***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
Dave,
WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
your question.
The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.
To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.
Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?
The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
attracted to.
This does two things:
1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.
2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.
Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.
Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).
Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.
If you're reading this right now, and you're
one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
she said:
"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."
I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.
It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.
Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.
Don't let it bother you.
Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
woman's wishes.
But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.
The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.
I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
this.
It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.
Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.
This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.
And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.
First of all, don't start acting TOO
DIFFERENTLY.
If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.
If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
that happens.
If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.
With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.
As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!
When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.
As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
running away.
In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out
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Go check out some free video preview clips, and
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I am a good looking guy but never really got the
chicks i wanted, only got ones that wanted me.
That is history now thanks to your material..
In the lecture hall a chick asks me pointing "is
that free?" (meaning the seat next to me coz the
hall was full)... i made it out she was pointing
at my lap and i said.. "No you can't sit on my
lap, how about this seat?!". she cracks up
laughing and sits down.
I tease her hard at the interval, and after
lecture she asks me if i am single. To which i
reply "Yeah, i suppose i have space for one
more!!"- she giggles and calls me naughty.
She texts me all the time now and we plan to do a
proper hook up next week....life is great!
I noticed you can use C&F in doses, just 5 good
hits and you're in. Rest of the time just sit back
and enjoy having a "normal" conversation.
Anybody else noticed this?
J.D. London, England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've made a great point here...
If you start off the interaction with a woman
in the right way, you'll form a "first impression"
that will cause her to see ANYTHING you do from
then on in the context of the "Cocky & Funny"
attitude that you've demonstrated.
I personally think it's a good idea if you keep
up the Cocky & Funny, easing off as you start
having more and more conversation. But, don't stop
entirely, because at some point you'll begin to
lose the magnetic challenge that worked for you in
the first place.
This is another reminder that once a woman
thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to
think of you in that way for a LONG time.
And if you start out by acting like a WUSSY,
then she's going to assume that you will ALWAYS
act like one, and run.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
A casual "playmate" of mine just turned me on to
you and your sage advice and I must admit that
it's terribly accurate. Nothing is sexier than
confidence and if a man can tie it all up with a
funny bow, all the better!!!
Speaking of being tied up, I'm a very submissive
woman behind closed doors but outside of the
bedroom I tend to employ the c&f approach myself
(it's reflex - I come by it naturally). My
question is how do I put these two aspects of my
personality together to achieve optimum success
out there in the dating world?
L. from Vancouver
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Um, well the first thing you do is SEND ME
PICTURES AND GIVE ME YOUR PHONE NUMBER.
I recommend PERSONAL COACHING from me...
nothing else will do. It really is a must.
Your challenge is going to be finding a man who
is a match to you. It's not going to be easy...
(I love my job, by the way.)
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Alright, just bought your book a few weeks ago and
have devoured it twice over! Great stuff in there!
The ladies LOVE this stuff! Now, like they say,
WHEN IT RAINS IT POURS!
I have more ladies than I can handle, being a very
busy college student. Needless to say, I find
time!
Now, my question here is on jealousy:
If Girl A sees me out with Girl B, given Girl A
likes me enough, will this jealousy INCREASE Girl
A's attraction to me? Or, for that matter, Girl A
knowing anything about me being involved with any
other girl? I ask this b/c I'm a little more
attracted to Girl A than the others but still want
to "get to know" the others!! What do you say,
Dave?
Thanks, dk
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Jealousy is an interesting emotion.
Some believe that it's the most POWERFUL
emotion.
Generally speaking, if a woman knows that
you're seeing other women, it will make you more
attractive.
But you must be careful.
Jealousy can make people crazy... and it can
lead otherwise normal people to do all kinds of
insane things. If you make the wrong person
jealous, they can turn into a stalker...
That said, my perspective is that you need to
live your life and not worry about what others
think of you.
This trait will lead to women finding you more
attractive in and of itself.
If you're always worrying about whether a woman
will be upset because she sees you out with
another woman, then you'll be acting like a wussy
all night because you're scared.
On the other hand, if you could care less what
others think of you, then it will project into all
other areas of your behavior, and will lead to
other good things.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey big D-
I've been getting your newsletter for a while now,
and man has it helped- you're a genius! Every
Friday night I go out to parties, but there's
usually the same people there, so they'd notice if
I drastically changed how I act, so I've been
working in your techniques bit by bit, and most
everyone just thinks I'm finally coming out of my
shell.
Last Friday night I was there and there was this
new girl from another school- she'd never seen me
before, so I figured I had nothing to lose. I
went over to her and went all out. She was
wearing one of those shirts that's just a strap in
the back- basically a half-shirt. I walked right
up to her and said, "Ya know, when someone wears
that kind of thing, it can only mean one thing."
She pulled one of those half-smile "I'm hot and I
know it- just give me your stupid line and go
away" looks. So I said, "It means you can't
afford an entire shirt, and you were just hoping
no one would notice since it's dark in here."
Needless to say, she was caught off guard. She
started to get a mad look on her face, so I gave
her crap about not being able to take a joke, and
mentioned that it's a good thing she could at
least afford an entire pair of pants. Finally she
laughed, and said, "What, you don't like my
shirt?" and kind of pouted. So I said, "It's not
bad, but it'd look even better on the floor of my
bedroom." Ya know, those really cheezy pick up
lines can actually work if you deliver them
sarcastically so the girl knows you're making fun
of people that use them for real. Another kind of
backward logic that works, so ya just use it, I
guess. Anyway, about a minute later I got her to
give me her e-mail address and number, and I
walked away. A couple days later I sent her an e-
mail saying it was nice to meet her and if she
wanted to see me I'd be there the next week. She
replied the same day saying she'd be there - and
that's tonight. I'm off to go there now, so I'll
be sure to fill you in on how things go on our
"second time."
Thanks again, David! T in CO
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Love it! Great work, and good job sticking it
out through those first couple of minutes of
conversation.
***COMMENT***
Hey whats going on Dave?
I don't have a question, cause i have the C/F down
patt. So the other night i decided to take it a
little further. I was with this girl and then
after a while, i knew that she wanted to start to
get busy, so I TEASED HER!!!! I don't wanna get
into much boring detail, but I made her want it
more, it was like i owned her. It was great. And
the best part here, I've only received now 2 e-
mails from you. The 2nd one was the one with
questions and stories... and i got it the day
after. What can i say, I'm a natural. Thanks
Dave, keep the e-mails coming... soon to get the
book.
A Saskatoon, SK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, a man who gets it.
It's hard for most guys to lean back and not
give a woman what she wants in the moment.
But, if you can just hold back, tease, and let
the anticipation build up... and learn how to
amplify a woman's feelings by doing this, you'll
get so much further, so much faster.
On the other hand, if you try to keep pushing
forward always, you'll run into resistance at
every turn... and wind up frustrated because she's
telling you to stop.
Nice moves.
***QUESTION***
Hows it goin, Dave? Just wanted to start off by
saying I've read your book and the c&f techniques
have worked wonders. But, lately I've been having
a bit of a problem. See I've had this one girl
who has been my good friend for a few years now,
and shes always set me up with her friends etc.
ppl always joke about how we should get married
and everything and we just laugh... but lately im
realizing that i really do like her. I'm at a
total loss on how i should confront her (the 3-5
minute c&f routine doesn't really apply here!),
and need some tips/ideas from turning a 'just
friend' into a girlfriend.
Thanks in advance,
--CJ from Austin
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you're an interesting guy.
Most guys who have a golden goose (her) that is
laying (no pun intended) golden eggs (her friends)
wouldn't be so quick to try to hook up.
Think about what you're risking here...
If things don't work out with her, you're going
to most likely be out of luck as far as the
getting hooked up with the girlfriends... and
you'll probably lose her as a friend as well.
These things aren't certainties, but they're a
pretty good bet.
If you want to see if she's interested in you,
try using the Kiss Test on her (it's on the second
page of my main web site, and in my book). It
works wonders.
***QUESTION***
Hello Dave,
I totally agree that success with women only comes
when you actually grab your balls, go out and do
something about it - you actually need to IMPROVE
in all of the ways possible. Just recently i've
been concentrating on training my voice.
What advice would you give on how to best train
your voice so it is "attractive" to women - and
generally conveys self-confidence and control? By
the way you sound great on your seminar CDs.
B London
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, let's summarize what you've said here:
1) You grab your balls when you go out to meet
women.
2) You like the way my voice sounds.
I'm not sure about you, dude.
lol... the best things you can do to train your
voice are:
1) Speak slowly and clearly.
2) Put more bass in your voice... talk in a lower
register.
3) Use pauses for effect.
Just as important as the VOICE is your "Body
Language" and gestures. In fact your voice tone
and your Body Language make up almost ALL of the
stuff that makes a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.
