 or 6 at a
time. There are biases everywhere, in all
cultures... if you buy into them, then they apply
to you. If you don't, then they don't.

Whose reality do you live in anyway? Yours? Or
hers?


***QUESTION***

Hi, this maybe a dumb question but what does
"cocky" mean and can you provide me some examples.

Thanks,

R.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The formula is:

COCKY+FUNNY

Cocky alone is not attractive. Arrogance repels
people like bad breath. But a FUNNY arrogance...
Ahhh, that's the stuff that miracles are made of.

The cocky man says, "You are acting like a
little girl, and it's annoying me."

The cocky+FUNNY man says, "If you keep acting
like a brat I'm going to spank you like a red-
headed-step-child." (The usual response is
"Ooohhh, be careful, I might like that.)

No, really.

A cocky+funny man is always on the lookout for
an opportunity to show off his arrogant humor.

She gives a compliment on the clothing...
Cocky+Funny Man says:

"I just met you and you're already starting
with the compliments. Look, I'm not going home
with you. I'm not that easy."

I've just placed a pearl of wisdom before you.
If I were you, I'd pick it up, look at it from
many angles, and improvise variations. This is
magic waiting to happen.


**QUESTION***

"HEY DAVE! I have a teensy weensy little questions
for you, but first I'd like to say that your book
kicks serious butt!! I have had more luck with
women since I got it... Not that I really needed
it or anything, (cough cough) ahem! Anyways, now
to my question.

1)I know how to be cocky, I know how to be funny,
I treat women the special attractive way they
should be treated... but I have no clue whatsoever
as to what signs a woman will give off when she is
feeling attracted, I keep doing silly, stupid
things like um... backing off afterward 'cause I'm
not sure what her reaction meant, which I am
positive is a problem.

So if you could help me here I would be most
obliged

J."

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The main sign that a woman gives off is VERY
simple to spot:

SHE KEEPS TALKING TO YOU.

You can stop clapping. I know it was profound.

But really, if a woman isn't interested, she
won't keep talking to you. She'll start looking
around, acting bored out of her skull, or moving
around in an uncomfortable manner.

The first minute or two is often like this
anyway as two people begin a conversation... but
if it continues past about 3-5 minutes, you need
to move on and try to be a little less boring with
the next girl!

I knew you would find my answer profound... but
if you're still waiting for her to tilt her head,
lick her lips, and twirl her hair then you need to
stop reading books published by guys that have
nothing better to do than spend 25 years watching
people in bars and writing down what they do.

It's simple:

1) Meet girl

2) Get email and number

3) Invite for tea and stimulating conversation

4) Meet and tease, be cocky & funny

5) If she's not psycho, invite her over

6) Use The Kiss Test

7) Don't screw it up!

I may have oversimplified a bit here, but I
think you get the idea. Don't worry about what
she's thinking... just do what you know is
ATTRACTIVE, and then lead. Things will work
themselves out if you keep doing the right things.


***SUCCESS STORY/QUESTION***

David,

Been reading your newsletter, and bought your
book. I've read it once and will read it again for
better comprehension.

Success Story:

In the meantime, I've been putting into practice
what you teach. I wanted to share this success
story with your readers, as an example of how well
this stuff can work.

At a bar with a bunch of friends for a stag party.
Took the stag-boy around the bar to get his t-
shirt signed by all the women (this is a great way
to meet and talk with every woman in the bar).
Anyway, later I saw a blonde that I had talked to
earlier. She was talking with 3 guys. I went
over and tapped her on the shoulder and said "Hey
can I talk with you a minute?" and walked away
about 10 feet.

She came over, I used your email/phone # material,
and gave her pen and paper to write it down. You
should have seen the looks on the faces of the
three guys who were just talking to her. It was
worth it just for that.

I got 4 numbers that night and have been out with
2 of those women.

Question:

Like many other guys who write you, I've been
trying to develop the cocky-funny attitude. I've
watched most of the comedians and movies you
suggested in your book. I'm working hard on this
but it's just moving along slowly.

Now that getting emails/numbers isn't a problem,
and even getting dates (although I know I could do
better if I was more cocky-funny) is now more
possible, I now have run into a whole new problem:
how to create tension/tease/act cocky-funny on the
first date so that SHE calls ME for the second
date (hopefully cooking a meal at her place).

Anything you suggest for us guys at this stage of
our learning that isn't already in your book would
be most helpful.

Thanks,

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're doin' great... and you'll figure it out
as you go.

One of the best things you can do is to take
out a pen and paper, and write down the ten most
common situations that you find yourself in, then
write down some cocky, funny lines to use.

For instance, you might write:

End Of Date

1) Say to her, "Now don't call me three times a
day... I had fun too, but no stalking"

2) Kiss her and say, "Call me"

3) Tell her, "I'm busy tomorrow, but if you tempt
me with a good enough offer, I might make time for
you the next night..."

Are you feelin' me?

Just work out the different situations on paper
first, then do them in real life. You're on the
right track.

If you REALLY want to learn how to master the
art of taking things from one step to the next
with a woman in a SMOOTH way... you should also
check this out:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/SexualCommunication


***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

You've guessed it - the magic formula is working.
I went for 10 years with only 3 women, and in the
last 3 months, since I read the book, I've slept
with 3 more. The C&F theory is 100%. I picked up
one girl at supermarket, got her email, sent her
an email, got a date, left early ("got to go - too
busy, sorry...", waited 10 days, got another date,
asked her if she'd like to see me again, told her
"I think you should, because I'm almost perfect"
(she laughed), kissed her and you can guess the
rest...This stuff is dynamite. I'm a good looking,
successful 36 year old (separated), but I act an
idiot in front of women - or used to. Now I feel
*totally* in control, and am enjoying playing with
your ideas. Spot on!

D.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Isn't it amazing what a little attitude
adjustment can do? I appreciate your email because
a lot of guys don't realize that JUST BEING GOOD
LOOKING doesn't do it. In fact, I know more
average looking guys who are successful with women
that "good looking" guys who are. Funny, isn't it?

Actually, it's COCKY and funny. Ba-Dum-Bum.


***QUESTION***

Dear David,

I met this girl on the internet and we have been
out twice. On the computer and on the phone she's
all sweet and inviting but in person she is
entirely different. On our second date she told me
that she didn't feel "connected" with me.
Meanwhile I have been nothing but a gentleman to
this woman. Help, what did I do wrong.

Sincerely,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have two ideas for you:

1) Stay tuned and read every email that you get
from me.

2) http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

And listen to the little audio clip at the end
of the second page. You need to learn that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. And it isn't logical.

Again, stay tuned.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I spend a lot of time in the library these days
studying for an exam - Psychology of all things-
but it hasn't helped because oftentimes I see an
attractive girl at the next table or perhaps a
cute girl walks past - never to be seen again. My
problem is that I'm totally at a loss as to what
to say and how to arrange it so we meet in what
seems like a natural and unsuspicious way. I can't
just go up to a study-table and suddenly introduce
myself and I'm certainly not going to follow
anyone around. Any suggestions?

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Like I say in my book "Double Your Dating"...
women KNOW what you're doing when you approach
them. Heck, even if you're just being nice and
friendly they'll SUSPECT that you're picking up on
them.

So, get over this "unsuspicious way" idea.

What... do you want to start talking about math
or anthropology, then slide in under her radar
with your smooth Mac Daddy techniques... and have
her wake up enamored with you?

Well, now that I put it this way...

Just sit close and start up a conversation. Ask
them what they're studying. Say anything. Then be
cocky & funny. Say you have to go, that it's been
nice chatting... and "Hey, do you have email?"

Quit trying to be the "Secret Agent Mac" of the
campus. And besides, women think that men who are
self conscious approaching them are WUSSIES.

And, in case you didn't know this, WUSSIES
DON'T GET WOMEN ALL HOT AND BOTHERED.

Revenge Of The Nerds will NEVER happen to you.
***QUESTION***

David,

First of all, I've got to say that your advice is
brilliant! There's a lot of con-men out there
selling silver bullets for guys women problems,
but you're writing makes you figure out what works
best for you. Since I've started following the
Cocky-Funny approach, I've noticed better results
with women in general.

Recently, I was out with a group of friends for
someone's birthday. I met this great chick who we
both have mutual friends with. Well needless to
say we both were attracted to one another and were
dancing in the club later with each other. One of
my friends was talking to her and then afterwards
she went a bit cold on me. He told me later that
she said she liked me but had just started going
out with another guy for 2 weeks.

Now I'm not one to try and steal another guys
girl, but I felt that the two of us really
connected and would like to see this girl. I
haven't got her number, but my friend has a good
excuse to ring her and I know I will be seeing her
again in a couple of weeks through friends. Well
my question David is this. You're tips helped make
her attracted to me, but what can I do if she's
still unsure about what to do with her current
relationship?

I'd really appreciate your advice!

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you haven't read my book, then you
need to get it ASAP and learn how to use the
"friendship" approach with women.

I think that most guys are just too damn
anxious to get their willies wet sometimes.
Instead of trying to convince her to leave some
guy she's been dating for two weeks based on a few
dances, instead say:

"It was nice meeting you, you seem like you
might make a nice FRIEND. Maybe we can have coffee
sometime."

Get it?

I've learned the hard way that it's much better
to get to know a woman as a friend FIRST anyway.
It puts you in the right frame of mind, and you
get to learn a few things about her before you
apply all of your serious advanced smooth-mac
tactics (and very well may just save you from a
neurotic experience of the unwanted kind).

When you say "friends" first, it says all the
right things. Think about it.


***EMAIL OF THE WEEK***

I have a question about fat womens. if a women sit
in the house all day worry about things and
trying to destroy my career of making music and
looking for some attention and money should i get
rid of the fat pig or stay with her till things
blow and hit her like a punching bag to settle her
emotions down? she not my girlfriend she just a
sick women who was cool with me since my youth but
she hates everything I'm into. well I'm ready to
treat her like dirt as far the game go she play to
talk trash about my talent and putting her nose in
my business.what should I do punch her like a pimp
or kick the fat bic.. to the curb.(we ain,t got
anything in command)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have to warn you beforehand, I'm not a
qualified relationship expert or licensed
practitioner, but I may be able to offer you some
insight.

It sounds to me like your relationship could
possibly have eroded beyond repair. Again, I'm not
a qualified expert, but this is just my personal
intuition.

In addition, I realize that on occasion a woman
can behave in a way that is unsettling, but
violence is never an acceptable way to settle a
dispute of this nature.

In other words I just don't think that if you
"punch her like a pimp" that it's going to solve
anything.

Good luck with your "...career of making music
and looking for some attention and money..."

*** I know, it just isn't possible that someone
could have sent me this letter... but sometimes
life is just this way. I cut and pasted it exactly
as it was sent to me... with no edits. Unreal.***


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I wrote you last week saying that I really
like this girl and wanted to "push her over the
edge" and get her to see me more. Well, I took
your advice and waited for her to call me. Well,
she did, and everything that you said would happen
did. She told me that she is used to guys calling
her all of the time and bugging her and that I am
the first guy she's gone out with that didn't try
to call her and ask her out every day. Needless
to say she asked ME if she could see ME more. It
worked like a charm and she spent the night last
night (it was worth the wait). Just wanted to say
thanks for the help and that you are cool as hell
for helping guys to quit acting like "wusses".
Thanks buddy.

-D

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What else can I say? NICE!

