>If you'd like to read the story of how I went
from not even being able to TALK to women... to
the point where I could approach women in every
type of situation, get numbers, and get dates
CONSISTENTLY... plus watch video clips of every
one of my programs, just go here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/Catalog
***QUESTION FROM A READER***
Dave,
I've become a very generous guy lately. To all my
male friends, I'm giving them the gift of your
newsletter. To all my females, I'm giving the
gift of missing me.
I'm a recovering wuss. I took a few months off of
women and worked on my inner game, with great
results. I've started talking to new women again,
along with old girlfriends. I find that when the
c/f (Cocky & Funny) starts rolling, or even just
my newfound confidence, I often get a lot of
compliments. What's the best way to deal with a
girl coming out and saying "oh, you're so
cute/funny/etc..."? Should I ignore it and keep
the c/f going? Should I address it in a cocky
way? I'm assuming that graciously accepting the
compliment is never the right answer...
What would you say to a girl who compliments you
directly? (other than "Do you do third input?")
What would your tone/body language/eye contact be
like?
-J.M. >From new hampshire, where men are men,
women are few, and sheep are nervous.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ya know, this really is a great question.
One of the most important things to understand
as a man, is what to do when things are WORKING...
so you don't SCREW IT UP!
If you use the materials that you're learning
from me, you will start to have a magical thing
happen more and more often... women will start to
do and say things that clearly indicate that they
LIKE you.
Sometimes is will be a touch, sometimes a
compliment, and sometimes a smile. But these
things WILL happen more and more as you get better
and better.
I always laugh to myself when I bust a woman's
chops really hard, and she laughs and says "You're
so funny!" or "You really are good!" etc.
I still shake my head and wonder why the hell
it took me so long to figure all this stuff out.
But I digress... you know, while I'm
digressing, what's with you ending your email
with:
">From new hampshire, where men are men, women
are few, and sheep are nervous."
...?!
This is probably the third or fourth time that
I've seen this at the end of an email.
Tell me the truth... do chicks dig this?
You're making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep
talk on the DL, OK?
Uncool.
Now, when a woman does something that signals
"I like you," it is VITALLY important that you:
1) Know how to recognize it
2) DON'T do what MOST guy do
3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it
So how can you tell if a woman is doing
something that says "I like you?"
Well, it's VERY important to remember that
women are far more "subtle" than men (most of the
time, that is).
If a man is interested in a woman, you can see
it all over his face. It's usually very obvious.
But women are different.
Women do SMALL things.
A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a
comment like "You're so cute" (as in your example
above).
But then IT'S GONE.
Women always seem to act like they're not quite
sure.
They don't send consistent signals that most
men can "read."
And when they DO send signals that are easy to
see, most guys respond in a way that makes those
signals stop... which makes things even MORE
confusing.
Again, women aren't as CONSISTENT as men.
A woman can seem like she's interested one
minute, then stand-offish the next.
So rule #1 is:
JUST BECAUSE SHE'S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS "I
LIKE YOU", DON'T THINK THAT IT MEANS "I LIKE YOU
NO MATTER WHAT."
Much better to interpret subtle "I like you"
cues as "I like you for a second, but if you start
acting like a Wuss Bag or a Dumb Ass, it will all
be over in an instant."
Unfortunately for most guys, they take "I like
you" signals to mean "You've won my approval, now
you can do whatever you want".
And what do they do? Of course...
They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid
things, and destroy it all.
Oh, how many times I've watched guys (myself
included) screw up perfectly good situations
because they just didn't get this concept.
Let me give you an example.
Let's say that you're out with a woman, and
you've been teasing her, and she smiles and says,
"I like you."
A typical "male" response is for a guy to think
to himself "OK, I'm in... she digs me" and to get
that rush in the head and chest.
Next thing you know, he's acting different.
He's talking about different things.
He's giving compliments.
He's being "nicer."
And what's the woman thinking while this is all
going on? Of course... she's thinking, "Uh oh, his
cool, calm, interesting personality was just a
cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding
out, waiting for a little bit of approval from
me... AHHHHHH!"
Women KNOW that they're in control of the
situation. Or at least MOST of the time they
are... and they THINK that they are even during
the times when they're not.
They're constantly using different kinds of
communication to test and "feel out" the
situation.
Remember, MOST of the time when you're saying
something that you think is nice, charming, and
original, it's something that a woman has heard
about 47 times that week from other guys.
We guys act VERY predictably most of the time.
And women know how to tell if you're just
another loser who's pretending to be cool... who
will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign
of attraction from a cute woman.
Think about what I just said.
This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow...
but it's the reality of the situation.
There's something that women call "Sexual
Tension." It's also known as "Chemistry" or
"Attraction" as well. But only WOMEN know it this
way. I've got an entire program that can teach you
about this amazing skill, if you want to learn how
to use it... by the way:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/SexualCommunication
When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play
hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in
the right way, you will create this tension. This
is what usually leads to a woman saying something
like "You're cute" or "I like you."
It's the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY
it.
THE TENSION!
In these very special moments, you need to turn
the tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.
Don't diffuse it all by saying "You're cute
yourself" or "I like you, too". Or by smiling like
a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first
rainbow.
This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it
usually takes that wonderful electric attraction
feeling that the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY
kills it.
Does this make logical sense?
Hell no.
But it IS what happens.
OK, so let's talk about the RIGHT way to handle
this type of situation.
Remember when I said that it's the TENSION that
makes a woman feel the feelings and make the
comments?
And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you're
getting a positive response?
Nice.
Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie
that illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.
In fact, it might be the all-time greatest
example of this principle that has ever been
recorded on film.
Remember the end of "The Empire Strikes Back,"
when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep
freeze?
Remember when Leia said, "I love you"...?
Remember what Han said?
Right, he said... "I know."
Perfect.
All of the sexual tension that built up in Star
Wars and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her
love.
And Han says, "I know."
Awesome!
Imagine being Leia. What could be going through
her mind at this point?
An answer like this isn't easy to understand.
It has all kinds of implications.
It's confusing.
It says, "I know you love me, because it's been
obvious for a long time...." But, it doesn't let
HER know how he feels exactly. It requires
consideration. It dials up the tension. It's
amazing.
By the way, I read that when they were filming
that scene, Han was supposed to answer, "I love
you too," but the director didn't like it. They
tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison
Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the
takes... and they kept it. Nice.