More great tips on this stuff are here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage
***QUESTION***
You are the man. i think people should put a
monument for u. the C&F routine had worked wonders
for me. im actually now getting digits and e-mail.
But this C&F routine got me thinkin. your great
methods are now probably in the hands of a million
guys or even more, so if two guys playing the C&F
on the same girl, who will she choose? like i
mean, do we have then add another part to our
character? And another question, wont these babes
get tired of us guys of approaching them with the
same C&F routine??? i think they will need
something different in their lives so wont they go
for the jerks or some other people???? u gotta
answer these questions for the sake of
humanity!!!!
U.W Israel
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, for the sake of humanity, here's the
deal:
Most guys just want to meet a nice girl and
settle down into a relationship. My materials help
guys do that FASTER than they would have before,
and date more women in the process, so they
eventually meet a BETTER girl in which to have a
relationship than they would have before.
And you don't have to worry... there are plenty
of women out there.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I want to thank you for all of the help. I admit,
I used to be a Wussy. I know this now. But I
recently started working at a store and found a
lady there to be very attractive. I had never
asked a lady out before, because of my shyness,
and being use to them just confronting me or
having their friends do it. I was ready for a
change in this and decided to use your techniques.
I used your techniques and simply asked the lady
out with a C&F approach. Needless to say, after
work tonight we were eating out and SHE actually
requested we go to a more 'Private' location
nearby. I kept the C&F routine rolling all night.
Having to be at work the next morning we decided
to head for home. Keeping up the C&F routine I
ended up with her number and she suggested that we
go out the next night (tomorrow night). I learned
a lot about her and these bring me to some
questions.
She wanted to talk about our lives the whole
night. I kept up the 'Is this a job interview?'
stance and kept off of the normal subjects. But
she kept coming back to these subjects. How do
you get off of these subjects/questions if they
keep insisting? Also, she and I are religious
people, and I am not after the normal 'one thing.'
I'm after a relationship. Keeping in mind that we
are both religious, but sex is not out of the
question completely, how do I still make her feel
attracted to me? I also want to say thank you for
bringing light to the subject of women and God
Bless you for all of the help. You are simply THE
MAN!
Many thanks, Grateful Virginia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think you're on the right track.
If you're looking for a relationship with this
woman, and you're not going to have sex with her
before that point or before marriage, then you're
OK talking about "normal" topics.
The Cocky & Funny material will only make you
more attractive to her, so make sure you ask HER
the kinds of questions you want the answers to,
and make sure that SHE is the right girl for you.
Thanks for the email.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave.
I've read your book and i totally agree with your
C&F attitude (it has worked for me). Anyway, here
are some facts about me:I'm 21 yo, live in Greece,
really handsome,never done a PICK UP(get her
number). Although i look older and...experienced,
I'm quite inexperienced with women. I'd appreciate
if you answered a specific question. Here is the
situation i have been maaany times:I'm sitting
with a friend of mine in a cafeteria. 3 or 4
meters away there is a table with 2-3 girls
chatting or playing a board game.I "catch" one of
them staring at me with that silly expression that
says"I LIKE YOU".What should i do?I should
immediately stand up and approach their table with
confidence. Then what?I'd like you to tell me the
EXACT words i should use.
I look forward to hear from you.
Aris P.
P.S. Please forget about the email. The target
here is clear: Her mobile phone number
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, this is going to sound simple... and it
is.
The first thing you need to understand is that
if a woman likes you, then she's VERY likely to
give you her phone number, email address, or
whatever. I even know a guy who gets women's
addresses and a map to their house when he first
meets them. Really.
You need to just start talking to women.
Walk over to the table, say, "Hi" to one of the
girls, and then ask her a few questions about
herself. Finally, say "It was nice talking to
you... I'm going to get back to my friends." As
you turn to walk away, turn back and say, "Hey! Do
you have a mobile phone?" If she says "yes", then
give her a pen, and say "Write down your number,
I'd like to talk to you again."
It really is that simple.
You need to do that about 100 times in the next
month.
You'll learn so much that you won't believe it.
Do it!
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought your book about a month ago and I have
used some of your techniques to success. There is
this girl I like at my bank and who I thought
liked me. The problem is I let the beauty get the
best of me. I bought your book after I met her in
hopes to getting her. Well I used some charm by
dropping a card through the drive through and
writing if she wanted to go out Sunday night. Let
me tell ya she melted and told me that no one has
ever did that for her before. She told me to give
her my number and that she would call me for
Sunday night. Well Sunday rolled around and she
didn't call but the next time I saw her she turned
red and greeted me with a smile and the apologetic
excuse that I was away this weekend and I feel so
bad I didn't call you and then she bowed her head
and said she was sorry but didn't say she would
call. I asked two of my friends one c+f guy who
has great success with girls and he said you
should have told her "playing hard to get" and
laugh at her excuse to get her thinking. While my
other friend who seems like a wuss at times but
also gets laid quite often said to be up front and
say what happened and lets try again. What do you
think I should do? Should I say anything? Its been
a month but I see her about 3X a week at the bank.
Plus she is always telling the other tellers I
look hot by the way I dress--Armani guy and that I
am well off because I drive a real nice SUV. My
gut feeling is to move on. Thanks.
J in Ct.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, at this stage in the game, I'd recommend
that you ALWAYS get her number and email.
You be the one to email and call her first.
This way you can follow up, and she knows that
you know how to get a hold of her.
The card and the asking her out on a "date" was
probably a little too much, in my opinion.
When you do things like this, you come across
as overly interested.
Better to say "Hey, give me your email", then
to email and suggest a cup of tea. Then, if tea
goes well, suggest something else... and so on.
Let things progress naturally, and don't come
on so strong in the beginning.
Here's what I'd do if I were you:
Next time you see her, say "OK, you're playing
hard to get, but it's not working on me (in a
funny way). Give me your email and number, and
I'll call you in a few days."
Then get her info, and wait a few days to call
her.
When you do reach her, tell her that she owes
you a cup of tea for being flaky. And make her pay
for it.
And make sure you don't act like a needy Wuss,
OK?
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Your material rocks, after Henry Ford, you are the
man who has changed America. I have one huge
question. As you often say, women test a lot and
do it by many different ways. I recently have come
to a certain girl who we call, a woman player. At
some point, were everything I was doing was going
well, she just said "I love you". I know that
saying this on the first date for a guy is a no-
no, but what if she says it. I know that this time
it was a test, but what if this happens and the
girl is serious?
thank-you s-d
Quebec
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if you are interesting enough, you're
going to have women saying things like "I love
you" all the time.
And, just like Hans Solo said to Princess Leia,
you need to say...
"I know."
Don't turn into Wussy Boy and say something
dumb like... "really?".
And by the way, if a woman is SERIOUS when she
says "I love you" on the first date, then you need
to be really, really careful... lol.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave
Bought the book a couple of days ago, printed it
off yesterday (guess that defeats the point of e-
books, but it makes it easier to read sitting on
the toilet!) and read it. Went out on a date
yesterday evening, and suddenly I'm like a mind
reader...
Had a date Friday, before reading the book. She
said she doesn't even want to talk to me again.
Date last night (Sunday), was a bit cold and
wasn't opening up. Had a few beers, then told her
I could tell her things about herself that no-
one's ever told her before. Did a few minutes of
that, she melted and asked me was reading a
woman's mind my party trick! Bear in mind I only
picked this up from reading the book, and threw in
a bit of common sense and guess work into it to
make it sound good :-)
She went home to hers, I went back to mine. Asked
her to text me on my mobile when she got back
home. She done that. She's already emailed me this
morning too. Suddenly after all these years it's
starting to make sense...
Enough of my rambling, thank you for a damn fine
book. It's very early days, but already things are
changing.
Thanks again, keep up the good work!
A.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's funny, because I get a lot of emails from
guys who say things like "I downloaded your book
today, and I sat and read it all the way
through... then I went out and got a girl's
number", etc.
Of course, the best is when I get the success
stories like yours from guys who are taking the
materials, and using them to get responses from
women that they've never gotten before.
Great job...
Now, if you're ready to take your success with
women up about ten more notches, it's time for you
to get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is jam-packed with literally
hundreds and hundreds of fantastic concepts and
step-by-step techniques that will dramatically
increase your successes... far beyond where it is
right now.
You can watch some great sample video clips and
get all the details here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you're reading this right now, and you
haven't downloaded my online eBook, you need to go
and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and
literally be reading it in a few minutes. Go
download it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
And I'll talk to you soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Have you ever noticed that "funny guys" tend to
fall into two categories:
1) Dorky Funny - The type of guy that a woman
laughs AT (not WITH)
2) Confident Funny - The type of guy that not only
makes women laugh, but makes women laugh in a way
that ATTRACTS them
...?