I should invent a cream called "WUSS-BE-
GONE"... or maybe "WUSS-AWAY"... you could rub it
on yourself and it would overcome the urge to call
women and beg for their attention. I could sell it
for $100.00 a tube. Hmmmmm... I'll have to see if
I can scare up some venture capital for this one.
I'll keep you posted.

...and that about wraps up another one.

I'm still trying to recover from the comedy
above... I really hate my job.

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And again: if you're interested in learning
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women, then you MUST go check out my Cocky Comedy
CD/DVD Program. You can watch some good preview
video clips here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/CockyComedy

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

The Only 3 Ways To Attract A Woman

Have you ever wondered why women you see out at
bars and nightclubs (and even at malls and
restaurants) sometimes dress so SEXY?

It's an interesting question.

I mean, let's think about it from the woman's
perspective...

An attractive woman gets attention from men all
the time... no matter WHAT she's wearing.

Attractive women don't have to "accent" their
beauty in order to attract men.

And the question becomes VERY interesting when
you consider that often it's the most BEAUTIFUL
women that go to the GREATEST lengths to enhance
their beauty.

You know what I mean...

A perfectly beautiful woman gets an expensive
operation to make herself "one cup size" larger...

A tall, stunning model spends all day at the
mall shopping for just the right high-heeled
shoes...

A naturally beautiful woman spends hours in
front of the mirror getting ready to go out... and
puts on tons of makeup...

AND FOR WHAT?

Could it possibly be worth all the extra time
and effort... spending HOURS and HOURS to get that
"extra little bit" of beauty, when a woman already
has "more than enough"?

Hey, no one ever said women made SENSE.

(Don't get too excited. Men have their strange
points as well.)

Let me tell you about a few of the reasons why
women go to these lengths to squeeze that "extra
little bit" out of their beauty...


1. To Maximize Her Strengths In Order To Attract
The Best Man

Let's turn this picture around, and look at it
from another direction.

Let's imagine that an attractive woman is
getting ready to go to a party.

There are going to be a hundred men and a
hundred women at this party (I know, I know... you
think that I must be smoking something... because
most parties have 100 men and 10 women... and
resemble the sausage counter at your local
market... but humor me here for a second).

If there are going to be a hundred men at this
party, it follows that a few of those men are
going to be the "best" ones.

Do you think this particular woman is going to
want to settle for one of the "random sausages"
running around?

Nope.

She wants the "best" one... if possible.

And that guy has OPTIONS.

Soooo... she needs to "fix herself up", EVEN
THOUGH SHE'S ALREADY BEAUTIFUL... if she wants to
have the BEST chance of getting THAT guy.


2. Competition From Other Women

This particular idea was one of the most
interesting and surprising things I learned about
women while I was educating myself about dating
and attraction.

Here's the deal:

Attractive women tend to be VERY, VERY
competitive.

A few years ago, when I first moved to Los
Angeles, I was introduced to a concept called "The
Bitch Look".

Sounds charming, doesn't it?

Here's how it works...

When a "hot" woman walks into a room, EVERYONE
checks her out.

The "sausage" looks her up and down with a "let
me get a really good look because I'll be using
her as a spank-it fantasy later" stare.

The "top guys", who have options, glance at her
and make a "mental note" to talk to her later.

The OTHER hot women look at her and give her...
yep, you guessed it.... THE BITCH LOOK.

Why?

Because another hot woman is instantly seen as
COMPETITION.

A hot woman doesn't want OTHER hot women
competing with her for the "best guys".

So they give other women "bitch looks".

It's competition, intimidation, and millions of
years of evolution all rolled up into one special
package.

(Think about this for a minute, because there's
a clue here about how to attract the MOST
attractive women. I'll reveal the secret later...)

So let's just say that attractive women DON'T
LIKE COMPETITION.

In order to MINIMIZE their competition, they
FIX THEMSELVES UP... and emphasize their good
points TO THE MAX.

When an already-beautiful woman goes to the
trouble to pick out just the right clothes... the
ones that flatter her figure... and put on just
the right makeup... in a way that draws attention
to her finer points... and styles her hair... in a
way that draws attention to her and frames her
face...

...it puts her ABOVE the competition


3. To Get The Most Attention And Approval

Now that we've talked about a couple of the
underlying reasons why women go to great lengths
to make themselves more beautiful, I want to talk
about the one reason that has the most VALUE to
you...

This reason holds the secret of actually
ATTRACTING beautiful women.

But let's not get ahead of ourselves just
yet...

At the very CORE of human psychology and
behavior are the twin concepts of ATTENTION and
APPROVAL.

Some evolutionary theorists think that the
basic formula goes like this:

If you get more attention from others, and
those others like you more, then you and your
offspring are more likely to survive and pass on
your genes to future generations.

Is this making sense?

Think about it this way:

If others of your species DON'T like you and
don't give you any attention, you are going to
have a hard time finding a mate... and
reproducing.

And if others don't like you, then you aren't
going to have the benefits that come from the
group... like protection, combined effort, etc.

It just so happens that an attractive woman has
a SUBCONSCIOUS (but VERY accurate) indicator of
whether or not "the group" likes and approves of
her...

It's the amount of ATTENTION she gets.

If a woman is getting a lot of attention, it
keeps her feeling "OK". She knows, on a deep,
primal level that she's accepted by the group...
and that she's going to stay healthy and have a
good chance of mating with a "top male".

But this particular concept has a DARK SIDE to
it... and don't they all?

Just like anything else that triggers
feelings/emotions (very addictive chemicals),
attention and approval can lead to a literal
ADDICTION.

It's like money, fame, power... all the famous
ones... YOU CAN'T GET ENOUGH.

And here's another VERY interesting point:

If you're a beautiful woman who is always
getting attention and approval from men and you
meet a man who DOESN'T give you that attention and
approval, it has an INSTANT and POWERFUL impact.

Furthermore, if the man you're interacting with
actively AVOIDS giving you attention... and gives
you DISAPPROVAL, it can have the effect of
instantly SCRAMBLING YOUR SYSTEMS.

Again, attractive women don't meet a lot of
guys that could care less about her beauty... and
instead see it as a "cover up" for some "hidden"
thing...

Which leads me to the "secret" I mentioned
earlier...

If you want to learn how to ATTRACT these
"unusually beautiful" women, then you need to get
a clue about what creates the idea in her mind
that YOU are one of the most "desirable" men.

And how can you do that?

...Oh, by the way, before I give you the secret
here, I want to mention something: If you want to
REALLY get an "insider education" on the deeper
psychology of attracting women... and on how to
build a powerful SEXUAL PRESENCE... then I highly
recommend that you check out my "Power Sexuality"
program. This is like ROCKET FUEL for creating
CHEMISTRY with attractive women... and you can
only get it in one place:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/PowerSexuality

OK, back to the secret...

1) Become rich and famous

or

2) Get plastic surgery to look like Brad Pitt

or

3) Trigger ATTRACTION inside of her.

Here's the interesting thing about triggering
ATTRACTION:

When you do it, she can't CONTROL it.

If a woman starts feeling ATTRACTION for you,
I'll guarantee you that she didn't "THINK about it
and DECIDE to feel it".

And I guarantee you that she can't CHANGE IT by
THINKING ABOUT IT.

And guess what one of the BEST ways is to
TRIGGER this "automatic and subconscious" physical
and emotional response called attraction IS?

Here's a hint:

It has something to do with these two concepts
we've been talking about... ATTENTION and
APPROVAL.

If you're interacting with an unusually
attractive woman, it's VERY important that you
don't communicate to her that you are "overwhelmed
by her beauty"... or that you can't control
yourself.

Furthermore, if you actively control the amount
of attention that you give her... and you don't
show her "approval" too quickly (and even show her
some DISAPPROVAL)... you'll often create a
POWERFUL interest inside of her.

Why is this?

Well, think about it for a minute.

You're the hot woman walking into the "sausage
party".

For the first two hours, you keep having guys
walk up to you and say, "You're really hot" and
"Can I get you a drink?"

Every guy that comes within ten feet of you
can't stop looking at you, and the ones that talk
to you make it clear that they would be willing to
do anything for you...

And then you meet a guy that isn't like any of
these other guys AT ALL.

He's clearly not impressed with your beauty,
and he's even busting your balls...

You can't tell if he likes you or not, and you
feel CHALLENGED by him.

How are you going to respond?

Let's add another element...

For some reason you can't explain, you're
starting to feel a GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for him.

NOW what do you do?

That's right: You give him all of YOUR
attention and approval... hoping that he will give
YOU some in return.

In other words, you switch from the one being
pursued to the one DOING the pursuing.

And so the question is... HOW?

How do you create this situation, and
communicate these things to an attractive woman?

How do you do it in such a way that it creates
ATTRACTION... and gets her to start pursuing YOU?

I've given you a lot of good ideas here.

They will get you started.

But, if you'd REALLY like to learn how to take
control of "attention and approval" and turn them
into TOOLS that you can use to attract those
"unusually beautiful" women, then I'd like to
recommend that you invest in my Cocky Comedy
CD/DVD program.

It has taken me many years of time, effort, and
energy to really "get" how to use a "personality
based approach" to attract beautiful women.

If you've been reading these newsletters for
any length of time, then you understand just how
important the "Cocky & Funny" technique is for
attracting women.

You may have even used it, and found that it
gets a VERY different kind of response from women
than "normal conversation".

Well, in this program, I and some amazing guest
speakers will teach you the foundations of Cocky
Comedy... and then we'll teach you literally
HUNDREDS of different ways to use it... with
individual scripts and lines...

And we'll teach you how to weave it all
together into conversations in ANY situation.

This program is not only comprehensive, but
it's COMPLETELY different from anything else
available anywhere.

It's a concept that I've pioneered, and it's
only available here.

I really encourage you to go here and watch the
video clips of the program (you'll get a lot from
just watching the samples):

http://www.datingtechniques.com/CockyComedy

And if you haven't taken the time to go and
download my online eBook "Double Your Dating",
then you need to do that immediately. You can
download it right now, and be reading it in
literally MINUTES. It will teach you a TON about
how to control yourself and your interactions with
women in a way that triggers ATTRACTION... go
download it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Quick 4-Step System For Getting Her Number

>>>DATING QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hi Dave,

I'm glad you put together this newsletter because
it's so helpful and awesome! But anyways, I have a
couple questions if you could please help me.

Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff
and I LOVE IT...to say the least. I've noticed
though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with
first encounters and pickups seems to be best fit
for the club/bar scene which is great and
everything, but I'm wondering how you go about
doing pickups in regular places, like a
supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance?
What suggestions do you have for meeting women
here and how would you personally approach a women
in these circumstances? I mean, after a
conversation has progressed, I can see how the
cocky and funny will work but I wondering about
the first encounter if you could help please.

Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions
is seeking out other successful guys in your area
and hanging with them and learning from them. My
problem is even though I live in a huge college
campus area with PLENTY of women around and lots
of stuff to do, I can't find any other guys in my
area who I can go out with and kick some a** with.
Most of my family and friends are back home and I
haven't really made any close guy friends that I
can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do
have are just nerds who want to stay home and just
drink only). I mean I can go out by myself but I
like having a wing with me-it's funner that way! I
really agree with you though about the importance
of this and I was wondering if you any suggestions
on how to find other guys who you can go out and
chase tail with? See...why can't you live closer
to me damn it!!

Thanks for everything Dave and I hope you have
more success in the future because you've helped
bring that to a lot of people.