By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the
newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is
because there is no character like Han... think
about it. It's all boring, predictable stuff.
There's no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard
personality messing things up.
Like I pointed out after I saw "Attack Of The
Clones," Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of
Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he
wasn't a complete and total Wuss. Would have been
so much easier and more entertaining if he would
have just had a PERSONALITY.
Whatever.
Now, where was I...?
Oh, yeah... amplifying the sexual tension...
If you're out with a woman, and you tease her
because she's wearing four inch heels by saying
"What's the deal, are you four feet tall without
those?", and she opens her mouth with the classic
"Oh no you didn't" look (smiling of course, with
that surprised smile)... and you dial it up to the
next level with "Oh, I'm sorry...Four foot
three?"... and she hits you on the arm...
...and then she stops, puts her hand on your
arm, and says, "You know, you're funny"...
...what do you do?
YOU SAY, "YEAH, I KNOW"... in a serious tone.
Or "Don't try to use compliments to make me
like you. It won't work. Go buy me a drink or
something... I prefer gifts and money."
Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back
slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows
together as if to say "Just WHAT do you think
you're doing touching me?!"
TURN IT UP, my friend!
You TURN UP the tension.
AMPLIFY it.
Keep it going.
If you keep amplifying the tension and
attraction at each of these wonderful moments,
good things will happen.
Good stuff.
OK, I have a question.
Want more killer ideas like this one?
What if I told you that there was a place you
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literally DOZENS and DOZENS of great ideas like
this one?
Well, there is. Of course, it's my eBook
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with all kinds of situations with women.
This might sound a little strange, but I
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refine, and organize all of the awesome techniques
that are included, and you'll understand why I
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It's here... you can download it and be reading
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I'll talk to you again soon!
Your Friend,
David D.
Sunday, November 29, 2009
How To "Warm Up" A Cold Woman
I can remember when I first started learning how
to overcome fear, approach women, get numbers, and
dates, etc. I have to say, there's NOTHING that
will get your blood pumping like being able to
walk up to any attractive woman, start a quick
conversation, and walk away with her number. If
you'd like to learn my best secrets on how to
approach women, then take a minute and read this:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/ApproachingWomen
***QUESTION***
Honestly Dave, I think you need more caution,
and warning signs on your products, before some
knucklehead tries to sue you for loading his life
with more women than the poor soul knows how to
handle.lol I've followed your newsletter,
purchased your Ebook, and Advanced Series. Totally
Incredible stuff. I dated my High School
sweetheart for the better portion of 5 years, and
honestly if I knew way back then what I know now
it probably wouldn't have lasted 5 months. She was
always demanding, and got upset when I tried to
hang out with friends of mine, pretty much your
average basket case, but I felt like she was the
only girl that I could ever attract. Then I
managed to stumble over your site and signed up
for your newsletter and not long after I cut the
ties with her, and I am happier today and date
more interesting, intelligent women than I ever
thought possible. All thanks to your ingenious,
and selfless hard work and research.
I would say that my greatest problem is that I'm
generally a pretty low keyed mellow kind of guy
that doesn't mind going out to clubs but would far
rather find a few girls that don't mind chilling
out at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell just wrestling around on the
bed.(no pun intended) lol However if these girls
tend to stay homebound for the most part what sort
of venues would you recommend for meeting these
types. Door to door dating perhaps.. lol I have
also tried the online personals which is where
much of my success come from, but many of these
girls you have to look out for or you could have a
bona fide stalker on your hands.(I know this from
experience)Yeah it sucks being a good looking,
confident guy huh? This is my first time emailing
you after reading the newsletter for well over a
year now..(yeah I stay busy) but I wanted to tell
you what a awesome job your doing and that it's
greatly appreciated from myself and multitudes of
others, not that you didn't already know that;
just thought I'd annoy you by saying..lol OK
Dave.. Take care and keep up the terrific
work..God Bless
Lionhart, DE
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first off I want to thank you for the
shameless promotion and over-hyping of my
materials.
I appreciate it...
Next, let's talk about your "wish list."
You "don't mind going out to clubs," but you'd
"far rather find a FEW GOOD GIRLS that don't mind
chilling at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell, just WRESTLING AROUND ON THE
BED."
With each other, I'm assuming...
Hey, sounds good to me.
Maybe while they're wrestling they'd let you
videotape...and you could start an internet
company based on the concept.
Cut me in for a percentage.
And ya know, I like the way you think.
Well, I hate to break the news to you...but if
you want to meet women, you're going to have to do
SOMETHING.
The internet-bed-wrestling-make-money idea was
a pretty good one...hey, kill two birds with one
stone.
Other than that, you might try out a few of
those magical activities that are interesting,
enjoyable, and (BIG AND) also draw intelligent,
gorgeous women like a magnet.
Try an art history class.
Or go to a classy "food fair" or restaurant
opening.
Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing aerobics
class.
Dance classes are also a big winner.
In other words, there are some great places you
can go to meet women...AND have fun...AND become a
more interesting, classy guy.
Who'd-a-thunk-it?
***QUESTION***
I have been talking to this girl for about a month
now and I find myself falling in love with her
everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night).
She recently told me that she didn't want to date
me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said
that if it is meant to happen it will, and that we
shouldn't force it. My question is how do I get
her to realize that it is meant, and that we
should push it, and how do I prove to her she
won't hurt me??
Sincerely, -J.K.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should
do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk
into the bathroom right now.
Turn on the light.
On the piece of paper I want you to write the
word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make
sense... but do it anyway.
Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you,
so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a
CAPTION for YOUR FACE.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Let that settle in for a minute.
Now that you have a clear picture of what a
WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced
maneuver.
Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up
next to your face.
Hold it about 12 inches away.
Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it.
Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of
you...
Dude, duuuuuude.
You are SOOO missing the point here.
She does not want a guy who will prove to her
that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be
with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG.
Women aren't attracted to girly-men.
Girly-men freak women out.
Women RUN from girly-men.
The answer is for you to start acting like a
MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL.
You need to get yourself a copy of my Advanced
Dating Techniques Program immediately.