So what's the DIFFERENCE between these two
types of guys?
Why is it that women find some guys "dorky"
even though they're LAUGHING?
What causes that "key difference"... where a
woman is laughing WITH you and not AT you?
More importantly, how can you actually USE
humor to create ATTRACTION?
As you already know from reading these
newsletters, I've developed a technique that I
call "Cocky & Funny"... and it is like MAGIC when
it comes to creating a powerful attraction with
women.
I have gotten so many questions about how to
use this technique, that I actually took the time
to create an entire AUDIO/VIDEO program on the
topic.
I call the program "Cocky Comedy" - and it's
the most powerful education available on how to
use humor to create attraction.
Did you know that MOST laughter is NOT in
response to something that's funny?
It's true.
Think about most of the things that people
laugh at... things like the weather... or like a
common experience... or a million other things...
NONE of which are FUNNY.
Laughter is not about humor. Not USUALLY, at
least.
Laughter is about TENSION and RELEASING
tension.
And I'd like to teach you how to create and
release tension... in a way that is both CHARMING
and FUNNY to women... and how to do this in a way
that makes conversations easy and natural... and
that ultimately creates a POWERFUL attraction.
Inside this program, I'll also teach you
different Cocky & Funny "lines" for every type of
situation with women - so you'll be prepared for
ANYTHING.
Take a minute and read this letter, learn a few
techniques, and watch the video clips of the
program:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy
I really believe that this program can help you
create powerful attraction with women.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
A success story with a question and lessons
learned the hard way.
Question: perhaps you have addressed this before,
but why do women choose unstable "losers" over
stable, "good guys" like me? One may noticed this
and labeled it the "SPCA" syndrome: "Society for
Prevention of Cruelty to Animals." In other words,
the woman goes for the "stray," not the "well-
bread."
I think it goes to the issue of challenge, which
has two aspects. One is "benign": the man has to
be a challenge in the sense that he is not too
available. Another, which is negative, is the man
is so "damaged" that he presents a challenge in
another, less benign way: the woman wants to "fix"
him. I heard Dr. Laura the other day, although I
usually cannot stand her. Some dimwit woman
called in and said she had been dating guy A, who
was nice, and was now dating A's friend, B, and
she did not know what to do. A was a good guy and
stable, B was a lowlife but was "exciting." Dr.
"Queen of Life" jumped all over her, asking this
genius how she would answer the same question if
her own daughter asked her that question. It was
clear by the idiot's "OK" after being given this
advice that she did not get the answer she wanted
and will probably stick with B.
Success story: Confidence.
1. Parents and religion. About 10 years ago, I
was dating a surgeon who was Jewish. I am not
Jewish, so that made a big difference and was
ultimately one of two factors leading to our
demise (the other was that I could not trust her).
She told me her parents did not approve of me
since I was non-Jewish. I just told her to her
face, "I don't care what your parents think. I'm
not here to please them." I think this took her
by surprise and increased her respect for me.
You my want to do columns on these if you have not
done so already: dealing with parents; dealing
with different religions.
2. Signs that you are confident. Every dating
advisor stresses male confidence. Watch the
woman's actions and listen to her words to detect
if your confidence is "showing" or "hitting." The
surgeon gave me two of the greatest compliments I
ever received, which confirmed that I was "doing
things right." Both were out of the blue. One:
"I can't figure you out." Two: "I never know
what you are going to do next."
Suggestions:
1. Criteria. Before arranging a blind date, be
sure to the extent possible that you ensure the
woman meets your "criteria." DO NOT BE SHY ABOUT
THIS. For example, a friend of mine (I will call
her "A"), working through a friend of hers ("B"),
set me up with a blind date I will call "Carol". I
drove about 30 minutes to meet the woman. When I
saw her, I immediately knew I did not like her
looks. The "clincher" occurred as we approached
the hostess, who asked us where we wanted to sit.
"Carol" immediately said something like, "I have
to sit somewhere I can smoke." At that point, the
date was effectively over because I am vehemently
nonsmoking. It is simply not negotiable with me.
So, we sat at a table to the side of the
restaurant instead of a waterfront table.
LESSON: neither my friend nor I remembered to
check for smoking. And, while I went ahead and had
the dinner, I lost about an hour's driving time
and the time and money for the meal with nothing
in return. The experience was a complete waste
except to re- learn the lesson: ensure the woman
is a nonsmoker.
Another interesting tactic would, after she said
something about smoking, be to say, "I'm sorry. I
did not realize you were a smoker. You know,
really, since I do not smoke the evening will be a
waste of your time and mine, so let's call it
quits." And then I should have then simply left.
The problem is that this action would have gotten
me in trouble with my good friend "A."
2. Eject after her infidelity. After you have
been dating a woman and the two of you have been
exclusive, at the first sign of her infidelity,
PUSH EJECT AND DUMP HERE. Infidelity is an
irreparable breach of trust and cannot be
repaired. I tried to fix a relationship after such
an incident, and she continued to remain in touch
with her "secondary lover." Despite advice to
dump her and her continuing affection toward me, I
held on for a few more months, which were
miserable, before finally pushing EJECT and
unilaterally dumping her with no warning or
discussion. The lesson is: pay attention to what
women DO, not to what they SAY.
C. J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, thank you for taking the time to
think this through and for clearly communicating
the points you've made. You've brought up some
important ideas, and I'd like to comment on them.
ON THE DR. LAURA STORY AND YOUR QUESTION...
One of the things that Dr. Laura doesn't get in
this particular situation goes a little something
like this:
THE WOMAN IN THE STORY WASN'T USING LOGIC TO
DECIDE WHICH MAN TO FEEL ATTRACTED TO, SO TRYING
TO CONVINCE HER WITH LOGIC IS A WASTE OF TIME.
Now, you made some valid points about the woman
enjoying the "challenge" of the "stray" and/or of
the "unavailable" guy.
This is good stuff, and it's accurate.
But, the REAL key to this situation is that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. Attraction is a
POWERFUL EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response.
And, as you might know, when you're feeling a
powerful emotion, it's difficult, or in many
cases, almost impossible to override that emotion
with LOGIC.
The woman is clearly ATTRACTED to the
"lowlife", but she also knows in her MIND that she
"should" stay with the "stable nice guy".
EMOTION beats LOGIC any day of the week when it
comes to attraction and female behavior.
Being a challenge and being unavailable are
things that TRIGGER the emotion, but once it's
triggered then there's not much that a woman can
do about it.
And as you noticed, not even advice from the
"first lady" of relationship logic can change it.
So to answer your question, the reason why
women "choose" unstable losers over stable guys
like you is...
THEY DON'T CHOOSE AT ALL.
There is no logical "decision" being made. When
it comes to ATTRACTION, "choosing" doesn't even
come into play.
If you want women to feel that powerful emotion
called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to learn
how to communicate and behave in the way that
TRIGGERS ATTRACTION.
Are you with me on this? You can get a lot more
of an "in-depth" understanding of how and why
women become ATTRACTED to men here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication
ON YOUR SUCCESS STORY AND CONFIDENCE...
I think that you're on the right track here.
When she came to you to tell you that her
parents didn't approve of you, and you responded
by saying, "I don't care what your parents think,
I'm not here to please them", you effectively made
yourself MORE powerful in her heart AND mind than
even her parents.
I'm taking a wild guess here, but I'll bet that
when she came to you to tell you this, she was
telling you because she was thinking of breaking
off the relationship and this was her way of
"introducing" the idea.
When you responded by saying, "I don't care
what they think", you probably scrambled her
signal a little. She was probably confused, but
MORE IMPORTANTLY, she was probably EMOTIONALLY
ATTRACTED to you at the same time.
This combination of confusion, emotional
attraction, and you asserting yourself as more
powerful than her parents because you didn't care,
is almost unstoppable.
As you say - "Every dating advisor stresses
male confidence". The more I've thought about
this, the more I realize that the FOUNDATION for
confidence is LACK OF INSECURITY.
In other words, if you want to be confident,
you have to START by getting over the things that
you're insecure about. Once you do this, you'll
realize that "confidence" isn't really that
important at all.
Women are generally attracted to men who don't
need APPROVAL from anyone. Call it confidence if
you want. But, I think it comes down to becoming
secure in the world and comfortable in your own
skin.
ON YOUR SUGGESTIONS OF CRITERIA AND EJECTING A
WOMAN AFTER INFIDELITY...
It's a GREAT idea to be VERY selective and to
let women know about it, EVEN IF SHE'S YOUR
"TYPE". Women are generally more attracted to men
who are more selective.
Of course, it is important to keep high
standards in life, because they usually lead to
better results in general.