Sincerely, F.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I want to point out that the
ideas in my programs and books are NOT designed
for meeting women in clubs and bars only. Most of
my personal success with women, and most of the
success of my readers, happen in more "normal"
places like coffee shops, bookstores, schools,
parties, and even online.

I think that maybe some people just mentally
apply what they read to situations that they're
familiar with, so it might seem that I'm talking
about "clubs and bars" when I'm really talking
about more than that.

With that said, let's talk about some of the
"how to's".

I chose your particular email because of the
way it was worded. Part of the question is:

"...I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups
in regular places, like a supermarket, store, or
coffee shop for instance? What suggestions do you
have for meeting women here and how would you
personally approach a women in these
circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has
progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny will
work but I wondering about the first encounter if
you could help please..."

It sounds to me like you're assuming here that
you should have a fairly in-depth conversation
when you first meet a woman. I think that most
guys have a fear of approaching women because they
don't really know what to say, or where to take
the conversation. I know that was a big one for me
when I first wanted to learn this stuff.

But here's what I learned: YOU DON'T HAVE TO
HAVE A "CONVERSATION" AT ALL WHEN YOU FIRST MEET A
WOMAN. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET HER DIGITS!

In my ebook, I teach you how to get a woman's
email and phone number in about 3 minutes. I know
that it kind of sounds sensational... like I'm
probably just using that as a marketing trick...
but I'm actually very serious about it.

Now, there's a lot more to success with women
than just getting numbers. But for the sake of
this argument, let's just say that ALL YOU REALLY
NEED TO BE CONCERNED WITH WHEN YOU'RE FIRST
MEETING A WOMAN IS GETTING HER EMAIL AND PHONE
NUMBER.

Yep, that's it.

And you can do that in a few minutes, if you
know what to do and how to do it. I've had MANY
friends of mine go out with me and watch me get 5+
numbers in an evening from women, and only talk to
them for a few minutes each to do it. And I'll
tell you what... it changes their perspectives
forever.

Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for
getting a phone number, email address, or future
date.

I can hear the arguments now:

"But no woman is going to just give out her
number..."

"What makes you think a woman is just going to
hand over her private information to a stranger?"

Well, I'm here to tell you that I, and many
guys I know, have done it SO many times that it's
no longer a question in my mind.

And here's why you might want to do it this
way:

Let's say you're relatively NEW at learning how
to approach women and begin conversations...

The longer you talk to a woman when you first
meet her, the more likely you are to say something
stupid, say something that disqualifies you in her
mind, or get into a conversation that goes down
the wrong road. It's as simple as that.

If you don't waste any time, and just focus on
getting her email and number, you'll be able to
set up a second meeting... where you can focus on
taking things to the next level. And trust me,
it's a lot easier to recover from a mistake or bad
conversation when you're sitting across from her
alone over a cup of tea then when you're looking
at her over the mango section in the supermarket.

Think about it.

So let's land the plane...

The question is, "What do you do to get her to
give up the info so quickly?".

Easy.

1) Know exactly how you want the conversation to
go.

2) Know HOW to ask.

3) Know WHEN to ask.

4) Have pen and paper on you.

Also, if you're PARTICULARLY interested in
learning how to approach women and start
conversations, then you should get yourself a copy
of my program... it's called "Approaching
Women"... duh! Go check out the free preview video
clips of the program and get all the details about
it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

I recommend that you take a few minutes every
day to imagine having conversations with new
women. It might go something like this:

"Hi there, you're cuter than the average woman
that I see in the produce section... are you
friendly?"

Her: "Ha ha... well, sometimes."

"So, are you shopping for a special occasion,
or is this just a routine produce visit?"

Her: "No, just here for some fruit."

"Nice. Are you from the area?"

Her: "Yeah."

"Are you from here originally?"

Her: "Born and raised."

"Well, it was nice meeting you... and enjoy
your mango..."

Her: "Thanks."

"Hey... do you have email?"

Her: "Yeah, I do."

Check this out... treat the "Yeah" as an
agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out
of your pocket (I prefer the Space Pen) and hand
it to her to write down her email. As she's
writing say, "and write your number there too...
and your name, which I didn't get..."

The key is that you have to act LIKE THIS IS
THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE WORLD.

...OK, see how easy that was? Is that
realistic? I think so. I've personally gotten
HUNDREDS of emails and phone numbers (from women
I've just met) with dialogues like that.

I think a key is to MENTALLY REHEARSE how you
will handle yourself so you know exactly what to
do when the time comes. It all has to flow and
seem natural.

OK, to address the second part of your
question... how to meet other guys who know what
they're doing...

I think it's a good idea to go out once in
awhile to the local hotspots and WATCH what's
going on. Specifically, I think it's a great idea
to look for beautiful women that are with guys,
and watch how the GUY is behaving. Also, it's
interesting to watch guys picking women up to see
what they're doing. You'll learn a few really
important things first-hand when you do this:

1) You'll see the body language of guys that are
able to attract and keep women.

2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone
of guys that are approaching women, and see how
the women respond.

3) Invariably, you'll see some guys are really
good with women, and you can make friends with
them. It's easy... just say, "Hey, you are the mac
with the babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you
to tell me a few things." A beer is a cheap price
to pay for wisdom.

Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that
getting a number or a date is A SMALL PIECE of the
puzzle.

If you REALLY want to master all of the
different aspects of success with women and
dating, then you need to get yourself a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques program.

Everything I teach in my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program is very specifically
designed to teach you the ATTITUDE and BODY
LANGUAGE and all the other little things that
cause women to feel ATTRACTION inside... for
reasons that they don't even understand.

This program will teach you everything from how
to overcome fear and shyness to how to approach
women in different situations... all the way to
how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly
and without "rejection".

Two more important points:

1) I'll send it to you at zero risk... meaning
that you don't have to pay anything at all until
you have gotten it, tried it out, experienced
success, and convinced yourself that it's worth
many times the investment.

2) I'll send it to you in a plain box, with no
identifying marks that indicate what's inside.

Go get it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that right now. You can download it
right now and be reading it within a few minutes.
It's here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Body Language That Turns Women OFF

Are you frustrated that despite
knowing a few great "lines" or certain techniques
for approaching women and getting their numbers
that seem to work like magic for other guys.

YOU are still choking time and time
again.especially around women that you think are
"out of your league?"

What is it that these other guys have that seems
to work so well and so effortlessly for them? How
do they get women to GRAVITATE to them without
even trying?

If I were to guess, I'd have to say that the only
reason you're still having such a hard time when
it comes to creating attraction and interest in a
woman, it's because there's something going on
SUBCONSCIOUSLY that you're not even aware of.

You're simply sending her the "wrong message."

And you don't even know it.

You might be coming across as
needy.desperate.weird.too intense. But how would
you know?

Right. You wouldn't - unless she tells you to your
face.

And that wouldn't be any fun.

So here's where I'm going with this.

I recently recorded an interview with someone that
just might shed some light on your situation.

Bryan Bayer is the co-founder of "The Authentic
Man Program" - a unique program that helps guys
work on getting to the bottom of what's REALLY
getting in the way of dating success.

He's an expert in helping men uncover the
SUBCONSCIOUS SIGNALS they're sending to women.

Have you ever been into a woman who kept telling
you that she just wanted to be "friends".no matter
what you did or said to change her mind?

Have you ever walked up to a woman and get the
cold shoulder and disgusted glance, even when you
hadn't said ANYTHING suggestive?

If so, you may be unknowingly giving off the wrong
vibe.and you don't even know it.

During our interview, Bryan revealed some
fantastic insights into what may be keeping you
from realizing your potential with women, and what
to do about each one. Here's a sampling:

The first and MOST IMPORTANT STEP you must take
in order to eliminate the most common mental
obstacles getting in the way of you having success
with women.a "whole body" technique that can
REVERSE unproductive subconscious behaviors right
now.

A 5-second technique to instantly get women to
NOTICE YOU when you walk into a room, without have
to say a word.

How your CHILDHOOD SECRETS may be negatively
affecting the way your body feels when you're with
a woman. Yeah, I'm talking about your dad's
Penthouse magazines here.

The one thing you can do with a part your body
--without touching her-- that will make her think
you'd be good in bed. This is the secret of men
who you wouldn't even THINK should be getting
women.Amazing stuff.

What to say in the first 10 seconds of
approaching a woman at a bar or party to virtually
eliminate the possibility that she'll think you're
"creepy."

and a whole lot more.

Believe me, if you're still sitting around at home
wondering why you can't seem to get your game on
no matter what you try, then you need to check out
this valuable interview.

Just click on the link below and I'll send you a
copy of my latest interview with Bryan Bayer, and
a couple really cool bonus interviews with two of
my favorite experts on attracting women.

So go here now and sign up:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/InterviewSeries



***SUCCESS STORY***

If there are people out there who still don't
believe in the cocky & funny, QUIT DOUBTIN' IT AND
START WORKIN' IT!

The other night I was at a burger joint near my
office. It's one of those grungy independent
places that's popular with the locals, and out of
towners make a point to visit if they're here for
something else. The line had snaked around, and a
group of three cuties was standing in front of my
table. They were talking about what they'd heard,
and one of them said she was looking forward to
their fries.

Since I had a bunch of fries in front of me, I
made eye contact and gave my fries a Vanna White
flourish with my hands. She said, "Wow those look
good. Can I?"

I offered her one of my fries. She dipped it in my
cup of ketchup, and right as she popped it in her
mouth, I looked her in the eye and said "By the
way, I double-dip." In the space of two seconds,
her expressions ranged from shock at my brashness,
to wondering whether she should be grossed out, to
laughing.

I knew I could have gotten her e-mail/number...
and the thing is, I didn't even want to, because
I've been seeing a solid eight. Sure, there are
hotter, but until recently I would have thought
she was entirely out of my league. And I ALWAYS
bust her balls. She's always coming up to me,
saying "Gimme kiss". I think for a second and say,
"Umm... no, but thanks!" And then she's
enthusiastically kissing me. Or more.

I'm not the hottest guy out there. I'm pretty fat,
actually. But women hate how desperation smells,
and if a beautiful woman sees that you're not
looking for just anyone who'll return the
conversation, and that you're not intimidated by
their looks, that's GOLD, man, GOLD.

In fact, it's even worked for me at the office.
Now, yes, here you have to be more careful. And it
doesn't substitute for competence. But my boss
sees I'm not intimidated, and I get stuff done. In
fact, today I just landed a $5K raise.

You must be tired of hearing it... well, hear it
again. Dave, you da man.

E Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Well, I think my favorite line in your email
was...

"...women hate how desperation smells..."

Because this doesn't make a whole lotta sense
to most of the guys who read it, let me do the
honors of breakin' it down for ya...

When someone says something like this, what
they're trying to say is that there's something
about "desperation" that women pick up on... but
it's not easy to describe.

Desperation comes across in all kinds of subtle
ways, from how you talk to a woman, to the eye
contact that you make, to how often you call her.

Women can "smell" it because women are
approximately TEN TIMES better at reading body
language than men. Your body language says
everything about you to a woman... so, if you want
to get better at attracting women, you'd better
start paying attention to and taking control of
it.

Start with your posture. Lift your chest.

Lean back, not forward.

Leaning forward is usually a "needy" signal.

Leaning back is usually a signal of strength.

Slow down your movements.

Fast movements convey nervousness and
skittishness.

Slow movements convey self control and
strength.

It's a good idea to take some time and study
the body language of guys who are successful with
women. Watch closely, and pay attention to
EVERYTHING.