This is an emergency. Do it.
http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave,
I have in my life had good and bad success with
women and I just learned to live with it. I have a
very good job I'm a big guy 6'3" 240 nice build
and
I get told a lot that I'm good looking. So with
all
that being said I just thought I would take things
as they come. I have always been cocky+funny
naturally BUT I didn't use that on the women that
I really wanted always one ones that wanted me or
just girls I work with etc.. Also I wasn't doing
it in the fashion that you teach. I wouldn't use
the lines " you know you want me admit it" or
"just say please" those would move the attention
to ME and away from the situation I would think
which wasn't what I was after while doing it. I
would always be C+F just because that was me.. I
wasn't trying to pick anyone up lol its so funny
thinking back now. Anyway. after reading your mail
bag and book it dawned on me.. WTF was I
thinking.. I would have literally dozens of women
chasing me but all of them I didn't want (not cute
or what ever).. but the ones I wanted were like
he's cool but what ever..well this girl that I
like is a bartender at a bar I go to every
weekend, we joke play but never date.. I started
using the stuff you teach on her as a test (was in
friend zone) and BAM she wont leave me alone said
to me today on phone that she's liking me more and
more every day..I said damn your slow.. everyone
else gets it what's taking you so long.. I helped
her tend bar last night and every time she passed
me I said loudly "will you stop grabbing my ass"
its like a different girl.
I have lots more stories since I've been using
your stuff for weeks now and its un-real I am able
to get laid 3 or 4 times a week now with out even
really trying. (need to rest sometimes) lol. I
wasted so much time and I'm only 34.. oh one more
thing to those people that worry about age.. the
oldest girl I was with since I started Dave's
stuff was 30 and that's cuz she was a challenge..
the rest are 22-26 its like magic man.. get rid of
your fears and go for it P.S. since I started
DD101 I have filled my cell phone book with
numbers and most I didn't even ask, they would
take my phone and put it in themselves. J from
Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I love getting emails like yours...
One of the great things about the Cocky & Funny
(now referred to on occasion as Cocky Comedy) is
that so many guys ALREADY GET IT.
And, just like you, many of us have understood
EXACTLY what to do... we just never did it when we
were around women that we LIKED.
I'm glad you're figuring out how all of the
pieces fit together...
And thanks for reminding all of us that just
because you're tall and good-looking does NOT mean
that you're going to automatically get girls...
By the way, put a hat on that thing... and
watch out. Use caution, my friend. You don't want
one of those unwanted gifts that just keeps on
giving....
***QUESTION***
Greetings David,
I live in small Eastern-European country which is
by all means underdeveloped.
So, after encountering the ad for your book, I
was suspicious if it is going to work for Bosnian
women too. But, after buying and reading it, I
only discovered that the whole story about Bosnian
women was only in my mind. I discovered that after
reading about all kinds of fears men have while
approaching women. Those fears take form of the
entire set of reasons only not to be rejected or
embarrassed. Anyhow, in brief: After browsing
through the book I started implementing concepts.
My address book is now filled with emails and
phone numbers right below the email. I am
constantly going out with girls. And I enjoy it.
But the biggest benefit I derived from the book
was: it has instructed me to be a better person
and man. It has also shown me how. So, thank
you for sharing your knowledge with me. I am
very much interested in your new publications,
should you have some. And in joining the Buyer's
club if you have one, too.
Could you please let me know about these things?
Many greetings to DoubleYourDating community.
It's OK to be a man. Regards, D
>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Thanks for your email.
I get a lot of emails and questions from guys
who ask, "Will this work in my country?"
Now, I personally don't have a lot of
experience in different countries and cultures...
but from what I hear back from guys all over the
world who are using these concepts, they are
universal.
Congratulations, and thank you for your email.
***QUESTION***
Hi David
Dave, I can safely say you've changed my life. I
was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I
had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend
when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by
loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this
is my complete lack of confidence, I just had
none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go
over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I
was approached by a lady, I either froze up or
shook so much that everyone in the room thought
their cell phone was vibrating!
I just got up 1 day decided to go on the
internet and learn! I really didn't think I would
come across so much rubbish! But I signed up to
all the free newsletters and I used techniques
subtly with me female friends! Well as you've
obviously guessed, your tips were the ticket! I
bought the book and I was off... ..
I am now 28, been using your techniques for
about a year, year and a half.and I am so happy! I
have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating
3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont
leave me alone!
I am emailing you to say thank you, I would
really appreciate an email back if you don't post
it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it,
or I might send it again knowing me!
Ok here's the question, I have heard similar
questions so much on your newsletters but this is
quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be
great, rather than the default one!
Right, the one girl that I want is the one
playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I
knew her from work but didn't know her very well,
she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told'
her to give me her number! I rang her but her
phone is always off, so I sent her a text message
(sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee
during the week. She replied that she's busy all
week and she said that she has just got back with
her ex and if I want to get to know her as a
friend is my decision.
I REALLY like her, and she does not know this
(because she doesn't need to know). I am still a
novice at the game so could you tell me exactly
what you would do and exactly what you would say?
please
Thanks again
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then... welcome to the world of being an
adult man! Exciting.
And I'm glad to hear that you're doing well
with the ladies... FINALLY.
Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer
to your "special situation."
Let's see...
You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and
they're chasing you around like you're some kind
of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women...
of course.
Nooooo...
You want the ONE who isn't interested in you...
the one who just got back with her boyfriend.
Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like
you to consider your own situation.
Let's be honest, shall we?
Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL.
You are not into this girl because she's
actually that "special."
You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU.
If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit
that you're basically out of control in this
situation, then we can make some progress.
So admit it. Say it out loud.
"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly
because she doesn't want me... and it really
fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop
thinking about it."
Just read that out loud.
Read it again, just so you hear the words this
time.
Think about it for a minute.
You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF!
And it STILL works on YOU.
That's profound.
And by the way, the more you try to "resist"
the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a
challenge and you only want her because she's
"special," etc. the worse it will get.
So what should you do?
Hit the road.
Say "Next."
Move on.
Walk.
One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF
is to get the number of an unusually attractive
woman, then THROW IT AWAY.
Why? Duh.
Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to
yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and
meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am."
That kind of thing will help you, big time.
Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to
take my advice... and you want to make yourself
crazy some more, here's what to do:
1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.
2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a
question that I really need to ask you... call
me".
3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you
why it's taking you so long to call and ask me
out...." Tell her about some beautiful and
intelligent woman you've been dating, and then
tell her that you'd like to get together with her
and hang out as friends.
4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill
out, and give her space.