And in response to your recommendation to dump
a woman at the first sign of infidelity...
This is probably a good policy.
But, there's something else that you should
probably take away from this as well.
If a woman isn't loyal, there's a good chance
that either:
1) You did a poor job selecting the type of woman
to have a relationship with in the first place...
...and/or...
2) You stopped doing the things that created the
ATTRACTION in the relationship, and turned into a
WUSSY.
In either case, there's something to learn and
improve in the future inside of YOURSELF.
YOU must learn how to KEEP HER INTEREST over
the long-haul if you want to "cheat-proof" your
relationship.
...and on another note... I really believe that
there's more than meets the eye when it comes to
success with women and dating.
The process that creates the magic emotion of
ATTRACTION is mysterious, seemingly illogical, and
"counter intuitive". If you don't understand it,
then it just won't make sense.
It's taken me literally YEARS to be able to
both attract women AND be able to explain how to
do it.
AN IMPORTANT QUESTION FOR YOU...
It's time for a new start right now.
Can you feel that "new" energy?
The beginning of a new start is an opportunity
to look back on the past year or so and think
about what went right, what didn't go so right...
and what you'd like to do DIFFERENT this time
around.
This might be YOUR time for success with women.
If it is, then you're going to need to make a
commitment to yourself, and then FOLLOW THROUGH on
that commitment.
This part of your life isn't going to "get
itself handled". YOU are going to have to do it.
If you'd like to take advantage of the time,
effort, energy, and money that I've invested
learning how to be successful with women and
dating, then I recommend that you check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.
Instead of going through years of trial and
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silver platter.
It's packed with hundreds of incredible
techniques and concepts for making women feel
ATTRACTION, and it contains over 12 full hours of
digitally recorded material, plus a 100 page
workbook.
You can check it out here... make sure to watch
and listen to the free samples:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then you need to do that
right now. You can download it now and be reading
it in just a few minutes... It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
Go check them out.
And make this year about getting this part of
your life handled. It's worth it.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Before I ever learned how to attract women, I
used to watch how those guys we call "Players"...
would walk into a room, leave with the woman of
their choice... and make it look so damn EASY.
I used to think to myself that it would be SO
fantastic if I could do that.
I figured that these guys must be "good
looking" or charming... or have SOMETHING...
...something I didn't have.
Later, after I learned the SKILL of meeting
women, I realized that the most important thing I
had been missing was knowing HOW to ATTRACT women.
Here's the BOTTOM LINE:
ANYONE can learn to meet women.
But if you don't UNDERSTAND how to create
ATTRACTION, then you will beat your head against
the wall YOUR ENTIRE LIFE and still not have any
success.
The BEST way for YOU to learn how to create
MASSIVE attraction is to read my downloadable
eBook called "Attraction Isn't A Choice".
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
I believe that YOU can learn how to create
powerful ATTRACTION in women... and I believe you
can learn it FAST.
If you want to learn the psychology and
techniques to creating attraction with women, then
go download and read my eBook here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
Download it now.
Talk soon,
David D.
In a minute, I'm going to share with you
several word-for-word "lines" you can use to meet
a woman anytime, anywhere.
But first, a question:
Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet,
but you didn't know what to say?
So you froze...
... and you missed your chance to meet her?
Every guy has been through this - myself
included.
The mistake most guys make is thinking they
have to make up something to say on the spot -
something spontaneous.
This couldn't be FURTHER from the truth.
If you prepare ahead of time, you will ALWAYS
have something to say - and you'll never miss
another chance to meet a great girl.
In fact, a new friend of mine has taken this
idea to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.
He shared with me what he calls "Back Pocket
Openers."
These are easy ways to start a conversation
with a woman that you can use ANYWHERE.
They're casual, fun, and flirtatious.
You don't HAVE to use them - if you want to
make up something on the fly, go for it - but
anytime you don't know how to start a conversation
with a cute girl, they can make ALL THE
DIFFERENCE.
You'll never again have the excuse "Well, I
would have approached her, but I didn't know what
to say..."
One of the Back Pocket Openers he shared is
where you use your LOCATION as a point of
conversation.
Let's say you're at a grocery store and you see
a woman you want to meet...
You say something like:
"Ok, excuse me, you're way too cute for the
grocery store... you can't go out looking like
this... it's too distracting... it's just wrong,
I'm sorry..."
(Of course, you deliver this in the Cocky &
Funny way that I talk about here in my newsletter
and in my eBooks and other products.)
You can use this same opener WHERVER you are...
"... you're just too cute for the bookstore..."
"... you're just too cute for this airport..."
"... you're just too cute for the sidewalk..."
When you use this approach, you communicate
that you notice her looks - but in a way that is
charming, playful, and classy.
You can also tweak this approach and say
something like:
"You know, I hate to be guy that hits on you at
the grocery store... but, yeah... I'm that guy..."
The fact is, my friend shared a lot MORE than
just this one approach.
In fact, he shared tips on how to touch women,
where to go on dates, how to use your body
language to attract women, and a whole lot more.
He's one of the senior instructors for PickUp
101, a company that takes guys out in the field
and literally TRAINS them to be pick-up machines.
He's been featured on USA Today, CNBC, and has
taught guys all over the world how to be more
successful with women.
(He's taught quite a few celebrities as well,
but I can't reveal exactly WHO...)
His name is Daniel Johnson... and if you want
specific techniques you can use to connect with a
woman wherever you find her, and give her those
feelings that make her ATTRACTED to you from the
very start... then you don't want to miss this
killer one-on-one interview I just recorded with
him.
Here are just a few of the secrets he shared:
- How to use "role playing" to amp up the
attraction FAST - even with a woman you just met
- How to use body language to flirt and interact
with a woman in just the right way... so she wants
to get to know you better
- Exactly what to say... word-for-word... if you
hit an "awkward pause" with a woman and you don't
know the next thing you should say (once you learn
this simple technique, you'll never have to worry
about what you're going to say again)
- How to make fun of yourself in a way that makes
a woman more attracted to you - not LESS
- How to use physical touch so that no matter
what other guy comes up and flirts with the woman
you're with, she'll go home with YOU
- The 3 E's of touching a woman you just met
(learn these and you'll take things to a physical
level without rejection)
- How to use eye contact to make a woman
interested in you - without saying a single word
- A simple exercise you can do in the mirror at
home, anytime, to train yourself to give a woman
the feeling of "connection" with you
- How to use your nervousness to build your
energy when you approach a woman - and why it's a
mistake to try to hide your fear
- How to respond when a woman asks you a boring
question - like what you do for work - in a way
that takes the conversation in an interesting
direction (even if you DONT have an interesting
job... or a job you even like)
- A special technique to use when you're
approaching a particularly special and attractive
woman (hint: it's called "The Movie Moment"... and
she'll feel like you came straight out of a movie
into her life... this one is PURE GOLD)
- and much more
I'm going to release this interview as this
month's edition of my "Interviews With Dating
Gurus" Monthly CD Audio Program.
If you're already subscribed, sit tight. You'll
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The secrets you will learn in this interview
are PRICELESS.
The tactics my friend shared are easy to use,
and get results nearly EVERY TIME.
If you follow his steps, you will not only
learn how to approach women better - but you will
improve EVERY aspect of your interactions with
women.
You'd be crazy not to see for yourself how easy
his tips are to use.
Here's the thing:
This interview is going to press this Friday
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you get your hands on it.
You can sign up here:
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Oh... and when you do, I'm also going to send
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This bonus interview is one of the best I've
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I don't think so. When you see just how good
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Have you ever wondered why some guys can walk
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I KNOW that you know what I'm talking about.
We all know guys who have the "talent" of
striking up conversations with women...
conversations that women actually ENJOY.
And even though they were just AVERAGE-looking
guys, women always found them SEXY... and wanted
to get to know them better.
Well, I honestly believe that I've unlocked the
SECRET KEYS that these guys use, and I share them
in my program "Approaching Women."
They will give you the confidence to walk right
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you've NEVER done it before.
Here are just a few of the specifics you'll
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- The one word to say at the very beginning of
your approach that DOUBLES your chances of being
successful
- How to INSTANTLY stand out from every other man
that has ever approached her - so a woman knows you
are an opportunity she shouldn't DARE pass up
- The 10 things that PREVENT you from approaching
women - broken down and explained (I had to deal
with each one of these 10 things personally - if
you're having problems starting conversations with
women I GUARANTEE one of them is on this list -
AND that I can show you a quick and easy way to
ELIMINATE IT.)
- A surefire way to completely eliminate that
sinking feeling you get when you see a woman you
want to approach (Use this one "in the field" to
get yourself back on track FAST.)
- A lesson from early humanity that will help you
completely destroy your fears of approaching women
FOR GOOD
- The real "genetic" reasons we are afraid of
approaching women (When you know what they are, it
is almost too easy to dispel these fears FOR
GOOD.)