Even though something doesn't SEEM like it's
important, it probably is.

I have a good friend who holds his drink a
certain way when he's talking to a woman that he's
interested in.

He does it almost every time.

Is it important?

You do the math.

More great tips for triggering attraction and
"chemistry" can be found here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/SexualCommunication


***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave -

Ok, I can't help myself. I've got to comment
again. I commented last week in response to a
writer who was disturbed with your methods of
meeting women. And now this week, I find another,
equally amusing halfwit who just doesn't get it
(the one you affectionately called a "crack
smoker".. hehehe).

Is it me or the rest of the world? Jesus, people.
It's not disrespectful, it's not meant to be
hurtful or demeaning. It's called TEASING ... it's
a playful, flattering form of teasing.

Let me give you an example of a guy I met
recently, from a female's point of view -- one
guy's success story (and unless he gets your
newsletter or has read your materials, he's
probably totally unaware of HOW he "hooked" me so
easily). I met a guy online several months ago,
we chatted for awhile and quickly discovered that
we had a very compatible quick-witted sense of
humor (he was cocky and very funny from the get-go
...I loved it). Everytime we talked on the phone,
he'd find a way to bust my chops and make me
laugh. (Sounds cliche, but "He had me at hello."
hehehe) He'd always point out some imperfection
of mine and blow it all out of proportion and talk
about how it just wasn't going to work out because
of all my flaws (kidding the whole time, of
course) ... one being the fact that I'm not
particularly very well endowed in the chest
region. A modest 38B. So after we met that first
time, he walked me to my car that night, and as he
turned to walk towards his car, he paused and
turned back long enough to say "oh, and you're
right, you're not very busty." Shocked, I just
said, "oh get outta here you *&$%@# " and jabbed
him in the arm. And I grinned the whole way home.
And I couldn't wait to see him again.

I hope you consider including this in your
newsletter to encourage guys to keep trying your
methods. THEY DO WORK! With the negative comments
in the last couple of newsletters from "outraged"
readers, I'd hate for any guy to second-guess that
this stuff works. Because as far as I'm
concerned, there just aren't enough of you guys
(cocky & funny) around. At least I can't find
'em.

J, in Maryland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well I think that the REAL problem that
the "halfwits" and "crack smokers" of past
newsletters are having is that they don't GET IT.

I've found that women HATE the idea that guys
are doing ANYTHING "intentionally" to become more
successful in the dating world.

Anything that has to be "learned", really
freaks some women out (as a side note, I've found
that most of the women I've talked to in person
about my ideas were OK with them. On occasion, a
woman will freak out, but after they actually
"get" what I'm talking about, they almost
universally LIKE the ideas).

The REAL profound insight that I've had
relating to this topic is that women will often
SAY that they want one thing, but then, when they
GET it, they seem like they don't want it.

On the other hand, women will often SAY that
they don't like certain types of guys or certain
traits, then they'll turn around and SLEEP with
one of these exact guys.

Keep in mind, we're talking about women here. I
don't mean to pick on them... the fact is that
GUYS have their own set of bizarre behaviors too.
But, since everyone is reading these Mailbags to
learn about how to attract women, we're going to
have to skip this discussion (Wink - Wink) of
these exact guys.

And, for all the guys who doubt that what we're
talking about here "works", just ask yourself
these questions:

1) Is what you're CURRENTLY doing working?

2) Isn't it worth the risk to try ANYTHING else if
there's even a CHANCE that it will actually work?

Nice.

Thanks for your email.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Been getting your newsletter for about two months
now. Also got both your book and your DVD. They're
just unbelievably superb!!!! The stuffs in your
book and DVD are so easy to be understood. It is
like reading "How to double your dates for
Dummies". I was always nervous when I was around
hot looking girls. Now, I actually have the
confidence to walk up to them and ask for their
emails/numbers. It's such a big shift in such a
short time. Composure is almost what the girls are
looking for. Without it, they can sense you got no
game. You really got the stuffs. It works wonders.
I'm certainly still new to this and I am
practicing everyday constantly.

I have no problems asking girls for the emails. I
understand how the composure, voice tone and
everything works. But this is my problem. Some
girls actually say this exact same lines like "Why
don't you give me your email/number and I'll
email/call you." I really am stuck after they said
this. I just can't figure out some C&F to say at
this point to amplify the situation. I am ready to
be enlightened by your teaching.

My new Sensei,

Big bow to you, E.F Canada

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... I love questions like this one.

Yeah, when you start getting good at
approaching women, you will start having all kinds
of far-out things happen.

As a matter of fact, some of my favorite
stories that my friends and I laugh about are
about times that I started conversations with
women.

Here, let me confuse you for a moment...

Let me give you a couple of different
perspectives on your situation.

I have one good friend who has been with
literally HUNDREDS of women.

He told me a story about a woman that said this
to him. He asked her for her number, and she said,
"Well, why don't you write down your number and
I'll call you?"

He didn't even hesitate... he shot back, "Don't
give me that SH**, write your number down!"

She smiled and wrote her number down.

One time, I was out talking to a girl... I
asked her to write down her email and number, and
she said, "You give me your number" etc.

I looked at her and said, "Never mind".

Then, as the conversation went on, she started
making comments about talking to me in the future,
giving her my number, etc.

I just said, "Nah, you're not serious. If you
were, you wouldn't be playing games with me, and
you'd just give me your number".

She wrote it down.

Funny enough, my standard response to "Why
don't you give me your number instead and I'll
call you" is to just look at her and say, "Write
it down. It will be OK..." and then point to the
paper.

That probably works about 50% of the time.

You have what I like to refer to as a "high
quality problem". Remember what you've learned in
my DVD program about what a woman is REALLY
looking for. Then be it.

Just because a woman says, "Give me your number
instead", doesn't mean that you've lost control.
It's usually just a test.


***COMMENT***

OMG okay Dave,

I'm a female and have been reading your
newsletters to try and figure out where guys get
their "game" from. Now that I know it's from you,
I would like to say you're a total genius. Like
I've had guys use your tips on me and at first
I've been like "what the hell" then later on in
the conversation, we were exchanging numbers and
kisses. you must be like a woman in disguise or
something. you are so awesome.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, one thing is for sure... I'm NOT a woman
in disguise.

lol...

I don't know many women who could explain this
stuff the way I do.

Oh, and feel free to send your picture and
phone number with your emails in the future.

If there's one thing that's better than a man
recognizing my genius, it's a cute gal recognizing
it.

By the way, you said something that was very
interesting in your email.

You said that when guys start using these
techniques with you, at FIRST you respond with
"what the hell"... but LATER ON you wind up
kissing and exchanging numbers.

Very VERY interesting.

This is a KEY point that most guys just can't
grasp or work with. Thanks for laying it out.


***QUESTION***

hello there.

can u please let me know, what is meant by a
wussy.? I've came across this word a lot, in ur
newsletter, wussy, and wussies, but couldn't
figure out, what it means. I didn't find the
meaning of that word in the dictionary too. as
you used in ur letter, Women aren't attracted to
Wussies what is meant by that. waiting for ur
reply bye

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I can explain the concept of what a
"Wussy" is quite easily.

If you say things like "waiting for your ur
reply", you're communicating like a Wussy.

If you don't know what a Wussy is, you probably
are one.

Guys who aren't Wussies know what a "Wussy" is
because they usually MAKE FUN OF THEM a lot.

I know, I know... I'm being harsh.

But, I used to be a BIG TIME Wussy. It was a
problem.

I used to call women all the time, kiss up to
them, give away my power to them, and every other
WUSS-ISH thing you could do.

In other words, I'm an expert.

A Wussy is a guy who gives away his power to
women, and behaves in a "submissive" way.

Don't do this.

It's the DARK SIDE, if there ever was one.


***QUESTION***

David,

I've been reading your newsletter for about a
month now and I respect your honesty and
perspectives. The things you've said makes lots of
sense and I have no doubts that they work. In
fact, I have observed others use your techniques
they and get remarkable results with the ladies.
Now, when I read your newsletters, I thought to
myself and realized that I have been somewhat
using your "cocky and funny" techniques
unconsciously... ie, teasing the girls, making fun
of them but not putting them down. (I guess its
part of my personality). I make some of the girls
I work with as well as my customers laugh. \ The
thing is, when I go out to a bar or a nightclub,
or anywhere else for that matter, I tend to clam
up for some reason. I might even give the
impression to others that I'm a tight ass because
I
don't open my mouth. I know I can keep the ball
rolling once I have the girls attention. My
problem is the ice breaker. The very first thing
I say AFTER introducing myself, or even BEFORE
depending on the situation. I feel like I don't
have any interesting things to say to start up a
conversation. My question is how can I prepare
myself to be more cocky per say? What ice
breakers can I use and not look like a wuss at the
same time? I try to listen in on the guys next to
me pick up girls, try to hear what they are
saying. But I'm hard of hearing and its quite
hard in noisy situations for me to hear anything
unless my ear is literally close. Interested in
any perspectives and feedback you can give to
start off.

Thanks A.W.G. - Illinois

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Most guys are afraid of approaching women and
starting conversations.

When you say the words "ice breaker", you
ASSUME that a woman is going to respond to you
"coldly". You know, Ice = Cold.

The fact is that there are a certain percentage
of women out there who are happy, open and
receptive in general, and a certain amount that
are cold, closed and NOT receptive.

I had a guy come to my last seminar in Los
Angeles who went out and started approaching
women.

He came back into the seminar the next day and
told this story...

He said that he couldn't believe how he let his
past negative programming stop him from starting
conversations with women. He had gone out and
walked up to women, one after the other, and just
simply said, "Hi, I'm out meeting people tonight,
what's your name?" and women were giving him all
kinds of positive responses.

Just remember that most women will respond
somewhere in the range of "neutral" to "positive"
if you say almost ANYTHING to them.

Now, if you want to start conversations in bars
and nightclubs and you just can't get the nerve up
to do it, try this...

Find a BUSY place near the bar where people are
lining up to order drinks. Find a place where
people are literally crammed together like
sardines.

Work your way up to the bar at the BUSIEST
spot, and either stand there, or get a chair
there.

The idea is that you want to be where a lot of
women will walk up to the bar during the evening
and ACCIDENTALLY bump into you.

If you REALLY want to make this work for you,
wear a loud or unique shirt... something that has
a soft, "feely" texture.

Over the course of a few hours, some
conversations will start BY THEMSELVES.

Women will say, "excuse me" and try to get past
you.

Some women will ask you to order a drink for
them.

Some will just bump up against you on accident
and then apologize.

Take a few minutes, and think up some good
responses that fit your personality... and have
them ready.

Try:

"Look, if you wanted to start a conversation with
me you could have just said, "hi", you didn't have
to be violent about it."

That should get you started.

The point is that there's a way to put yourself
in a situation that automatically sparks
conversations. You just need to be ready when it
happens.

This kind of thing should help you get past the
fear and hesitation to start conversations on your
own.


***QUESTION***

David D.,

First off, I'd like to thank you for taking the
time to put all of this material together. As a
guy who is finally beginning to understand the
game and is on his way to "get it", I'd like to
thank you. I'm still not completely to the place
I'd like to be, but I'm on my way (being able to
walk up to any woman who I'd like to meet and
being able to secure digits and lead things the
rest of the way from there). The ideas that I'm
finding that really help me keep my focus (and not
get too nervous/needy) are many from your advanced
program that I purchased. ex- What they think of
you is their business, and acting almost too
comfortable around them. I'm also in the process
of reading Comedy Writing Secrets by Helitzer and
have 3 other books purchased (of those you
recommended) that will be my next projects.