5) Take the time and energy to actually get to
know her as a person. Find out if she is really
the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make
a list of all the things that would make a
"perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the
things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all
the questions when you meet her... and do it in a
"friend" kind of way.
I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that
she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want
to be with.
On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl,
lean back and take your time.
Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.
Tell her that you can't possibly understand how
her boyfriend could stand her.
Chances are that she won't be with this guy for
long, and you will have now established that she's
your dream girl... and you'll be ready to
"pounce."
Moral?
Just get on with your life, man.
You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to
pretend that he's not.
My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July
fireworks.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave!
I'm a quite hot 25 year old (or so I've been
told many times...) woman who's been in a
relationship for several years & a few months ago
my boyfriend "mysteriously" started receiving your
newsletter. Now he says he doesn't read the stuff
(with the way he acts I believe him) but I wish he
did!!! I have to say that I'm considering ending
my relationship since he's become such a wuss (he
didn't used to be) I greatly enjoy reading your
stuff and to all the guys out there, C & F IS THE
BEST WAY TO GET WOMEN, I should know being one
myself. (Also a challenge, well uh... for me, is
always very nice)
Keep up the terrific work & maybe one day all
women will have great men
B, Montreal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'll tell you what... when you do leave the
dumb-ass (and you will, I can hear that you've
already made the decision in your heart... and
you're just trying to rationalize it now) make
sure and email me again.
I can guarantee you that I'LL READ THESE
NEWSLETTERS.
Kiss Kiss,
D.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
It is amazing how some good advice and a simple
change of attitude can make such a difference in
your life. I am in my late forties and have been
physically disabled from birth. (I use a
wheelchair to get around.) Throughout my history
with women, I have always been the "friend." I've
always been a shoulder to cry on and never the
face to sit on! Well, my new best friend, after
reading your e-book, my whole world changed. I've
always been a little cocky, and humor comes
naturally to me. Let's face it, cocky + funny =
Smart Ass, more or less. My concern was getting
punched in the head. But as it turns out, the
women who get what I'm doing, are the ones I'm
attracted to. If I brought to my home every woman
that has given me her number, I would have time
for little else.
I tried to make this one paragraph. Sorry, can't
do it. After realizing that most women love a bad
boy, I became one, saying and doing things I would
never say or do before. IT REALLY WORKS! I have
no questions for you, Dave. I just want to tell
the readers of your newsletter to get your e-book,
videos, audios, whatever, and then practice.
Thanks, David.
c. Anchorage, AK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your email.
I have to say something that's probably not
very politically correct... but here goes...
I've done a few seminars around the USA over
the past two years.
Each one has been an experience...
And at each one something VERY interesting
happens.
When we break for lunch or break at the end of
the day, I always have guys come up and talk to
me.
Sometimes one of the guys who comes up to talk
to me has an obvious "physical challenge" of some
type or another... and it's obvious enough that I
mentally think to myself, "OK, he's going to ask
me how to overcome his challenge with women."
And guess what?
MOST of the time, this isn't true at all.
In fact, I would say that most of the guys who
have come up to talk to me who have "obvious"
physical challenges say things like "I'm already
successful with women... but I have this one
question."
It has blown my mind.
My own realization is that the reality of women
being attracted to the INNER MAN is even MORE TRUE
than even I thought.
Thanks for your email, and good work.
***QUESTION***
I happen to get two best female friends. How do I
choose one?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Pick the one with the most money.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi David,
I am 50, look good and always got the women I
wanted... . but was always scared sh**less when I
wanted to approach a woman I see and wanted to
meet, but didn't know how to approach her. Since I
apply your ideas though my fear is gone. It works
like magic.
Till now I am not telling you anything new. But
listen what happened a short while ago. A friend
of mine has this daughter who I have known for
years. She is a lesbian (40), so of course we have
just been friends. We live far apart now and she
asked me if she could stay with me while on
vacation and bring her 22 year young nubile
girlfriend. I agreed and they arrive a month
later. This girlfriend turns out to be a goddess.
So I remember your lessons and I totally bust this
girls' balls (Is that the right expression? Sounds
weird. English is not my native tongue). For some
reason, although she is lesbian, I notice that she
wants me to find her attractive. But I tell her
(her friend is there too) that she is too young
for me, I don't like blonds, bla bla bla. I am
calm and use a subtle smile when I deliver the
messages. She goes nuts and becomes more and more
aggressive, because normally guys are all over
her. Logical, because she is gorgeous. But I keep
ignoring her and give a lot of attention to her
girlfriend. I treat her like a little girl, who is
not really seen by me as an adult. (Of course I
want to bed her, but I don't want to get into a
fight with the other, who is really a good friend
of mine. So I dismiss the possibility altogether.)
nThen she comes to me (after a few days) saying
that she never did it with a guy, but that I am
the chosen one to experience that 'penetration -
thing ' that she misses in the sex with her
girlfriend. (I kid you not! ) Her girlfriend is
there when she tells me this and her girlfriend
admits that she is also curious and that they
discussed this the night before and want to give
me a menage-a-tois.
The rest is history.
By the way, I use that line a lot now ('that
they are too young for me') with younger women.
They go crazy. And the older the are, the better
it works. I even tell 'girls' of 30 this and then
they seem to need to show how 'adult' they are,
also in the bedroom.
Thanks again for your ideas. It is great stuff. It
even works on lesbians!!!
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I can't type.
I am sitting in a reverent pose, head bowed to
you.
I think I can speak for all fellow men when I
say:
"You suck, and all men wish they were you."
Powerful male energy has that effect... and now
you have seen it first hand.
***QUESTION***
David,
I loved your book. And I really think that the
advice of "the more women you talk to the better
at it you will be" is worth the price of the book
alone. I have one dilemma. My local mall where I
live is "the" place where all the women go, but
after years of rejection or faint politeness at
best by doing exactly that over the years, I am so
defeated, I cant bring myself to walk over cold to
a female in that mall anymore. I am 44 years old
and after getting the cold shoulder for over 20
Years wherever I go, particularly in malls, its
hard to believe I can get any other kind of result
other than making an ass out of myself. What
repulsive vibes I must be giving off! I am a so-
so looking guy, 5'9 170 lbs in decent shape and I
approach women from 19-38 and I cant seem to get
positive reactions. And I don't talk like a truck
driver either. I am college educated. Yes I am
scared shitless upon approach till they talk to
me, but once they open up, I am so relaxed and
funny (not cocky though) you'd think I was Johnny
Carson's son.