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and turn yourself into a "machine" that approaches
any woman - anytime- in ANY situation - without
even thinking about it
- and much more...
I suggest you try my Approaching Women program
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If you go to the link below and "opt in" to my
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-- A new interview mailed to you once a month each
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I'll talk to you soon.
David D.
***Dating QUESTION From A Reader***
{NOTE: This is a short question, and it refers
to another newsletter I sent out in the past. If
you don't immediately get it, just read my answer
and all will become clear.}
"The Guy in the bar Story...
Why should he have left the bar as soon as he got
the waitress' phone number?
This is "Ultra Extra Important" you said. I think
I know why he should have left, he was probably
staring at her all night and she was turned off by
it, but give me your complete insight on why he
should have left immediately after getting her
e-mail.
Thanks, R."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As I said in the newsletter you quoted above,
this concept is VERY important.
Understanding why you need to leave at this
point is part of understanding the dynamic called
ATTRACTION.
So before I get into the specifics, let's talk
about the underlying process that creates
ATTRACTION...
1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional
reaction.
ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our
minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we
mate with someone with the best possible genes.
I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical"
and lame, but it's the damn truth.
Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or
love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time,
and it has a purpose that is very important.
2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it
isn't created by things that "should" create it.
Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of
compliments when you first meet a woman, and
kissing up to women to get their approval are
examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create
attraction... but don't.
When you understand how attraction works, you
begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own.
Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...
and I think you should understand it if you want
to be successful with women. My second book is
called "Attraction Isn't A Choice", and you can
go and download the online version of it right
now... which I highly recommend... right here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like
needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of
compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to
go out of their way to be overly "nice", it
usually backfires.
Women run from Wussy men (either that or they
go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually
pays).
4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally
programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of
behavior when they encounter a woman who they're
attracted to.
When you combine this Default Wuss mode with
nervous body language, you create an almost-
impossible barrier between you and ever creating
ATTRACTION.
5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can
ruin an interaction with a woman.
You must know when to leave, hang up, or end
the interaction.
Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.
YOU EITHER INCREASE OR DECREASE ATTRACTION -
IT'S ALWAYS EITHER GOING UP OR DOWN...
Of course, there are more ingredients to
ATTRACTION, but these will set the stage for where
I'm going with this...
In every situation, you can do something to
INCREASE the ATTRACTION... and you can do
something to DECREASE it. In other words, there's
always a way to dial up this magical emotion.
And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even
when you've just met. In fact, this is often the
best time to do it.
Let me ask you a question...
What would most guys do in the situation with
the waitress (or maybe a bartender)?
Imagine it.
You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute
gal serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being
Cocky and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's
enjoying your company. You say "Hey, do you have
email?" and she writes it down for you...
WHAT DO YOU DO?
You could...
a) Sit there and keep talking.
b) Stay and talk to her a few more times.
c) Wait around hoping that you can go home
with her.
d) Leave.
So let's do a little critical thinking about
this situation before I comment (or maybe this
will be the comment, we'll see).
If you:
(a) sit there and keep talking, what's likely to
happen?
In my experience, unless you're the ultimate
Mac Daddy of all time, the only place to go is
DOWN.
Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more
difficult.
And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.
All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.
Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.
If you:
(b) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends who
show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?
Again, we're dealing with a situation that
almost can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already
gave you the info. Now she might start thinking
"Oh, this is just another loser who hangs out all
night and gets drunk with his buddies... like the
other 47 guys who hit on me."
Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.
All downside risk, no upside rewards.
If you:
(c) wait around hoping that you can go home with
her, I think you're REALLY taking your chances in
the situation.
Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up
artist of all time, you're not likely to be taking
home the bartender by sitting in front of her and
drinking all night... for the same reasons listed
above.
But what if:
(d) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting her info?
What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an
interaction like this one?
Well, let me ask you: What effect does
disappearing have IN GENERAL on people?
It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes
the other person think "I wonder where he/she had
to go so fast?"
You can also combine this with having something
very INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might
say:
"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up
with some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."
This technique of leaving the moment I've
gotten a woman's information has worked WONDERS
for me... and for many guys I know.
The long and the short of it is that if you
stick around after you get the info, you create no
tension, no mystery, and no curiosity.
On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY,
and have something interesting (even if you don't
say what it is) to go do, then you're seen as
busy... the kind of guy who has a life... someone
who is in demand.
Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates
curiosity.
Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging,
and generally NOT having other things to do.
It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you
from other guys, and something that will
demonstrate all the right qualities with a single
move.
Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or
DECREASE the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I
recommend that you start thinking of how to
increase it as much as you possibly can, because
if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then almost nothing
else matters.
Let's shift gears.
When it comes to CREATING ATTRACTION, you can
take it to the next level... and the next... all
the way to the point of "getting physical" with a
woman...
...I've gone from not being able to even TALK
to a woman I don't know... to being able to
approach any woman in any situation and have a
VERY HIGH chance of getting a date with her... and
of course more, if I want.
If you're reading this right now, and saying to
yourself "I would really like to know how he does
that", then I'd like to share the secrets with
you.
And I'd like to do it at absolutely ZERO RISK
to you.
I want you to get a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD Program... and I'll send it to
you without charging you up front.
Really.
Go through the WHOLE PROGRAM.
TRY some of the things you learn.
I absolutely guarantee that you will start to
see IMMEDIATE results. Women will respond to you
differently, because you will see things from a
new perspective.
If you don't get immediate results, just send
it back and you won't be charged.
Go check out some great video samples here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
...and if you would like to learn the basics of
how to be successful with women and dating, you
need to go download a copy of my online eBook
"Double Your Dating." It and the three bonus
booklets that come along with it are a killer
introduction to my concepts and techniques. You
can download it and be reading it within a few
minutes. It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
Your material is awesome. I have met more women in
4 weeks with your material than in the previous 4
years of dating! I have, however, come across a
problem which requires your expertise. I can
easily obtain a woman's email and during the
follow up email get their number. However, I get
their voice mail often when I call them up. What
is your feeling about leaving a message with them?
I mean if you call several times (and they have
caller I.D.) and don't leave a message they will
think you are some kind of weirdo. For example I
got this hot woman's email but whenever I call her
(3 times in the past week) I get her answering
machine. Should I leave a cocky/funny message on
the third attempt or should I email her back or
just keep calling until I get in touch with her?
Thanks for your help,
D. in Alabama
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm going to answer your question in two
different ways... one is the direct answer, and
one is the "bigger picture" answer...
First, the bigger picture answer:
Most problems, like this one, boil down to a
rather simple formula:
NOT ENOUGH PROSPECTS = TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE
TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE = MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY
MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY = MISSING OTHER OPPORTUNITIES
Are you with me here?
If you were out getting more emails and numbers
every day instead of worrying about this one, you
would have called her the first time and said,
"Hey, it's me. Call me, here's my number..."
A few days later you would have probably
emailed and said, "Hey, you'd better call me,
because my week is filling up fast..."
Finally, you would have forgotten about her
because you got too busy seeing other women.
When you become too concerned with one woman,
you do things like CALLING HER THREE TIMES IN A
WEEK... without her calling you back.
What's the message you're sending to her?
Of course... "I tolerate and even pursue women
who don't call me back."
That's not what you want to communicate, man.
By not leaving messages, you also add the
charming TWIST to the overall message of "I might
be a stalker, because I don't leave messages."
So, get out there and meet more women! That's
the bottom line.
And now, the direct answer...
Call the first time and if you get voicemail
say, "Hey, it's {your name here}, call me. My
number is..."
If she doesn't call you, then send her an email
that says: "What, trying to play hard to get
already? Call me."
If she doesn't call you, then YOU have to
decide what to do.
WHATEVER you do, don't call or email her again
for awhile. Give it a week or two if she isn't
responding to you.
Then, when you do contact her again, make sure
she gets the hint that you're busy, that you're
dating other women, and that you're not impressed
with the fact that she's a flake.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
Love your material. I have gone ten years looking
for material on dating and your knowledge is
second to none. I have learned tremendously from
your ebook and emails. I do have a question
though. I had met a hottie the other night and
using C & F she was all over me, making out with
me in a bar. However when i got her back to my
place and we continued "making out" she kept
saying "I usually don't do this" and "what are you
thinking (about us hooking up so quickly)?"
Needless to say I continued forward with my manly
duties, but I was wondering 1) why was she asking
these questions and 2) what is a good way to
respond to such questions in the future.
Your new follower,
A in Vermont
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here, let me ask YOU something...
What would YOU do if you were a woman who:
1) Had a self-image that didn't include "hooking
up" with a guy the first night you meet him.