Okay, on to the comment and question. I've read
recently that studies have shown (can't remember
if this was from Reader's Digest or what) that
even if you're a shy person, acting outgoing will
improve your mental health and get rid of that
feeling of seclusion that many introverted people
have. On to the question... in your Advanced DVD
program, the idea of congruence is mentioned
several times, mostly as that you have to be
congruent when you talk to a woman. This concept
seems to be rather elusive and I was wondering if
you could go into more detail about what "being
congruent" entails.

Thanks, T.C. from Virginia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sure, the idea of being "congruent" when you
communicate simply means to have ALL LEVELS of
your communication "in alignment" with each other
and "saying the same thing".

If you're asking a woman for her number, but
you're looking around nervously and hesitating,
it's not "congruent".

On the other hand, if you're saying, "Write
down your email and number for me" while taking
out a pen and paper... as if it's the 147th time
that you've done it, it's CONGRUENT.

Most people don't realize that they're sending
MIXED MESSAGES all the time.

Have you ever asked someone "What's wrong?" and
had them say, "NOTHING'S WRONG! Why does everyone
keep asking me what's wrong?"

That's a mixed message. And it's not congruent.

You want to line up ALL of your communication.

Your body language, voice tone, words, etc.

All of the different specific body language,
voice tone, and gestures that I recommend in my
programs have a single goal in mind: To help you
be 100% CONGRUENT when you are communicating with
women.

There are ways to use "mixed messages" that can
create attraction, but make sure you're doing it
INTENTIONALLY when you do!

The more congruent you are, and the more you use
the techniques that I'm teaching, the better your
responses from women will become.


***COMMENTS***

Y'know, my mom actually wanted to comment on your
program. She's been teaching me and my brothers
about what women REALLY want from men ever since I
was very small. She's been teaching us pretty much
the same material that you cover in your book and
advanced series (which I recently picked up by the
way, I fell so much in love with the book I just
couldn't resist, it's been GREAT!), and she just
wanted me to tell you that you hit it right on the
head! Her saying has always been pretty much:
"Women don't want a hard-ass, but women also don't
want a BITCH-ASS, either." I have tried other
dating success training, and this one is by far
my favorite. There's... one... that I tried before
yours. Theirs isn't NEARLY as good as yours,
because the techniques they teach are way to
unnatural, too analytical, doesn't let you be
yourself at all, and doesn't work for everyone in
every situation. Your service is the best I've
seen so far, because IT ALLOWS YOU TO BE YOURSELF,
while HONESTLY sparking ATTRACTION in a female,
and automatically DOES NOT work on a woman with a
stick up her ass! I can tell you put a lot of work
into this, you've defiantly touched many lives.
Not just for men, but women too. Thanks David.

C.D. from Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh YEAHHHHH!

Dude, even your MOM endorses my stuff.

This is out of control.

You know, actually... you suck.

I wish that MY MOM would have taught me this
stuff, instead of teaching me wisdom such as "You
need to buy women more things" and "A man should
always pay for things", etc.

And any mom who would teach her son:

"Women don't want a hard-ass, but women also don't
want a BITCH-ASS, either."

...has my respect.

And to comment on your experience with the
techniques and systems that others teach on how to
meet women...

My guess is that 95% of the others who have
written books on this topic or developed other
programs are doing it for the MONEY alone.

In other words, their main focus is the CASH,
and NOT helping guys improve with women.

Now, I certainly enjoy the cash. No argument
there.

But my MAIN OBJECTIVE is to have the absolute
BEST system and materials that are available
ANYWHERE, at ANY PRICE.

I have spent a LOT of time, effort and energy
to figure out what works to attract women.

Here's the test:

Go download my online eBook, and order up one
of my CD/DVD programs. You can get both to try out
for free... with zero risk.

THEN, go buy another book on the topic, or
whatever else you can find (make sure it comes
with a 100% money-back guarantee).

My bet is that you'll return everything else
before you've even finished reading it (or
listening, or whatever) and that I couldn't pry my
stuff out of your hands with a CROWBAR.

My stuff WORKS BETTER, and is easier to use
than all the other stuff out there, period.

And, probably the MOST IMPORTANT benefit is
something that was mentioned in this newsletter...
when you learn how and why women feel ATTRACTION,
and you learn how to trigger it with your
communication and body language, you don't have to
use a bunch of "unnatural tricks" or dishonest
techniques that "feel wrong".

I'll teach you how to develop that "innate" or
natural part of yourself that is already there...
and give you the correct perspective and
programming to get RESULTS.

Try it, you'll like it.

And, if you don't like it, you've lost
nothing... because all of my stuff comes with a
"try it before you buy it" zero risk policy.

So, do this...

Go download my online eBook "Double Your
Dating" right now, and you'll be reading it within
a few minutes. You can download it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

And go order a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program. This program is the
most complete, in-depth program in the world for
learning how to overcome fear, approach women, get
numbers, get dates, meet women online, and take
things to a "physical" level without fear or
rejection.

Go watch some great preview video clips of it,
and get all the details here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D

Competition From Other Men - How To Handle It

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

I am recently divorced and found myself having a
hard time making connections with women after
being in a 9-year relationship. Before I met my
ex-wife I considered myself as a "player" and had
little trouble finding girls to go out with. After
being out of the scene for so long, I had lots of
trouble trying to get back in to the swing of
things. Your ebook and emails have instantly put
me back in the game and I am now getting dates
with very attractive women! Its been amazing!!
Thank You!

Now for the question. All these attractive women
have brought something into my dates that I am not
used to, Men (Cock Blockers)! Currently, I am
dating this "bomb-shell" occasionally and when we
go out on a date, men will hit on her as soon as
they get a chance. If I turn my back for second,
some guy will try to make eye contact or say
something to her. I don't blame the guys because
she is very hot, but how do I deal with this in a
way that shows I am 100% confident? Typically, I
just laugh and continue to have a good time by
ignoring the lame ass attempts to pick up on my
date, but there has to be a way that I can turn
this around to make me look more confident in her
eyes.

You da man,

B from Colorado

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well then... welcome back!

I've noticed that the period after breaking up
with a long-term girlfriend or spouse is often a
difficult one.

I think it's easy for men (and women) to become
so comfortable and emotionally dependent in a
relationship that they experience a lot of FEAR
when ending that relationship...

"What's going to happen?"

"Will I ever meet another woman?"

"How do I get started?"

...etc.

I can remember breaking up with long-term
girlfriends in years past, and feeling an empty,
fearful, LONELY combination of emotions in my gut
that was HORRIBLE.

That ALONE feeling is enough to cause a lot of
problems.

Add to that, not knowing where to start, what
to do, or how to "get your game back" if you had
it in the past, and you usually get a bad
situation.

I've learned that knowing how to go out anytime
and meet women has a couple of MAJOR benefits when
it comes to this area:

1) When you know that you can meet women anytime
you want, it makes you stop acting so NEEDY and
CLINGY in a relationship. Most needy and clingy
Wuss behaviors are rooted in the FEAR that you'll
never be able to find another woman.

2) When it comes to ENDING a relationship, this
skill makes things MUCH easier. Too many guys stay
in relationships that are bad for them, and are
afraid to END a relationship because of that
deeply-rooted insecurity that comes from not
knowing how to walk out the door anytime, anywhere
and meet women. When you know how to do this, you
won't try to hold on like a girly-man, sacrifice
your own respect and dignity, pleading and
begging, and ultimately make the situation much
worse than it would have been if you would have
just walked away.

In short, what I'm trying to say is that I
think understanding this area called "How to
attract women" is KEY to having a good
relationship.

When you have that inner confidence and
KNOWING, it makes you more attractive... period.

Now let's talk about what to do when there is
competition from other guys...

First I want to talk about what I believe is at
the ROOT of the problem:

1) INSECURITY.

2) JEALOUSY.

When you are insecure, you're always wondering
if some other guy is going to come along and steal
your girl.

This often shows up as a combination of
feelings that make you worry about losing your
girl, and at the same time worrying about not
being able to find another one if you DO lose this
one.

This is a BAD, BAD thing because it then CLOUDS
YOUR THINKING, and creates an illusion that the
woman you're with is BETTER than she is, and that
you're WORSE than you are.

We're talking about some deep issues here, but
this is the stuff that triggers the ULTIMATE WUSS
types of behaviors.

Then, as if things weren't bad enough, you go
out with your girl, and other guys start hitting
on her right in front of you.

This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the
REAL problem... JEALOUSY.

Jealousy is an incredibly powerful emotion.

It often leads people to KILL people they love.

One scientist wrote an entire book about
Jealousy, and basically claimed that it was the
most powerful and important emotion ever! (The
book is called "The Dangerous Passion"...
referring to jealousy)

When you're out with your girl, you turn around
to order a drink, and when you turn BACK around
there's some guy talking to her with that "I'd
love to take you home and do things that the lord
forbids", it can trigger a few emotions...

This is very natural. Animals have this same
response in similar situations. I personally
believe that we come pre-wired with BOTH of these
things:

- We come pre-wired to want women that other men
already have (Don't covet thy neighbor's wife).

- We come pre-wired to feel jealousy if we suspect
that our spouse is cheating or if we think that
someone is going to take them from us.

Again, normal and natural stuff.

If Yoda were here, he'd probably say:

"Jealousy is useless...

...Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to
INSECURE WUSSY BEHAVIOR... and insecure Wussy
behavior leads to the DARK SIDE."

Now, jealousy doesn't always lead to insecure
WUSSY behavior, sometimes it leads to insecure
DUMB ASS behavior, like getting into a fight, or
shooting someone.

Some men enjoy fights and violence.

And some women have no problem dating a man who
likes to beat other men up (or beat her up).

I personally think that violence and hurting
other people is the IGNORANT way to deal with
things.

But, I also know that there are a lot of guys
out there that don't share my views.

The POINT I'm trying to make is that insecurity
and jealousy make people do all kinds of stupid
and thoughtless things.

These emotions take over your mind and body,
and can trigger some of the most short-sighted
behaviors you'll ever experience.

These are complex emotions that have evolved
over millions and millions of years... and they're
not going away anytime soon. In many cases, they
literally take control of your mind and body.

For instance...

Let's say you've just broken up with your
girlfriend or wife, and it took you a long time to
finally get a date with an attractive woman. Maybe
you were feeling insecure and didn't know if you
could meet another woman, and let's say that the
breakup was hard on you as well.

Let's say you're out at a bar with your new
date and you excuse yourself to use the boy's
room... and when you get back, there are TWO big,
handsome guys talking to your date, and she's
laughing hysterically at what they're saying.

What would most guys do in this situation?

THEY'D FREAK. That's what.

All kinds of fear, jealousy, insecurity, etc.
would INSTANTLY take over, and there would be
thoughts of her wanting to be with these guys,
them taking her away, etc.

And what do most guys actually DO in one of
these situations?

They walk over, act nervous, and try to take
the girl away from the situation. And they make
the mistake of making it OBVIOUS that they're all
freaked out, intimidated, jealous, and insecure.

This, of course, only makes the other guys feel
more powerful, and makes the woman realize that
she's with an insecure WUSS.

It becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy, in most
cases.

As a side note: I have met and know of guys who
actually ENJOY picking up women who are out with
other guys. It's a game to them.