Anyway, how do I get my confidence back at
approaching women in malls? I sometimes walk into
a dept store and go to the mens section hoping to
see a lady buying something for a relative that i
can ask advice. Or I may go to the ladies section
and compliment her on something she is thinking of
getting. Or, I flirt with the cashier, or one of
the sales girls. Sometimes I will even try the
passive approach and sit on a bench and let
someone come sit down on the bench next to me and
at least give me a look.! Never works. Not in 20
yrs. I could wait years and Its like I am the
invisible man. Rarely is anyone rude, just
apathetic. This has been happening for over 20
yrs. Literally! I've even put on a suit and tie so
they think I work in the mall and that doesn't
work. And no, my hair Isn't messy, I have no nose
hairs showing, I bathe daily, etc.
Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp!!! By the way, I get the same
results no matter where I approach a women. I've
even tried the personals for 6 yrs and have
emailed over 1000 women and my pic makes me look
5x better than I look in person and
still.......nothing! Also, I am a white guy and
most of the women in the mall are of color, so
should I be using a special strategy or something?
What to do?
M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, remember the advice I gave to the guy
earlier, where I told him to bring a pen and paper
into the bathroom?
I think you need to call him... maybe the two
of you can go into his bathroom together... and
conserve paper.
Let me get this straight...
Sometimes you put on a suit and tie, then go to
the mall... hoping that a girl will come sit next
to you on a bench... and she'll think that you
WORK there?
And you think this is going to work magic for
you?
We need to talk.
First of all, you're whining like a little
girl.
Second, you're committing the sin of using only
half of the Cocky & Funny formula. In other words,
you probably sound like a DORK to women.
Third, you need to go and make friends with
some guys who are GREAT with women, and WATCH them
interact with women in person.
Look, if you're not going to use the materials
the way they're intended to be used, why are you
complaining?
Instead of putting on a suit, just bang your
head against the wall like twenty times a day...
It will save you a trip to the mall...
Here...
The formula goes like this:
COCKY + FUNNY.
COCKY + COMEDY.
You need to use ARROGANT HUMOR.
Bust balls.
Tease with sarcasm.
Create some sexual TENSION.
You're not a clown, so quit acting like one.
Read my book again, and try the materials the
way I've presented them to you....
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
This is for all those people who don't believe
your techniques work in a relationship. I'm 43,
slightly overweight, false teeth, don't make a lot
of money and in the middle of a divorce (my
second) from a plain looking woman (I thought
she'd appreciate me more) who didn't want a "nice
guy" (WUSS) and took advantage of my "approval
seeking". After I filed for divorce, I started
going on-line looking for new prospects, sticking
to my own age group, using a "nice guy" profile,
"WUSS" letters to anyone remotely decent, and
"WUSS" responses to any replies I got. I'm
naturally witty with quick repartee (sexual
innuendo and busting are instinctive to me, but
never when I'm in a relationship), but I kept that
out because I was afraid of offending and scaring
off any potential females. They usually didn't
write more than two times before disappearing.
Your book and e-mails changed all that.
After buying your book, I took C&F on-line, and
it worked so well in my own age group, that I
tried it on a few younger types. I got quite a
few good responses but kept screwing up by
reverting to "WUSS". I finally met this one girl,
22 with good looking picture, and decided to keep
the C&F going and see what happened. After a
while, I said I was going to a movie on a
particular date, and if she wanted to she could
come along. And, I didn't stop busting on her all
night, figuring to just enjoy myself because we'd
never be more than friends. She was laughing
constantly, and at herself. She was the nervous
one, and obviously attracted. But I played hard
to get. I turned all her advances back at her C&F,
until she practically raped me one night. She had
plenty of boyfriends before me, but they never got
anywhere because of their WUSS behavior, like
trying to "buy" her, or proposing after the second
date (one really did). Until that night I used to
call her my "virgin sex maniac" (she was), because
of how passionate she was, and she loved the
nickname. Now I just call her a sex maniac. We've
been together 9 months now, and SHE proposed two
weeks ago for after my divorce is final (it's a
long bitter one). I made her wait almost a week
before accepting. And, I still bust on her
constantly, but always jokingly (C&F) There's some
"WUSS" behavior, like love poems, and going
clothes shopping with her. But those are things I
want to do, not me seeking approval (another
change), and she knows that. I'm not looking for
anyone else, because I'm truly happy where I'm at,
instead of scared like I was in ALL my previous
relationships. Your material is what got me here,
and it's obvious that it's what will keep this
soon to be marriage from ever becoming boring.
Thanks,
R.O.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
All I can say is that I saw the picture, and
your girl is a babe. No question.
You're the man.
By the way, as you know, one of my very
favorite places to use and LEARN how to use Cocky
Comedy is ONLINE.
Chat is great.
It gives you time to FORMULATE great lines and
responses.
It's the ultimate "simulator."
And the great part is that there are literally
millions and millions of REAL WOMEN online who are
willing to "simulate" at any hour of the day.
Good luck with the Virgin Sex Maniac.
And thanks for the email.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought you e-book and must admit it is worth
the price plus its weight in gold. As I read it I
kept saying to myself, "Yeah, I already know that.
Hey, why is this guy telling our secrets?" Over 20
years ago, I did the same thing you did ... I
learned from some really good mentors, I tried
things and found out what worked and what did not,
and most importantly I learned to maintain that
"NEXT!" attitude. Oh, I am not going to ask for a
refund. No way! Your book is the best refresher
course I've seen. When I consider wussing, I just
re-read it and ... Presto! ... an instant cure.
Thanks!!! One thing that always seems to get
attention is a playful look that says "I just had
a great idea!" ... Pop Rocks come to mind! On a
date I bought some while we were sitting and
chatting. As they started to pop in my mouth, I
just raised my eyebrows looking at her and smiled
with a devilish twinkle in my eye, and put the
rest of the package in my pocket. Then I winked at
her and said, "For later." Of course, how far this
is taken depends on familiarity. In this case, she
was anticipating "trying" Pop Rocks for the rest
of the evening, but I never mentioned them again.