2) A STRONG sexual attraction to a guy that you
just met, and you want to hook up with him the
night you met him?
Of course...
You'd say things like, "I'm not this kind of
girl" and "I don't usually do this" and "What do
you think about this?" etc. etc. etc....
You've asked me what I think of this, and how
to respond to it when it happens.
First, I think it's normal and natural for a
woman to behave this way. Get used to it.
Secondly, as far as responding to this kind of
thing... I have a couple of thoughts for you.
1) Don't Expect Anything
I think that guys get their hopes up when a
woman "comes home" with them... and they get more
and more excited about the possibility of "hooking
up"... to the point where they're UPSET if it
DOESN'T happen.
When you put this much importance on something,
you set yourself up for failure... and often do
things to CAUSE failure. When you WANT something,
it costs more. Right?
So don't EXPECT anything. Be OK with whatever
happens. Lean back. Chill. Be cool.
2) Make Sure She Knows
The next step is to let the woman you're with
KNOW that whatever happens is cool.
Don't PUSH.
When you start using all the different concepts
and techniques that you've learned together... and
you start to smoothly transition from one step to
the next... you will start to see women responding
VERY powerfully.
But, part of this powerful response will
USUALLY be some sort of "resistance."
WHY?
Because women aren't used to meeting men who
KNOW all this stuff!
They're not used to being swept away by the
powerful sexual emotions that you're triggering
with your communication, body language, and touch.
I'm not kidding here.
Don't be surprised when some women get so
freaked out that they literally run out the door
or start shaking with nervousness.
Women just aren't used to men who know how to
make them feel things this powerfully!
Now, if a woman says "I don't know if this is a
good idea, I don't usually do things like this
with a guy I've just met"... you basically have a
couple of choices.
You can PUSH, in which case you'll usually meet
with resistance... or you can PULL BACK, then let
things start again slowly... which will make it
far more likely that things will continue to the
next level.
The real key here is walking into every
situation with a woman NOT EXPECTING anything...
or being overly concerned with the outcome.
Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of
thing from women... it's normal and natural.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave, I got your e-book a few months ago thinking
it would be a big joke. But I have spent $40 on a
bad date so figured I would take the gamble and I
am so glad!
Before I read your material I was the total wuss
boy, I was just way too nice and got no respect.
Now I have confidence! It didn't take long to use
C&F, posture, etc, but what I noticed is that when
I SLOWED DOWN, women started looking. Walk slow
across the room, using deliberate movements,
shoulders back, head high, and you will just FEEL
more confident, and women pick up on that. Easy
to get emails and numbers when they feel your
confidence!
Thanks for the tips. I want to say that your "kiss
test" has worked 100% with my last 5 dates!
Playing with her hair and looking her in the eyes
while relaxing on the couch has gotten me lots of
kisses, then I BACK OFF for a few minutes and it
drives them crazy! I just keep thinking GO SLOW! I
am a good looking guy, but the problem I have had
with women is the "friend" category.
Now after 4 months I have a girlfriend that can't
get enough, and I can't thank you enough. I am
never going to be the wuss again! BTW- I did get
her flowers, I told her I made the arrangement
myself and the flowers were exotics as I made up
names and places they were each from, she just
laughed so hard it broke all Valentine tension and
I didn't need a barf bag. CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sweeeeeeet!
A quick thought...
It is AMAZING how powerful the idea of "backing
off" is after you've kissed a woman, etc.
Moving two steps forward, one step back is one
of the easiest and strongest way to amplify
attraction.
Good job.
***QUESTION***
Mr. DeAngleo,
I have your e-book Double Your Dating and it's
just plain excellent. You have a keen insight into
the communication necessary to gain the respect
and admiration of da ladies. And you`re a quick
study of the human condition called "a
relationship". I look forward to studying your
audio program.
Even though your stuff is great, it seems to skew
towards younger, never married girls. Am I right
that an older women who have been around the block
with kids, would be more worldly and have more of
a personal agenda? Or that these women are the
"new and improved gold diggers"? I'm in my late
forties and am realistic to the age bracket I'm
going to encounter and date. Sure I look great and
athletic, but the funny and cocky attitude would
seem to only work with young girls rather than
pre-married model.
Are guys my age stuck with working just the
personals and local church festivals? I mean no
matter how suave, cool, cocky, and funny I am,
aren't I always fighting the age different thing?
That a man in his forties, has to use the power,
fame and money, rather than personality? Is the
cocky, funny personality going to work with older
women? We're not all James Bond's you know.
I look forward to your answers because you really
are the expert on this topic. And whether you'd
like to admit or not, you'll be my age sometime
soon, and then what will you do? Man, that's
something to think about!
Keep up the great work,
LP Wisconsin
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'd like to give you some long, detailed,
profound answer to this question, but I just have
to say:
WOMEN OF ALL AGES LOVE THIS STUFF.
My stuff doesn't skew towards ANY types of
women.
I flirt with every woman I meet... of every
age. They all love it.
And I get emails from guys of all ages who use
this stuff to meet women of all ages.
Try it... you'll like it.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
All I can say is wow! Thanks a lot, the Dating
Tip; What To Do When She LIKES You, couldn't have
came at a better time! It's the first message I
read over, hell I even read it 3 times! And now
canceling something tonight so I can read over
your book and past letters, the information is
truly amazing, I was shocked at how well this book
was written. And you really helped me with
remembering how great the gift of missing you
works, would have f***ed that up 2nite!
Last night I went out with 3 beautiful women and
because my Escalade is at a friends (he is
installing a few screens for me, can't wait!) I
invited a male friend to come along that the girls
have meet before to drive, When they entered the
car they said how much they missed me, the gift of
missing you is SO powerful I can't explain it
enough. Then at the end they all said "thanks for
spending time with us", I was thinking, aww I feel
so special! Said a c/f comment and got a few
hugs/kisses goodnight. And my friend didn't even
get a "thank you". He drove around and spent over
$100 paying for us to do stuff(total wuss, husband
material, he's 18 so that's not good)! I paid
nothing and received great benefits because of
you, where do I send the cash donations!?
I suggest you all look over the materials you
have, or purchase the e-book now if you have not
already. Look, your wasting lots of time, money,
and lots of great opportunity's to get to know
wonderful women by not listening to this stuff. I
can't even put together words on how well this
stuff works, Dave does a GREAT job teaching!
Question: This one girl with a 9.5-10 personality
and great looks has this sparkle in her eyes that
I really LOVE. How can I mention it in a non-
pussy way? Bust on her about it (making fun of
it)? But I like it! hmm
-JB, Chicago IL, where sheep are only in zoo's! ;)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sheep in zoos? Dude, what are you doing talking
about where the sheep in YOUR town are? It makes
me nervous when men know exactly where the local
sheep hangout is.
Now, to answer your question...
Why is it that men feel such STRONG urges to
compliment women early on? I don't know what's
with us.
I have to say, I know EXACTLY how you're
feeling, because I have to watch this myself...
it's like we come pre-wired with a "nice guy
compliment" mechanism.
Well, TURN IT OFF for the first 10 dates or so,
OK?
Look at those beautiful eyes, and when she
says, "What? What are you looking at?" say, "Oh,
just my reflection in your eyes...".
***QUESTION***
Hey David:
I have a question that I'm not sure you've
addressed in your book. Have you ever come across
a situation where you're working on a girl and her
construction worker boyfriend shows up ready to
pound you one? Any idea on how to handle that
situation?
I've been there and lets just say that I'm damn
lucky my front teeth don't look like some of the
hidden back ones! In fact, it's instilled an added
fear into me that has made it really hard to
approach women for the last 13 years. Some guys
are crazy and if they see another guy making his
girlfriend all excited, it could be bad news.
M
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I have a great response for this...
Walk away.
What did you expect me to say? Beat him up?
I know that secretly a lot of guys have a fear
of the husband or boyfriend showing up and
becoming violent.
Does it happen?
Sure.
How often?
I don't know... but, I can tell you that I've
never heard of it happening to a guy for just
talking to a girl... and I know a LOT of guys who
meet a LOT of women.
Just walk away.
Risk is a part of life, and you have to accept
it if you want to enjoy unusual levels of success.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
Many guys write in and tell you about their
success with this specific girl, or that specific
girl etc. Those are great stories and encouraging
to the rest of us. My success story is a little
different.
Today I was browsing my emails and something
happened that struck me. I have been
corresponding with this really attractive girl who
I met through the personals. In her first email
to me (a response to my initial contact) she asked
when/where we could meet. In her third, which I
read this morning, she gave me her phone number
and asked me to call her 'really soon'. I will
call this evening.