And they've found that it's EASY, because most
men are insecure, and most women don't want to be
with a WUSS...

So what's the answer here?

What's the best thing to do when a guy is
making his move on your girl?

Well... let's start from a little BEFORE that.

And before I give you my take, I want to
recommend that you ALSO get your hands on a copy
of my "On Being A Man... Who Naturally Attracts
Women" CD/DVD program. This program will help you
develop a DEEP and important part of yourself...
that will help fix some of the issues we're
talking about here.

You can get all the details about it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

Onward...

The best thing you can do in one of these
situations is what you do BEFORE it ever
happens... and it's a combination of things:

1) Realize that there's nothing to be insecure and
jealous about, and that these things only lead to
fear and loss.

2) Get your game in shape with women. Get yourself
to the point where you can meet women in ANY
situation. This way you always know DEEP DOWN that
if any woman you're with ever decides to leave,
you can turn around and start meeting women. This
eliminates insecurity.

3) Mentally prepare. Take some time to imagine
that you're in one of these situations, and notice
the feelings you have. Go over it in your mind
until you can think about it without having any
negative emotions triggered.

And here's what to do when you're actually IN
the situation...

1) EXPECT IT. If you start dating hot women, other
men will hit on them, GUARANTEED. It's part of
life, man. You must expect that it's going to
happen and not be surprised when it does.

2) Learn how to have FUN with it. Most guys have
no game at all... and it's kind of funny to watch
and listen to them. I enjoy watching guys try to
meet women, because they FAIL miserably in most
cases. I like to wait until a guy is finished
trying to pick up on the girl I'm with, and then
get her to share the details so I can laugh.

3) Suggest that she date the guy. One of my
favorite things to do is say, "Hey, you guys would
make a cute couple... I think you should go for
him." Of course, this is all said in a light, fun
way.

4) If you suspect that the girl you're with is
actually TRYING to make you jealous, talk to other
women. If you actually think that a woman is
deliberately trying to make you jealous, you must
do some thinking as well. Some women enjoy making
men compete over them and you probably don't want
to be with one of these women. They're a pain. But
if you think it's just a typical situation and the
girl is trying to figure out if you "really" like
her (because you'll get jealous if you do), then
just turn around and start a conversation with a
group of girls... and wait for her to come and
find you.

The point I'm making is that you MUST get over
that fear/insecurity/jealousy issue, and realize
that there is nothing to be afraid of.

The only power that other guys will have with
your date is the power that you GIVE them... so
don't give them any power by acting like a WUSS.
Keep your power for yourself. The main reason that
other guys try to hit on your girl is because they
don't have one themselves. Remember that.

...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself, "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women so
I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling
I have" then YOU'RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself
and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.

What's the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you'd like to learn then I recommend you
learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.

I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all
from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

My Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program
has over 12 full hours of me teaching live... all
recorded and edited in high-quality digital video
and audio. It contains literally HUNDREDS of great
ideas for meeting and dating women... and it's
probably the single best investment you can make
in your dating life.

My eBook "Double Your Dating" is the FOUNDATION
for everything I teach in these newsletters, and
for everything I teach in my Advanced Series. It's
a "must read" and you can download it online and
be reading it in about 5 minutes...

The Advanced CD/DVD Series is here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

The eBook is available for immediate download
here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Making Women Feel Sexually Attracted To You

***COMMENT***

Dear David,

Firstly, I won't massage your ego by waxing
lyrical on your material and have no questions for
you. Just 2 success stories. I am 26 yrs old and
married to a 10 for 2 years. I have read and
reread your newsletters and applied c&f at every
opportunity with her, much to her extreme delight.
She hasn't been able to take her hands off me
since! A story about TESTING. I'm from England
originally and recently went back just for a week
without her (family occasion which they paid for).
2 weeks before I went she gave me extreme abuse
(testing) saying that I should be home with her,
that it was unfair, she wanted to come too etc etc
etc..... usual complete rubbish a chick likes to
give you. Anyway, I did not back down at all, dug
my heels in and told her if she wanted to dump me
over then so be it; plenty of other girls wanting
to get in my pants etc (of course with c&f thrown
in)..... Anyway, she soon got used to the idea and
the week before I went we had wilder sex than ever
before. She was rampant and even got me to take a
morning off work, just so we could have sex. I
told her I'd think about it, but later agreed.
Also, I work an extreme sales job and I recently
got a hot new receptionist/clerk. All I've done
for the last 5 weeks is bust on her about not
being on the phone enough (that's not her job at
all, but I bust her anyway). She'll say "good
morning" as I come in, and I'll say "Never mind
that. How many cold calls have you made today!?",
or I'll just walk over to her phone, blow the dust
of it and use the backhand to brush the cobwebs
away, stuff like that. Gets her giggling like a
schoolgirl. Our interactions have only been like
this, for 5 WEEKS. Anyway... we had a works night
out last week and got talking. All she could say
was how hot my wife is (I told her my wife was a
lucky girl), then told me how handsome I was and
that SHE wanted to be my girl instead, and finally
confessed that she really wanted a THREESOME with
me and my Mrs. And that's all I'll say on this...
All I've done is busted her butt about not making
enough deals and she wants a threesome. Guys.....
single or not, LISTEN TO DAVID!!! Using his stuff
will alter your experience of women forever, and
their experience of you! Nice one Dave! cheers
DVJ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I'm not sure that I like your idea of
not waxing lyrical on my material, and not
massaging my ego...

Rethink that for next time.

As for your excellent understanding and
application of this material to, a-hem, "improve"
your relationship with your wife, and, a-hem...
your receptionist... nice job.

It really is amazing how TURNED ON women get
when you communicate with them the way you're
describing.

The REAL trick here is actually getting to a
point where you BELIEVE it... so you can start
actually DOING it.

Thanks for the report.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

To start, I just want to say that you are
incredible. I'm not gonna leap up and start
preaching here, I'm no reverend to the Temple of
David, but I will cut straight to the chase. I've
been reading your newsletter for a while and it is
working really well. I've always been c/f, but I
was afraid of offending the woman I set my sights
on. I finally have the confidence to unleash this
beast, problem is, I have the tendency to start
busting on a girl, and when I see it's working...
I blank. A good example two days ago, this FINE
girl walked into my class, having to make up a
math test. This particular teacher, she LOVES to
annoy, so I took good advantage of that. Seeing as
I have established a position of transparent
dominance in that class, speaking out in a lecture
was really no problem. So this girl (who is a
SOLID 10 on my scale) sits down across the room,
which is my favorable flirting distance. I raise
my hand and ask the teacher,

"Is this a permanent arrangement? I don't want HER
in my class" She smiles and winks at me "Gee, I
love you too." Of course I froze, and rather than
saying, "damn right you do," I TURNED AWAY!! Now
to much later, she raises her hand and asks,
"Where do I write my answers?" Instinctively I
turn and say, in a perfect sarcastic tone, "On
your forehead" She laughed and replied with a
flirtatious "shut-up". I FROZE AGAIN!!! I've
tried making conversation in the mall with female
clerks, and I get on a roll. Just as I'm about to
bowl her over with charm, I roll right into the
gutter. Any advice? PM in Anaheim CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I have some advice...

Use that GENIOUS MIND of yours to PLAN a few
things to say back to women.

Duh.

Here, I'll get you started with a few ideas...

"You love me."

"This relationship isn't going to work."

"Don't turn into a stalker, OK?"

...there's a list of three to get you going.

The MAGICAL thing about these types of
responses is that they can be used in almost ANY
situation.

Let's say you're teasing a girl, and she's
laughing and hitting you.

You look at her with a serious face and say,
"You love me."

Perfect.

Or you could use one of the other "standards"
I've listed above.

The POINT is that you need to have a few
STANDARD things to say in ANY situation.

Practice the above three until you can USE
them. Then take a few minutes and dedicate that
GENIUS MIND of yours to coming up with a few more.

Next thing you know, you'll actually be saying
something BACK in these situations.

REMEMBER: The point isn't to have something
cute to say to women, the POINT is getting her
email/number, etc. So don't worry about being too
cute. Just worry about getting to the next STEP.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Man, man man! I have got to tell you! I was a
skeptic at first.....really.....I was! Because I
thought that being C&F was somehow trying to be
mean, but it's actually the opposite!

I was at school (well, not really school, but
college) in the student cafe, chilling, and a good
friend of mine (a really attractive girl that I've
had my eye on for a while) sat down next to me.

Her: "hi." Me: "Oh, hi there, (her). So what's
up?" Her: "Well, I just passed that big psychology
test with a 95." Me: *smiles* "Cool. So how do you
think this'll effect your grade?" Her: *laughs*
"Ah, well it probably won't do much." Me: *smiles*
"Nah, it probably won't. It's not like you
actually know the material, everybody knows you
probably cheated. Heh." Her: *laughs* "Hey" Me:
*Mocking her (she has a squeaky voice)* "Hey!"
lol. C'mon now, both you and I know that you know
the back of your eyelids more than you know about
that class. All you do in there is sleep! *I then
lay my head down and start making mock snoring
noises. She loved that! We talked some more and
later, I finally got her phone number and I called
her and we arranged plans for a lunch date. Cool!
The thing is, is that you are actually being NICER
by being C&F because you are giving her what she
wants, and making her feel special around you! NOW
I GET IT! THANKS MAN! YOU DEFINATLY KNOW YOUR
SH**!!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OH YE OF LITTLE FAITH!

Yeah, you know, that was probably a bad idea to
actually say something INTERESTING AND FUNNY to
her.

When she said "hi" to you, you probably should
have just acted shy and nervous, and hoped that if
you were nice enough over the next 6 months that
maybe she'd notice you and fall in love magically.

You probably should have just told her what a
great job she did on her test, and how maybe she
could help you study sometime (as a subtle and
dumb-ass way to hint that you like her).

You know, you're RIGHT about one thing:

When you're Cocky & Funny (and you're ACTUALLY
funny when you're doing it), you ARE giving women
what they want.

Go figure. You get to actually have fun, not
kiss ass, AND be successful with women.

Thanks for the great story.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I am recently divorced and just getting back in
the game, so your letters are definitely a great
reminded as to what works (and I have read the
ebook). I just had to share an experience with
you.

I'm at dinner with this girl the other night (3rd
date) and she is telling how her best friend's
husband is completely whipped over his wife. To
the point that he won't make a decision or take a
step without her. As she's telling me this I am of
course leaning way back. She obviously wants me to
say something, but I just slightly raise an
eyebrow. Then the kicker, she asks me if I have
ever been whipped on a girl or if I could be. I
gave her the nice, long pause and said what do you
think? She responded with "No Way!" Now this girl
is very intelligent and fairly aggressive, but she
then says that she has to have a guy that is more
aggressive and she can't stand when guys don't
take the lead. I thought this girl might be
reading your emails.

Then later at my apartment as we are all over each
other on the couch, she stops and asks me "what
kind of girl do you respect?" Now that was the
first time a girl asked me that, so I just said
"the kind that is independent and makes her own
decisions." Now I'm not sure if that was the right
thing to say, so about 10 minutes later when I
didn't think things were going much further, I
said "I think we should call it a night". She
quickly asked me if there was going to be a fourth
date? I said, "of course why wouldn't there be".
Then the best happens, she said, "Well, I didn't
think you liked me the first time we went out and
you just have me a little confused." Great stuff.