I've been to many different countries, and the
general approach you describe has worked in all of
them. It is not a woman's cultural training, but
something more primitive that cocky and funny
appeals to in them. I think it subconsciously
says to them that this man is certain he can take
care of them ... he is not worried, but is so sure
of his abilities that he can actually have fun. I
know what you teach works in Europe, in the
Orient, in Latin America and in North America. I
could give several examples, but here is one from
the Orient... A beautiful woman met me for coffee.
She rather quickly told me that other men always
told her how beautiful she was and suggested that
I do the same. I replied with, "Well,...
(pause)... they are trying to get laid. And you
can't believe everything a guy tells you when he's
trying to get laid.... (pause)... Of course you're
attractive. You're having coffee with me, aren't
you?" By the way, she was late, so I handed her
the bill after a delightful conversation about
culture, customs and local history. She looked
shocked and I laughed and said (with a smile),
"I'll pay it. But if you are late next time, don't
expect me to be so nice." She would tell me that
the things I said would make her angry, but she
just could got bored with the guys who were
telling her how beautiful she was all the time.
Guess whom she called frequently to see if we
could go out? Also, she was never late for another
date. We won't go into who got laid and who did
not. =)
Dave, there is a question I have for you. At
this time in my life I am enjoying being single
again. Sure, if I met a woman who made me feel
that the better part of me was missing when she
was not there, I would be delighted to settle
down. However, I find that women frequently just
assume that a relationship is serious or exclusive
and get really angry when I let them know that is
not the case. I've tried telling them from the
beginning that I was also dating others and I get
an I-don't-want-to-hear-about-it reply. I've
tried explaining that for now, I am looking for
anything special, but it seems that they WANT a
relationship, even when they SAY they just want to
have fun and date as friends. How do you
recommend handling this situation?
R. from all over, but currently living in LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, yes.
It's taken me a long time to figure out the
answer you're looking for... but I believe that
I've found it.
I personally believe that the "relationship
trigger" inside of a woman is tied to the amount
of time you spend with her and/or talking to her
on the phone.
If you want a girlfriend, talk to her and see
her several times a week.
Her "relationship emotions" will kick in almost
immediately.
If you want to date casually, don't talk to her
more than once or twice a week, and don't see her
more than about once per week.
If you do that, it will eliminate the need to
"have the talk"... because there will be no talk
required.
No technique is perfect, but you'll find that
this one is as close as they get...
***MORE COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave
I love your material. I am an average looking,
fun, 27 year old female. I have always hated those
wimpy, clingy guys that want a relationship and to
"please" me before they even get to first base. I
have introduced several of my male friends to your
materials and they email me volumes of dating
success stories. For all of your readers that
still don't 'get it,' I wanted to share an example
of what not to do. I had begun to frequent a local
club and got to the point that I was comfortable
going in alone. After a long day at work all I
wanted was to sit and sip my drink and enjoy the
music. If a C&F guy was to come along then I was
open to conversation. What I got instead was the
loser guy that goes from table to table asking
women to dance or just make idle chit chat. I
politely tell him that I had a long day and I just
want to sip my drink. Instead of taking the hint
he slides in closer to me, puts both elbows up on
the bar and asks what made it a long day. I told
him as nicely as I could that I wasn't in the mood
for chit chat. He looked like a wounded puppy and
sauntered off. Exactly one week later I was at the
same place with some friends. Sitting one dance
out, the same guy walks up to me with a killer
opening line, "You look bored." He doesn't get it
when I tell him that I am not going to tell him my
name AGAIN, he must have enjoyed some liquid
confidence because this time he was touching my
shoulder and getting right in my face. It took
telling him that I was there with someone to get
him to go away. Bottom line, watch the creep
factor. If practicing C&F then this shouldn't be a
problem. Thanks Dave, by improving the dating
lives of men everywhere you are improving the
dating lives of woman as well. S. in Seattle
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, nice.
I wrote a newsletter recently that mentioned
the emotion women feel called "The Instant Ewww."
Well, you've demonstrated yet another way that
any guy can make any woman feel it within moments
of meeting.
Thanks for the story...
GUYS! Take note... don't do this kind of
stupid, Jack-Wuss stuff.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
First, I should say that I enjoy reading your
letters, comments, etc. I definitely think you
have some interesting insight on women and dating.
I would like to share some thoughts that I
recurrently have while reading your newsletter.
Cocky and Funny doesn't just work on women. I have
always used cocky and funny as a flirting
technique and men love it too. I think it
communicates some important things about a person.
1) I am a fun person capable of letting my hair
down. 2) I am confident in myself. 3) For the
person on the other end of C&F, assuming he/she
responds well, it says he/she is confident enough
to take the teasing and roll with it. Frankly, C&F
is just fun, and people like to be with fun
people. Also, I have some reflections on the
whole "nice guy" thing. When women say they want
"nice" men they aren't lying or misunderstanding
what they want. But, I do think that what women
mean by "nice" and what men think we mean are two
different things. When it comes to relationships,
I don't want to be physically or emotionally
harmed, cheated on, or stood up, etc. Basically, I
want a partner who is reliable and trustworthy and
who shows me on occasion that I am special, he
cares about me, and enjoys being with me. When it
comes to dating, especially first dates, men can
take "nice" waaaayyy too far. Often this equates
to "creepy." For instance, a guy once gave me on
the second date an extremely large bouquet of
exotic flowers and a pineapple (?). I would guess
the bouquet cost him at least $100, if not more.
CREEPY. I was already slightly creeped out by this
guy because he wanted to drive one hour at 11pm
the day after our first date to see me. When I
said no, he practically begged. I did see him the
following day which is when he presented the
flowers. I sent him home an hour later and he did
not get date 3. Another guy showed up on the first
date with a bouquet of roses, had the waitress box
up left-over iceburg lettuce for me, and told me
later that he was glad he took some time off from
college because otherwise he would have never met
me! CREEPY. Guy did not get second date. Another
guy, on the first date, was so concerned about
being chivalrous that he would run ahead of me to
reach doors before me and open them for me. He was
so concerned about pleasing me that he would not
assist in making decisions about plans for the
date. I ended the date as soon as possible. These
are extremes, but other things include calling
constantly and demanding lots of time from me
right away. All of these things come down to
trying TOO hard which communicate to me, not
niceness, but a level of desperation and neediness
that makes me worry if I have a stalker on my
hands. I begin to wonder 1) is this guy extremely
emotionally needy and will become possessive and
physically scary? 2) is there something really
wrong with this guy that makes him incapable of
having a relationship with women and so he is THIS
desperate?
Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy men doing nice
things for me, but there are limits. For instance
my current boyfriend (in a monogamous
relationship) treated me to an expensive,
beautiful dinner and flowers for my birthday. This
was a special occasion for two people who really
care for each other. On first dates there should
be no expensive dinners, no expensive gifts, no
extensive flattery, no expression of emotion that
shouldn't yet be felt. I also like to contribute
to the date in some way, say purchase coffee at
the end of the evening. If a man is paying for
everything, all the time, I begin to feel guilty,
like a mooch. I don't think all women are like
this, but I feel uncomfortable with too much
financial and emotional flattery, especially early
on. A--Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ohhhh... this is good stuff.
More of the infamous "Instant Ewww"
phenomenon...
You're really onto something here because I
have heard women say "He gives me the creeps" on
MANY, MANY occasions myself.
Yeah, it's worse than most guys think.
A little bit of a good thing is a good thing.
A lot of a good thing too early is the kiss of
death...
Write in more often. Love it.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
I'm a guy who has had pretty good success with
women. I'm in shape, and attractive, not shy, and
have always had the attitude that if she isn't
interested there must be something wrong with HER.
But your materials are fantastic. They have
helped me have a PLAN so I have been better
prepared in certain situations. And the entire
C/F thing has helped me weed out the right women.
In other words... some women get offended, turned
off to this approach. GREAT!!!! If you are a
stuffy, too good for everyone, can't have any fun
woman I don't need you OR your attitude. It helps
find out who the fun ones are.
Now for how your materials helped me this past
weekend. I'm in a college football town and was at
a huge tailgate (10,000 people) party that takes
place near the stadium in front of a local hotel.
I'm in the hallway of the hotel using my cell
phone and see a GORGEOUS girl sitting on a bench
doing the same. Heres the dialogue when she gets
up to leave.
Me: "You're going to leave without even hitting on
me" Her: "You need a better line than that" Me:
"That wasn't a line" Her: "That was a line and a
bad one" Me: "For it to be a line I would have
had to be interested in you" Her: Laughs and
hits me Her: "You're a player" Me: "You're not
very smart are you? The game already started and
the players are on the field. I see...you thought
you would meet some athlete down here, seduce him
and hit the lottery huh? Her: Hitting me again.
Me: Why don't you try Los Angeles. Kobe's out
there
Her: I have to go into the bathroom DONT go
anywhere.
This is where it gets Classic. While she is in the
bathroom her friend (who I don't know is her
friend
and wasn't around earlier) sits down on a chair
near me and we make eye contact. I think to myself
that if I weren't waiting on the other one I would
get to know this one. We exchange a couple of
smiles and thats it. I thought about getting an
email, but didn't. so here is how it picked up
with
the original girl.
Me: Its about time. I almost didn't wait that long
Her: Stop!!!! Me: Plus I had that girl over there
hitting on me Her: Thats my friend I came with!
Me: Some friend, she tried to steal me when you
weren't looking Her: (to her friend) Were you
hitting on him Friend: Maybe (laughing) Her: The
love of my life and you try to steal him
(sarcastic) Me: I have to get to a private party
I'm here for... do you have email Her: Only if I
get yours Me: Only if I get a kiss goodbye Her:
(quick kiss on the lips) Me: Thats not what I
meant....tell your friend you will be back in
about 5 minutes Her: (to friend) You going to be
here for 5 minutes. Me: Follow me!
The rest is private! But again....your information
is priceless!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What you have written here is GENIUS LEVEL
material.
I could write an entire chapter of a book on
this one short story... hell, I might even do that
some day.
The one thing that I will comment on here is
the amazing ability you've demonstrated of serving
the ball back over the net EVERY TIME she tried to
be a stuck-up, bratty girl.
Most guys would have thrown in the towel at the
very first, "You need a better line than that."
As soon as a woman says something like that to
most guys, the guy crumbles... he falters... he
loses his composure... and he's DONE.
In that moment when he loses his balance, she
instantly and unconsciously has that gut-level
"Wuss" response... and the door SLAMS shut.
Most guys don't realize that if you can "keep
the ball in play," you can turn a situation like
this from "bad" to "WAAAAYYY GOOD" in a matter of
a few SECONDS.
I was talking to a good friend of mine
recently, and we were talking about starting
conversations with women.
We were talking about that moment when you
first start using Cocky Comedy with a woman... and
she says "You're kind of full of yourself... what
makes you think you're so cool?"... as if she's
put off by your attitude...
And my friend looks at me, shakes his head,
smirks, and says, "Yeah, you own her at that
point."
Now, what did he mean?
How is it possible that if you've apparently
acted too cocky... and turned a woman off... that
you could "own her?"
Well, it's true.
I was once joking with a friend... sometimes
you'll meet a girl... and you'll bust her balls
and tease her so much that she starts to get
agitated... and all of a sudden she snaps into a
mode of:
"I don't know what it is that makes you think
you're god's gift... but I need to make out with
you to find out!"
LOL... it's funny.
Now, like I mentioned before, this is more
advanced stuff.
You need to have a good feel for chemistry and
sexual tension before you really try these types
of moves with women you don't know.
But there's a very interesting lesson here...
A woman doesn't have to LIKE you to feel
ATTRACTION for you. The ATTRACTION happens on its
own... regardless of other things happening at the
same time.
Certain traits and communication techniques
trigger ATTRACTION... and if you know what they
are, and how to amplify them, then you can create
results that will literally seem like MAGIC to
others watching.
...and if you're reading this right now and
you'd like to be one of the few men on this planet
that actually GETS IT when it comes to this "other
level" of communication, then you need to get your
hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD program.
It will open up a new world that you never knew
existed, and teach you how to be the kind of man
that women have been hoping for all their lives...
And the best part is that women in your life
will THANK YOU and APPRECIATE YOU for learning
this stuff. If you doubt me, just read the letters
from women in this newsletter... I'm not kidding.