I thought about this in context of my current
situation: last night I had a 3rd date with a
really cute Japanese girl who hardly speaks
english and who I met at a bar some time ago, the
night before I had a first date (tea @ Starbucks)
with an attractive tall blonde (who asked me,
before I brought it up, when we can meet again),
and the night before that I was at a girls place
making dinner for her, almost having a food-fight,
laughing and joking and poking fun of her family
pictures in her apartment (on our 3rd date). I
could go on but won't.
The point I'm trying to make is that my success
story isn't about any of the above successes. You
see, when I read the email this morning which had
a phone number and a request to call 'really
soon', my reaction was pretty casual. And it
struck me that my reaction would have been totally
different 1 year ago. I would have been so
surprised and happy and excited. And I would have
told myself 'wow, this girl actually wants to
meet, ok now, don't screw this up...blah blah etc
etc'
The success story I'm talking about is ME. My
reaction to the email sums it up; I'm not even
surprised when I get that kind of email any more.
Pleased, but not surprised.
I'm starting to REALLY understand the difference
between the INNER and OUTER game. It's not
dissimilar to the difference between success with
a single woman, and my own success in ME and my
situation. Plug for Dave: I got the ebook about 1
year ago and I've been following the newsletters.
I've been slowly shedding the inner wussy and it's
thanks to your teachings. I can only imagine what
kind of success I might have if I actually ponied
up for the CD series.
Question
I mentioned above that I am dating a really cute
Japanese girl. She speaks English, but not much
(certainly more than I speak Japanese!). I got
her email at a bar and we've been out 3 times. I
can sense that she likes me, and I think things
are proceeding well. In fact, she's coming to my
appartment tomorrow to cook Japanese dinner for
me. My question is this: how can I tease her when
she doesn't understand anything but the simplest
of English. I actually told her what 'tease' means
and then tried some examples to demonstrate. This
worked to some degree, but I'm feeling a little
held back.
Thanks for any insight you can offer.
S. in Vancouver
>>>MY COMMENTS:
About your "inner" success...
I can remember a moment a couple of years ago
when I realized that the inner insecurity that I
used to carry around with me was GONE.
It's hard to explain an emotional feeling, but
it was as if there had previously been a certain
insecurity that was always with me... that
affected every part of my life...and then, without
me realizing it was going... it was gone.
It's a great feeling, isn't it?
As far as your situation with your Japanese
girl goes...
I have a friend who is great with women and who
likes to date Japanese women, and he tells me that
they are different because of their culture... and
that they are often more reserved.
I've never thought of TEACHING a woman what
teasing means, but it's a great idea!
I personally think that it's difficult to
communicate in a subtle way when there is a
language barrier... but that's just my take. If
you can figure this one out, write in and share
the wisdom!
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Dave, - I ended up on your newsletter mailing list
just the same way I always ended up in boys P.E.,
I have one of those names that gets confused as
being male. At first, I found your letters just
funny and a bit odd... until I started seeing that
you are absolutely right. The qualities you
explore and recommend in your stuff is exactly
what I am attracted to. Wow, what an eye opener.
Wussies are a waste of time. Give me a C & F real
man anytime.
By the way, I find it very attractive in you too!
Kisses!
TM, Dallas,TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
NOTE TO WOMEN FANS...
SEND PICTURES!
If you want to pucker, so I can get an idea of
what the "kisses" look like, feel free. Love it.
***COMMENT***
Hi Dave,
I've been enjoying your emails in the last few
months. You've offered some valuable advice on how
to deal with people. But, I am sorry to say I'm
finding your advice less valuable.
You are focusing on being cocky and funny with
people. But you are forgettign one thing. You have
to make sure you make people feel good. Otherwise,
they will be like - fu** you, I don't to talk to
you - you are a piece of sh**. I'm just trying to
help you get on the right track, man. Nothing
personal.
Just read your last email. You are encouraging
someone's comment who tells a complete stranger
that their dress is made of a shower curtain. Did
you ever stop to think that it does not make
someone feel good? I mean if someone directed a
rude comment like that to me - I'd be like fu**
you - you are a piece of sh** - I don't want to
talk to you. Or, I would imagine a girl would
think something like - Why are you talking to me?
Go eat sh**. I don't want to talk to you.
I would say something like - 'Wow! That's nice
shoes!' (or Wow! That's a nice hat!) Make a
compliment when you meet a stranger - that helps.
Instead of making them feel like a piece of sh**.
Take your fu**ing 'cockiness' in the whole new
direction MON! You are going in the wrong
direction. I want you to stop before you lose
everybody on your mail list MON!!!
You've gone a little overboard on that, mon. Come
on, admit it. I think you will probably make some
cocky and funny comment about that. But even then,
please do not go overboard with cocky because
there is a border line between cocky and rude. And
I take it, you who study human personality, should
know where that border line lies.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, MON...
Do me a quick favor. Go learn how to attract
women, then write me an email.
You sound like a "Couch-Based Expert." In other
words, I'll bet you couldn't get a woman's phone
number if you were giving away CASH PRIZES... OK?
Now, to be fair, from time to time I do get an
email from someone who says "It sounds to me like
you're suggesting to men that they act like
jerks", etc.
What does this tell me?
The most IMPORTANT thing it tells me is that
you haven't read my book or listened to my
Advanced Series... and you just don't get it.
This isn't about making women feel BAD, it's
about making them feel GOOD.
You might not have noticed, but half of the
Cocky & Funny equation is FUNNY. If you're funny,
then you don't have to worry about what you say,
because it's HUMOR.
I'm not sure that "Wow! That's nice shoes!" is
the answer.
OK, MON, get up off your couch and go learn how
to meet some women. And stop being a whiner.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
You may not consider this a true success story
since it's not about scoring with every good-
looking girl I meet. Rather it's about the change
in my feeling about myself. In the past few months
I've gone from feeling absolutely crushed by
"rejection" or seizing up to recognizing that
there are so many attractive women out there, IT
DOESN'T MATTER if one of them shoots you down.
I've also reached the point where I can approach a
cute girl and get her e-mail/number. I admit
sometimes it's not her real info, but this is a
work in progress. I'm on several online
dating/chatting sites, working my stuff. I'm even
using the arrogant humour routines on two of my
former love interests and am starting to see some
smoke rising as a result. I'm working the material
on the servers at the restaurants I frequent. And
on and on...
At first, I didn't think it could take three years
to "get it down," but last night I had my first
cup-of-tea-at- Starbucks date and now I understand
even more what you talk about on the CDs. It does
take time to become "totally congruent" with this.
But it's going to be so much fun getting there!
So, in conclusion, I already consider myself to be
a success simply because I feel so much more
empowered as a man. Thank you.
CPAG Tucson, Arizona
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Actually, this is to me, the BEST kind of
Success Story there is. Getting a hot woman's
number isn't a big deal once you know how.
But, changing how you FEEL inside and how you
feel about YOURSELF is huge.
Great job.
If you want to learn more about how develop
yourself into that MAN that naturally attracts
women, then you should check this out:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan
It's the GOODS.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
I got your book and subscribed to the emails about
a year ago. It's great stuff. A lot of it is new
to me - but so much is obvious (with hindsight!!).
I am seeing my inner game change slowly but
surely, so that I feel less and less that I need a
woman and more and more that they are lucky to
have me. Looking back (I am 40) I reckon I have
been most successful with girls when I was most
relaxed and confident - they say success breeds
success!
Here are a couple of interesting experiences I
have had that confirm your approach -
I had a 19 yr old foreign student as a girlfriend
a while back. The first night back at my place I
offered to call a taxi for, her put her in the
spare bedroom or she could sleep with me.
Obviously she chose to sleep with me! I was just
trying to be a gentleman - but my theory now is
that by `pulling back' I challenged her
expectations (that most guys would be desperate
for her to stay) and I forced her to take
responsibility for choosing what SHE wanted
(whereas most girls spend their time rejecting
what GUYS want).
My latest girlfriend is 29 and a total babe. But
she is a bit spoilt. She often gets sulky if she
feels she isn't getting enough attention from me.
In the past I would have done whatever she asked.
Now I realise that is a game you can never win.
Instead I ask her if she treats her friends like
this - no - so why does she think it is ok with
me? She has actually said that she really respects
me for not letting her be a spoilt brat. Also
sometimes she threatens to find another boyfriend.
I always tell her that I can't stop her if that's
what she wants. Then she always says she doesn't
want anyone else. It seems so obvious now - why
should a woman respect a man she can control??
I read your latest email about getting numbers.
The point about not hiding your intentions is so
true! Of course a woman knows what you want. If
you pretend otherwise you just seem weak (& also
you have made it really hard to bridge to getting
the number Doh!).