Then I think I make a mistake. She asks me what my
plans are for the next night and I say I don't
have any. So she asks me to go out the next night
and I say yes even though I would rather hold off
for a couple of days. I have a few questions:

1) What is another way I could respond to the
question of going out the very next night?

2) If I wanted to back out but still keep her
interested, what suggestions do you have?

Thanks,

C Houston

>>>MY COMMENTS:

WOW, you've raised about 147 GREAT points in
your email.

Let's talk about a few of them...

Women who say, "I like a man to be aggressive
and take the lead" aren't reading my emails (well,
maybe they are... lol).

I'm WRITING my emails BECAUSE women like men
who do this.

I'm not inventing the things I teach in my
head, then hoping they work in the real world.

I've been researching, testing, and studying
this stuff for a LONG time now.

For every thing that I teach or suggest, I've
tried at least a HUNDRED others... in other words,
I'm only teaching the best of the best.

When you hear me saying, "Women aren't
attracted to Wussies", it's not just to be cute.

You will RARELY find a statement that is true
more of the time than that one.

And I mean VERY rarely.

Now, when she asked you, "What kind of woman do
you respect?" - you should have said:

"Ones that don't ask a lot of questions"

...or...

"Ones that earn it"

...lol.

Get it?

WHAT ARE YOU DOING answering a question like
that with a normal, serious, BORING answer?

Read my book again.

Be more of a CHALLENGE.

Be mysterious.

And for GOSHSAKES, DON'T BE PREDICTABLE!

Finally, when she asked you what your plans
were for the next night, you should have said:

"My plans are to not be with YOU, YOU BRAT!"

...or...

"That's classified"

...or...

"NO, you CAN NOT take me to Vegas and marry me"

...or any one of 100 ways to both tease her and
put her off the trail of hanging out with you.

You do not need to be deceptive or manipulative
in order to say "I'd prefer to not see you
tomorrow night".

You don't need permission to NOT see a woman.

By rolling over and doing what you did, you put
aside your own desires, and demonstrated that your
INNER WUSSY is actually in charge.

I've threatened the Deuce B. treatment before:

"Don't make me come down there and He-Bitch
Man-Slap you!"


***QUESTION***

Hey Mr.Womanizer

I must say, this is actually the first time I'm
impressed with your email dating tip. You know
why? Because this is the first time your being
fully honest, completely clear and straight
forward. To my knowledge this is the first time
your saying a guy should be MEAN AND JERK to
attract women.

I know exactly what your saying. In another words
your saying "you should be a BADBOY to attract
women".

But you also say women like funny guys (sense of
humor). I don't know any bad boys, mean,
jerks.....who are funny. They are serious types.

I really think you are confusing people because
you said 2 different things.

OR: do you mean a guy should be a BADBOY-JERK as
well as being FUNNY. But BADBOY-JERK can't be
funny.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think I'm going to have to make a new rule
for sending questions and comments to me:

NEW RULE:

YOU MUST DEMONSTRATE THAT YOU AREN'T A DUMB ASS
WITHIN THE FIRST THREE SENTENCES OF YOUR EMAIL, OR
I WILL NOT EXTEND YOU THE COURTESY OF A RESPONSE.

Of course, you've failed to comply with my new
rule in your email...

But I do have to say, your MIS-interpretation
of my ideas is quite entertaining...

"...a guy should be MEAN AND JERK to attract
women..."

Now THERE'S an idea you should get out and try.

The concept of "Being mean and JERKING".

It just might work for you.

Do yourself and everyone you know a favor, and
learn how to read and comprehend complex concepts
like HUMOR...and FLIRTING.

Until that time, continue to fully expect and
tolerate that curious and persistent dry feeling
you have right at the point where your legs meet.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

All I can say is your dating tips really work!!

I am 53 year old man spending a fantastic,
romantic 4-day weekend with a wonderful 39 year
old women that I just meet a few weeks ago.

I am taking a short break from this weekend's
activities to email a few other female friends
that are in their early 40's - all are witty,
smart and attractive.

I was married for a long time and had not dated
for 30 years. Was not sure how to start.

WOW - You have helped me get well on my way.

Best regards to you, J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, yeah, yeah... you always were a SHOW OFF!

Nice!

You know, one of the things that I love about
this material is that INTELLIGENT guys can "get"
it and start using it almost INSTANTLY.

Once you get it, you REALLY can improve
quickly.

Welcome back, and congrats on the success.

If you're reading this right now, and you'd
like to learn how to get "back into the game"...
or how to get into the game in the FIRST PLACE,
then make sure you go and check this out:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

hello!...my name is c!....i signed up for your
newsletter just to see exactly what is going
through men's minds sometimes...i read quite a few
of them and realized you are absolutely right on
target on the way to pick up women and what to say
to them...women love arrogance... but, to my
question....i am normally the outspoken life of
the party...have a bit of an attitude...and don't
have any problem picking men up...but the thing
is...i am the aggressive one...i pursue the prey
with no fear...and many men do approach me but,
they are normally the idiots who never talk to
anyone...they see i am very easy going and easy to
talk to..i talk to EVERYONE...i never get the
arrogant bastards like i want...the guys are
always too SENSITIVE...and overbearing, feely
feely....i had once went out with an arrogant man
as yourself...the techniques you described , i
wouldn't doubt if he had your book...but it kept
me
coming back for more...he knew what to say and
when to say it..ALL THE TIME.......a friend of
mine had actually hooked us up....but..how do i
find them?...how do i get that arrogant bastard to
approach me...and what are the signs to look
for?....i would really appreciate this advice....i
and many of my friend...HELP!

C

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL!

Well, I'm not sure that I can help you find an
"arrogant bastard", but you did say something that
I'd like to comment on...

You said that "...guys are always too
SENSITIVE... and overbearing, feely feely..."

TRANSLATION: Guys act like WUSSIES!

Now, the funny thing is, I KNOW what kind of
woman you are. You're FUNNY, INTERESTING, AND
CHARISMATIC.

I'm sure of it. Guaranteed.

You're the kind of woman that men DREAM ABOUT.

You probably enjoy life, have fun whatever
you're doing, know what you want... etc. You're
probably successful in your line of work, have a
life of your own... and on and on.

You're also the kind of woman that most men
have NO idea how to deal with.

Most guys will turn you OFF within 3 seconds of
the introduction, because they'll start acting all
nice, polite, and sweet.

BORING.

I'm not sure that I can help you in your quest
for an "arrogant bastard", but I'll feel free to
use your email to demonstrate that women like
yourself are NOT interested in men who are "feely
feely".


***SUCCESS STORY***

A friend got me your books as a birthday present,
being that before then I was pretty pathetic with
the ladies, Being a wrestler made it all the more
of an insult. When I did get a relationship, it
would never last more than a week, and nothing
would come out of it. Well, after reading your
stuff I realized how much of a wuss I was. I did
almost every wuss thing in the book, not to
mention just having a severe lack of confidence...

Just to see what works, I went on one of those
picture rating sites. I'll tell ya, of 3 pictures
I ranked from 6.5 to 9.5. The 6.5 one being me as
a well groomed nice guy with a smile and the 9.5
as me a year later in a cast with a "pissed off
drug dealer" look (I'd been missing a season or
wrestling, it was only fitting). I realized the
nice guy look wasn't working. I also met about a
dozen girls on that system and just practiced the
c&f on them. I was the one calling the shots,
dropping the boring ones and sticking to the
interesting ones, instead of them choosing
whether I was worthy... The funny part was, they
each started telling me how infatuated they were
with me, and telling me about dozens of guys who
piss them off, where each of those guys were doing
things I used to do by nature... Well, after I
realized that I actually did have it in me, I
brought it all together and started using it on
girls back at college. I'm currently going out
with one of the most beautiful in my college, and
it's you I have to thank for it.

JW, Pennsylvania

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, nice.

You have really spelled it out.

A lot of young, hot women say that men are
"annoying".

What they REALLY mean is that men are BORING
and that they feel no ATTRACTION for them.

As strange as the truth is, ATTRACTION is NOT
triggered by being a "nice" guy.

Nice will never do it.

Of course, as you know, I never suggest that
men act in an ABUSIVE way...

But if you want to get out of the "annoying"
category, you MUST start BEHAVING AND
COMMUNICATING DIFFERENTLY.

PREDICTABILITY is ANNOYING to women.

Being CLINGY is ANNOYING to women.

Acting like a WUSSY is ANNOYING to women.

Congratulations, and thank you for taking the
time to write in and share your success story.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

David,

Can you give some advice to women? I know your e-
mail is just for men but I REALLY need some help.

I've tried to get this guy and I think I need a
change in my attitude towards him. He's hard to
get because he follows this pattern: he calls, he
seems very interested but a few days or a week
later he will change his mind and ignore me (he's
done the same with 2 other girls) or he'll date me
for a while then ignore me then come back a few
months later. This last time he tried coming back
to me while dating another girl still and it
seemed that it was only for sex. I flat out
refused.

Here is what I've tried: If I straight out refuse
him and tell him what I think, he backs off
completely. If I try to be nice and forgiving,
he'll take it and follow the same pattern.

I need a different attitude for when he'll come
back next time (not so serious and not so nice
either)- something that will surprise him. Any
suggestions?

Thanks

AC, San Diego

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you're not exactly going to like this,
but I'm about to take your email and use it for my
own selfish purposes...

Here's what I heard you say:

"Dear David,

I can't explain it, but for some reason I'm
ATTRACTED to men who are unpredictable, untamed,
successful with other women, and probably BAD FOR
ME."

The thing that REALLY strikes me about your
letter is that you're basically asking me how to
get a guy who probably ISN'T good for you.

Now, why would you go to all the trouble to
think about this, write me an email, etc.?

IT'S BECAUSE YOU CAN'T STOP YOUR ATTRACTION.

You probably KNOW that this guy isn't going to
stay around, no matter WHAT you do...

But you still want him!

Advice to you: Find a different guy.

Advice to guys: Learn from this example.


***QUESTION***

David

First of all your stuff works great. I'm 31 years
old-- been rich, been poor and rich again. I've
been addicted to personal development my whole
life. I even was a top trainer for motivational
guru Tony Robbins and currently run my own seminar
company. Yet your stuff has opened my eyes, not
only does it work with babes (I have an 19 year
old hot Latin.. who's all over me.. and her
friends are hitting on me all the time--enough
said.)

This stuff works great in all areas of life. I
using it in business with great results

I have a question though.

I've been with this girl about 11 months know and
I'm all-ways busting on her..c/f stuff. I love it
and am natural at it. Even start blow-out fights
so we can have make up latter. Interesting
note..the more I do that the more attracted she
becomes. Go figure.

My question is.. Do you recommend doing less C/F
stuff when you've been going out for awhile or do
you pore it on even more?

I'm Sure I know what you'll say, but I want to
make Sure.

Got to run.. Look forward to getting your adv.
stuff

Thanks again, EL- New Jersey

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, first off, I don't recommend STARTING
FIGHTS just so you can make up later.

I don't think that it's necessary to actually
START serious conflicts with women.

While it DOES work in many cases to intensify a
sexual attraction, it doesn't lead to long term
good health.

As for your question about doing more or less
of the Cocky & Funny with a girl that you've been
dating for awhile...

You need to keep doing what WORKS in your life.

Too many men make the mistake of STOPPING the
things that are working.

There is another, less common mistake that some
men make which is to increase the amount of Cocky
& Funny to the point where it becomes predictable,
boring, and annoying.

Once you become comfortable using the material,
you will have a "feel" for it.

Do what works, and stop doing what doesn't.

Every situation is slightly different, and
you're at the point where no "formula" will fit
your situation exactly.

And as for you and your 19 year old hot Latin
girl...

You suck, and no men like you.


***QUESTION***

Yo man!

All You write in your newsletters does make sense,
BUT when do You have time to date/f*** all these
babes if You write such a long newsletters 3 times
a week. I doubt You are so journalistically gifted
to do it just like that.

Correct me if I'm wrong. M Katowice, Poland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Consider yourself corrected... I write all of
the newsletters, and I have a life.

Seriously, these newsletters DO take me a lot
of time to create...

I've considered having friends and other
contributors "guest write" a few (and I may do
that in the near future), but up until now, I've
written every one myself, by hand.

My goal is to have the VERY BEST free
newsletter that is or has EVER been offered by
anyone, anywhere, on ANY topic.

This is how I communicate with my readers and
family of customers, and it's important.

I estimate that I spend about 12-15 hours every
week actually writing the newsletters, and another
who-knows-how-many hours thinking about, preparing
for, and planning them.

There are times, of course when I work so much
on this stuff that I neglect my social life... I
really do love what I do.

But hey, if I had no time for a personal life,
what fun would THAT be?

No dates makes David D. a dull writer...


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I thank God every day for magically making
your emails appear in my mailbox. I don't know
how I started getting them, but the timing
couldn't have been better. I recently became
single. I have always been a wussy doormat.
Fortunately, your emails came along, I downloaded
your e-book, and I took a real hard look at myself
and what has happened to me over the years.

Here is what I found. Every time I tried to keep a
girl at a distance because I already had a
girlfriend or it was a girl I worked with, I would
try to bust on her and scare her away. Guess
what? They loved me more. I also realized that I
loved flirting with old women or my girlfriend's
moms. There was never a chance that I would
really want to hook up with them, so I was C&F and
didn't really care. They thought it was so funny
and cute. Guess what? These older women loved me
too. I have always had better relationships with
my girlfriend's mom than I did with my girlfriend.
In fact, some moms couldn't believe that their
daughter was stupid enough to break up with me.
THE LIGHT WENT ON! I had been practicing all
along on women I wasn't interested in, and the
results were blatantly obvious. I immediately had
a surge of confidence and started playing the C&F
on EVERYONE. I went from buying drinks for
everyone to not buying any drinks (including my
own). How dare someone think that they can talk
to me with out first buying me a drink?

Guys, this stuff works on everyone, and you can
practice it on anyone. Trust me, you will quickly
gain confidence and make it a habit. Then, when
you are out trolling for trim, you will be a
natural.

GOD BLESS DAVE,

M.L. Northern California

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, this is great insight...

Often the women you DON'T want are the ones
that pursue you, while the ones that you are
interested in run away because you're pursuing
THEM.

You must translate this "comfort" to your
interactions with the women you ARE interested in,
and communicate in the same way...

By the way, in your email you said:

"I have always had better relationships with my
girlfriend's mom than I did with my girlfriend..."

Dude, that's not right. Be cool.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

A success story from S in Mass...I've been
receiving your newsletters for awhile now and
found them to be full of info. I answered this
woman's personal ad recently, she's 34, I'm 32...I
started using the C&F techniques over the phone,
then got her e-mail address, continued with the
C&F, and sent her my pic...She liked the pic and
all of the other C&F comments I made... like
telling her that I would have to meet her in
person to make sure that she wasn't a man since
she had no pic...Well I met her one night at a
donut shop and we chatted for a bit...To be
different from other guys she's gone out with, I
showed her some card tricks that I've been
doing...They're a real ice breaker and they seemed
to put her more at ease as she had said she was a
little nervous about meeting me..We had plenty to
talk about and she liked the card tricks and
couldn't figure them out...She had told me on the
phone that she was a former stripper at a local
club..She was pretty with a nice body to boot...I
was surprised when she only considered herself a 7
or 8! After the donut shop, we went to get a drink
at a bar and left when it closed....I took her to
her place after that, and I'm not sure what it
was, the C&F, the alcohol, maybe both, but she
couldn't get enough of me....We must have made out
for about 2 hours that night...she asked when she
would see me again..she e-mails me constantly and
even asked if we were an item...and this is only
after one date...I'm looking forward to seeing her
again and a note to all of you who aren't using
C&F, C&F is the bible of getting the hot girls!
***I think she may have read one of your
newsletters before, as we were kissing, she pulled
back a couple times as to tease me,,, she stole
the move I was gonna use on her!***

Hats off to u, Dave Keep the newsletters coming! S
in Mass

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL!

You don't realize what a MIRACLE your letter
actually is...

I don't remember recommending that you meet
women in a DONUT SHOP and do CARD TRICKS for them
for a first meeting.

Creative? Yes.

Original? Yes.

Dorky like you read about? Yes.

But hey, if it works for you, then keep it up!

Thank your lucky stars that you were keeping up
the teasing and the Cocky & Funny. You must have
distracted her enough to make her not notice...

lol.

Thanks for the email.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

Thanks for all you've written. Your writing is
inspired and your wit is great. As a 51 year old
man, my success with your program has easily gone
from 20% to about 85%. I generally use email and
create a non threatening relationship through
emails, including humor, and romantic discussions.
I avoid sex talk, but when I the woman brings it
up, which they always do, I ask them "Are you
trying to seduce me?" Invariably the women wants
to make the next move... It's amazing! There is a
subject however, that you haven't covered.... How
to avoid the broken hearted woman? Your
techniques are so successful, and the women get so
attached to me that I can't get rid of them. It is
a difficult situation. Since I'm certain that this
must happen to you often, I'm wondering how you
deal with the woman who becomes attached to you
like Velcro. I really think it might be
worthwhile for you to write a topic on it. Again,
thanks for your marvelous techniques. With
Kindest Regards, R.D.. Massachusetts.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ohhhh, I see.

So if I write a book and teach you how to get
rich you're going to email me and tell me that
you're having trouble spending all the money, and
your tax bill is too large?

The answer you're looking for is simple:

If you don't want a woman to get attached to
you in the FIRST PLACE, don't talk her more than a
couple of times a week, or see her more than every
week or so.

That's the answer you're looking for.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

First off, your eBook is awesome. I've practiced
c&f on almost every girl I know, both friends and
girls I've dated. It's amazing how much it works
on such a majority of women! Every girl I've used
it on has been unbelievably receptive and cannot
get enough of me. Consequently, my confidence is
boosted. It's one of the best chain-reactions in
the world. Here's some proof:

There's this girl I met (before getting your
eBook), and I got her e-mail address through a
friend. I immediately sent her a message telling
her how beautiful she was, how I've heard good
things about her... you know, WUSS behavior.
Anyway, we started talking on an instant messenger
for a while, and things were going NOWHERE...
until I read a few of your mailbags and got the
eBook that is. This is when I tried c&f and
INSTANTLY turned the tables around. Now she keeps
sending me pictures of her, keeps telling me that
she's never met anyone like me, and actually BEGS
me to get online whenever I can! Remember, this
girl is beautiful... and I rip on her every chance
I get!!! I even catch myself being mean sometimes
when she acts like she's better than everyone, but
she still eats it up. I know that your advice
never includes being mean or hurtful, but I have
learned that getting mad at a girl for dumb things
she does sometimes makes her realize that you're
not another doormat, and that you won't put up
with her bullsh** just for the sake of her
attention. Anyway, there was a question to this
whole thing:

A few years ago, I started dating an 9.5 girl with
a 10 personality. No joke, this girl was smart,
funny, and beautiful. We dated for a little
while, but she ended up moving to another town
with her family. Needless to say, we didn't see
each other anymore. The only contact we had was
an e-mail here and there. Fast forward to 4 years
later, and I move to the same town after finishing
college. I ran into her at a restaurant where she
was a waitress, and she was totally surprised and
glad to see me. I kept my cool, didn't act like
I've missed her, but was still upbeat and funny in
the little time we had to talk. A couple weeks
after I saw her, she e-mails me and tells me that
she wants to hang out. She also said she's seeing
someone, even though he's gone for a few months,
and that she just "wants to talk."

So what do I do here, man? I want to see her, but
as more than friends. I'll obviously keep on doing
what has given me such great success recently,
(c&f, indifference, independence) but I need a
little more advice on the rare "second chance
girl." Should I bail? just be friends? or try for
more using your techniques? Of course I want the
girl that seems impossible to have, but she's
worth it. Any advice would help a lot, really.

Thanks again, you've given a lot of guys a second
chance at more than just women.

RM, Denver

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I think you should stop letting your
INNER WUSS run free on this one.

Stop it!

Stop being ATTACHED to the situation.

Relax.

If you want to spend time with her, do it.

You have NO IDEA what's REALLY going through
her mind.

She might be seeing a guy casually... he might
not even be a boyfriend.

Or she might be just about to break up with
him.

Or she might be almost engaged to him.

Who knows...

But what I DO know is that you need to chill
out.

If you want to see her, go have tea for an
hour.

Have fun, and don't act like a WUSS around her.

You need to stop treating this like it's going
to make or break your personal happiness.

Think about it for a minute. This girl could
have changed over the last four years, and might
be someone that you don't actually want to be
with.

The point is that you need to CHILL.

Making a woman this important this soon is not
a good idea, and it will probably cause you to do
something stupid.

You're doing fine, now keep it up!


***COMMENT***

David,

I've been getting your newsletter for about a
month now and finally got your book today. I was
a little hesitant at first, but after about 10
pages, like everything else I've seen, I was
hooked. You seem to say and spell out the things
that we all see but can't get quite right in our
heads and I wanted to thank you for it. I have a
cousin who would be one of the 5 people I
definitely need to start hanging around and make
that push to get rid of the wuss that is dying as
I type, and the more I think about why he succeeds
so well, the more your book is proven in my mind.
Everything that I always used to watch in
admiration, I am starting to see myself doing, and
hopefully with some practice, I'll have something
for you to send out to the others who are on their
way to becoming men. Your book is awesome, and
once I get the basics down them I'm sure the
advanced series will kick ass too. I just wanted
to say thanks real quick for all you've done,
congratulations on finding a way to put it in
words, and thanks for giving that first step
towards something new to another dedicated
follower. Time to read again, learn, focus, and
make us both proud.

N from Washington State University

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, you're welcome.

Isn't it great when things that used to make no
sense at all finally begin to come together right
in front of your eyes?

Sometimes just looking at something in a new
way will do that for you.

One of the things my programs do is give you a
BEHIND-THE-SCENES look at how the "naturals" work,
and why they succeed with women.

I like to think of it as going into high school
algebra class, but instead of being handed the
normal textbook, you're getting the TEACHER'S
EDITION with all the answers.

It's like putting on the 3-D glasses when
you're watching a 3-D movie.

All of a sudden, things that never made any
sense before (and things that looked like "magic")
all come together...and you get those "AH HA!"
moments.

It is TRULY AMAZING when you can actually begin
to understand what makes male/female ATTRACTION
happen, and then you can start to REALLY see why
some guys who aren't particularly good looking,
rich, or young wind up with all the women.

...if you're reading this right now and you'd
like to be one of the few men who have the ability
to meet women anywhere, anytime, in any situation,
then I recommend you check out some of my stuff...

You can download my online eBook "Double Your
Dating" right now and be reading it within a few
minutes. It's here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

My fantastic program "Cocky Comedy" will give
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Go watch all the video previews right here:

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This program is the latest and greatest from
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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.