BUT - why do you say turn away & then turn back as
if it is an afterthought?? Isn't this exactly the
pretence you said not to do? Why not just say
`I've got to go now, but I'd like to talk to you
again. Have you got email?' Isn't that less
wussy? Or am I missing some subtlety here. (I
have tried the turning away thing, but without
success. I think maybe I am not a very good actor)
Thanks for the fantastic information, Dave,
N.
England.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's fine to NOT turn away and just ask a woman
for her email address directly.
You're making me reflect on how I developed my
"3 Minute Email And Number" technique...
In the beginning, I imagined that it was
basically impossible to walk up to a woman who was
a complete stranger and have her just give her
number to me.
So, I started learning different kinds of
tricks and techniques, from palmistry to
handwriting analysis... and all kinds of other
freaky and almost embarrassing ideas.
I basically figured that I would have to
somehow "distract" a woman from the fact that I
was "interested" and get her number without her
really understanding that I WAS interested.
The turning away, then turning back is
something that is kind of "left over" from those
days of being clever.
Turning away, then turning back basically
demonstrates to a woman that you're OK with
walking away without getting her number... which
is a good exercise if you're at the stage where
you get nervous asking for a woman's number/email.
Feel free to just say, "Do you have email?" and
then, "Great, write it down... I want to talk to
you again" etc.
As long as you are cool and calm with all of
your other communication, you'll be fine.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Saint Dave- I'll skip all the 'you're so great'
stuff and get to the point. I've been learning and
practicing you're techniques. And, as you know,
they've been working. But I'm not writing to tell
you about my successes- rather I've got a story I
find humorous.
Currently I'm going to college in California, but
I'm moving to NYC in May. Somehow my EX-girlfriend
(who lives in NYC) heard through the grapevine
that I was moving there. Out of the blue she calls
me- after 3 THREE YEARS and a very unpleasant
break-up. At first the conversation is strained
and awkward, but I'm using the all C&F stuff
unconsciously. As I do I feel her start to loosen
up to me, and she offers me a place to stay 'for
one night' when I get to New York. I hit her back
with 'Well, I'm pretty busy. But if you wear a
sexy dress, cook me dinner and give me a massage,
maybe I could find time in my schedule.' We go
back and forth like this for a minute or two and
then I end the whole conversation abruptly. Since
then she's been calling and sending emails all the
time, virtually begging me to come and stay with
her 'for as long as I like'. Now the point of this
story was that I was not even TRYING. I had no
intention of re-kindling the old flame, or even
hooking up for a one-nighter. But the C&F stuff
was so ingrained to my behavior, that even my ex-
girlfriend who hated my guts was falling for it.
Thanks man- you're helping humanity.
PF
San Fran, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, well, surprise surprise.
Here's something that I'm hearing more and more
from guys who REALLY understand how to make women
feel ATTRACTION... and who have more dates then
they can handle:
"You know, it's funny... the more I ignore and
don't pursue women, the more they call me and
won't leave me alone."
Why is this?
Think about it.
Because when you don't care, you DO all the
right things, and you SAY all the right things.
Be careful, it sounds like you might turn your
ex into your new stalker!
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
Your stuff helped me to consciously identify for
the first time what I had done right all these
years (approximately 18 years, counting
"courtship") to get and keep an incredibly
beautiful wife (she's in her low 40's but gets
carded every time she orders a drink). But, more
importantly, you've shone a light on those few
bleak and sadly deficient skills that I'd let
slip, "'cause we're married". Let me tell you,
"My wife is much happier, now!" (I couldn't
understand why she got so irritated when I didn't
care where we ate. I really don't care, but
she'll never hear it from me again.) In fact, we
spent a Saturday afternoon and evening this
weekend that could make a lot of your single
guy/player types jealous!
One final thought that I suppose you could count
as another success: I'm ashamed to say, (from the
context of a married guy) a friend of my wife
appeared to have gotten a little too attracted
from her time hanging out with us. So, I turned it
ALL on ... in REVERSE! You know, "I don't want to
hurt my wife, but I love you. I know we shouldn't
do anything, but I NEED you..." (You know, once
you stop, it's kind of weird to act like a wussy
on purpose!) Anyway, it worked like a charm, you
could almost see the little cartoon cloud where
she had been standing! Well, that was more than I
intended, I just wanted to be counted if you start
tallying up the married guys that respond to your
Q&A. E. Fla.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I love it when married guys like
yourself write in (which happens more and more
often) and tell me how this stuff is making their
relationships better.
Women never stop wanting a man to do the right
things... if only more men knew this.
And your thought about how to act like a Wuss
on PURPOSE to make a woman run away is great.
Isn't THAT interesting?
***QUESTION***
dear Dave,
I have used both your email book and the cd
seminar with tremendous benefit. I have more than
doubled my dating! I always chuckle at the guys
out there who say you "make up these emails",. I
have at least 10 friends who subscribe to the
newsletter and have written you, and you have
reproduced their emails verbatim. Now for my
question. I have, on several occasions, met women
and , as a segue to cocky and funny, told them I
am chippendale dancer when I responding to the
question of "what do you do for a living". Now I
don't look like a chippendale dancer, (actually
I'm a businessman) but these woman start believing
my story and I run with it all night and I am
cocky/funny to the max (for example, I'll state
that I hate women coming onto me since I'm a
dancer, and that women only use me because I'm a
dancer). Now the question I have is how should I
respond when these women find out I am not a
dancer? I know in your cd seminar one of the
people you interviewed stated he would state
outrageous occupations such as a slave trader. How
far is too far? I can go the whole night with a
make-believe occupation and play along with a
woman. When do you break them the news that you
are not who you state you are, ie dancer?
Eventually you have to to be honest, right? Is
there a point that you have to be honest because
if you are not the woman may think you are a total
liar and not trustworthy. I mean I have played
this role of dancer so convincingly that they
actually believe my story and the attraction level
increases with C & F and they start attacking me,
but I am afraid of the ramifications of what will
happen when they find out that I am not a dancer.
Need some advice from the Mack Master,
Al in D.C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
LOL... Dude, this is funny stuff.
So, let me get this straight... you tell women
that you're a male stripper, and then they fall
for you... and you don't know how to "let them
down easy"?
If a woman actually BELIEVES crazy things like
this, I like to turn it up a notch and say, "Well,
actually I used to be a male stripper, but now I'm
a porn star... are you OK with that?"
I don't like it if a woman believes something
that isn't true for too long... remember, you're
just kidding.
And if a woman DOES believe something for too
long, and then gets a little upset, just say,
"What?! You weren't actually dumb enough to
BELIEVE that I was a male STRIPPER, are you? I
don't think this relationship is going to work. I
would NEVER be with a woman who would date a
STRIPPER..."
And by the way, thanks for mentioning that I
faithfully print the emails that I use in my
newsletters, because I do... they're all real.
Thanks for your email.
***QUESTION***
David,
First off, i realize you hear this a lot but your
ebook istotally the mack- i've seen a big
difference in my interaction with women which i'll
contribute much of my success to your book.
I've recently been giving some serious thought to
ordering your advanced materials. Here's my
question: With the other 1 billion "buy our stuff
and your success with women will boom for three
easy payments of $19.99" sites, how would you
compare your $195 advanced audio tape series to
{other dating products} which tout basically the
same types of things for about half the price?
Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying your stuff
isn't brilliant, and i realize that i've easily
spent $195 in dates/on women, i just wondered what
your take is.
Thanks a ton and keep up the great work!
-M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, here's the deal...
I'm about to say some things that are going to
make me sound a little too confident, so get
ready...
I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to be
successful with women and dating.
YEARS.
I read books, listened to tapes, went to
seminars... and tried all KINDS of things. I mean,
if you knew half of the stuff that I tried, you'd
laugh your ass off at me.
Most of it didn't work... and the stuff that
did work actually worked IN SPITE of the fact that
it was lame.
I mean, if you do ANYTHING it will work SOME of
the time.
I'm going to tell you something that is both
simple and profound at the same time.
The thing that makes my Advanced Program
different from all the other stuff out there is
that it's BASED on watching and learning from guys
who are "naturally" good with women.
The experience that REALLY took my success to a
high level was watching, learning from, imitating,
testing, and refining what I learned from these
guys.
In fact, I invited several of my friends who
were the MOST influential on me to participate in
the live seminar that was edited into the Advanced
Dating Techniques program, and when you listen to
it, you'll watch and/or hear me interviewing five
of them LIVE.
I've worked hard to create a great set of tools
and techniques, and a logical way to learn them,
understand them, and start using them.
I will bet you that if you listen to or watch
the entire 12+ hours of this program at LEAST 5
times... there are so many killer ideas inside,
you will be thrilled.
You can watch some samples of the program and
get all the details here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
yet, then go do that NOW. You can download it in a
few minutes and be learning some of my best
techniques right from the comfort of your
computer. It's here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