All the details, plus some great free audio and
video clips are here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded my online ebook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then go get it! You can
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
to overcome fear, approach women, get numbers, and
dates, etc. I have to say, there's NOTHING that
will get your blood pumping like being able to
walk up to any attractive woman, start a quick
conversation, and walk away with her number. If
you'd like to learn my best secrets on how to
approach women, then take a minute and read this:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/ApproachingWomen
***QUESTION***
Honestly Dave, I think you need more caution,
and warning signs on your products, before some
knucklehead tries to sue you for loading his life
with more women than the poor soul knows how to
handle.lol I've followed your newsletter,
purchased your Ebook, and Advanced Series. Totally
Incredible stuff. I dated my High School
sweetheart for the better portion of 5 years, and
honestly if I knew way back then what I know now
it probably wouldn't have lasted 5 months. She was
always demanding, and got upset when I tried to
hang out with friends of mine, pretty much your
average basket case, but I felt like she was the
only girl that I could ever attract. Then I
managed to stumble over your site and signed up
for your newsletter and not long after I cut the
ties with her, and I am happier today and date
more interesting, intelligent women than I ever
thought possible. All thanks to your ingenious,
and selfless hard work and research.
I would say that my greatest problem is that I'm
generally a pretty low keyed mellow kind of guy
that doesn't mind going out to clubs but would far
rather find a few girls that don't mind chilling
out at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell just wrestling around on the
bed.(no pun intended) lol However if these girls
tend to stay homebound for the most part what sort
of venues would you recommend for meeting these
types. Door to door dating perhaps.. lol I have
also tried the online personals which is where
much of my success come from, but many of these
girls you have to look out for or you could have a
bona fide stalker on your hands.(I know this from
experience)Yeah it sucks being a good looking,
confident guy huh? This is my first time emailing
you after reading the newsletter for well over a
year now..(yeah I stay busy) but I wanted to tell
you what a awesome job your doing and that it's
greatly appreciated from myself and multitudes of
others, not that you didn't already know that;
just thought I'd annoy you by saying..lol OK
Dave.. Take care and keep up the terrific
work..God Bless
Lionhart, DE
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, first off I want to thank you for the
shameless promotion and over-hyping of my
materials.
I appreciate it...
Next, let's talk about your "wish list."
You "don't mind going out to clubs," but you'd
"far rather find a FEW GOOD GIRLS that don't mind
chilling at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell, just WRESTLING AROUND ON THE
BED."
With each other, I'm assuming...
Hey, sounds good to me.
Maybe while they're wrestling they'd let you
videotape...and you could start an internet
company based on the concept.
Cut me in for a percentage.
And ya know, I like the way you think.
Well, I hate to break the news to you...but if
you want to meet women, you're going to have to do
SOMETHING.
The internet-bed-wrestling-make-money idea was
a pretty good one...hey, kill two birds with one
stone.
Other than that, you might try out a few of
those magical activities that are interesting,
enjoyable, and (BIG AND) also draw intelligent,
gorgeous women like a magnet.
Try an art history class.
Or go to a classy "food fair" or restaurant
opening.
Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing aerobics
class.
Dance classes are also a big winner.
In other words, there are some great places you
can go to meet women...AND have fun...AND become a
more interesting, classy guy.
Who'd-a-thunk-it?
***QUESTION***
I have been talking to this girl for about a month
now and I find myself falling in love with her
everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night).
She recently told me that she didn't want to date
me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said
that if it is meant to happen it will, and that we
shouldn't force it. My question is how do I get
her to realize that it is meant, and that we
should push it, and how do I prove to her she
won't hurt me??
Sincerely, -J.K.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should
do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk
into the bathroom right now.
Turn on the light.
On the piece of paper I want you to write the
word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make
sense... but do it anyway.
Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you,
so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a
CAPTION for YOUR FACE.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Let that settle in for a minute.
Now that you have a clear picture of what a
WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced
maneuver.
Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up
next to your face.
Hold it about 12 inches away.
Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it.
Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of
you...
Dude, duuuuuude.
You are SOOO missing the point here.
She does not want a guy who will prove to her
that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be
with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG.
Women aren't attracted to girly-men.
Girly-men freak women out.
Women RUN from girly-men.
The answer is for you to start acting like a
MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL.
You need to get yourself a copy of my Advanced
Dating Techniques Program immediately.
This is an emergency. Do it.
http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Dave,
I have in my life had good and bad success with
women and I just learned to live with it. I have a
very good job I'm a big guy 6'3" 240 nice build
and
I get told a lot that I'm good looking. So with
all
that being said I just thought I would take things
as they come. I have always been cocky+funny
naturally BUT I didn't use that on the women that
I really wanted always one ones that wanted me or
just girls I work with etc.. Also I wasn't doing
it in the fashion that you teach. I wouldn't use
the lines " you know you want me admit it" or
"just say please" those would move the attention
to ME and away from the situation I would think
which wasn't what I was after while doing it. I
would always be C+F just because that was me.. I
wasn't trying to pick anyone up lol its so funny
thinking back now. Anyway. after reading your mail
bag and book it dawned on me.. WTF was I
thinking.. I would have literally dozens of women
chasing me but all of them I didn't want (not cute
or what ever).. but the ones I wanted were like
he's cool but what ever..well this girl that I
like is a bartender at a bar I go to every
weekend, we joke play but never date.. I started
using the stuff you teach on her as a test (was in
friend zone) and BAM she wont leave me alone said
to me today on phone that she's liking me more and
more every day..I said damn your slow.. everyone
else gets it what's taking you so long.. I helped
her tend bar last night and every time she passed
me I said loudly "will you stop grabbing my ass"
its like a different girl.
I have lots more stories since I've been using
your stuff for weeks now and its un-real I am able
to get laid 3 or 4 times a week now with out even
really trying. (need to rest sometimes) lol. I
wasted so much time and I'm only 34.. oh one more
thing to those people that worry about age.. the
oldest girl I was with since I started Dave's
stuff was 30 and that's cuz she was a challenge..
the rest are 22-26 its like magic man.. get rid of
your fears and go for it P.S. since I started
DD101 I have filled my cell phone book with
numbers and most I didn't even ask, they would
take my phone and put it in themselves. J from
Michigan
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I love getting emails like yours...
One of the great things about the Cocky & Funny
(now referred to on occasion as Cocky Comedy) is
that so many guys ALREADY GET IT.
And, just like you, many of us have understood
EXACTLY what to do... we just never did it when we
were around women that we LIKED.
I'm glad you're figuring out how all of the
pieces fit together...
And thanks for reminding all of us that just
because you're tall and good-looking does NOT mean
that you're going to automatically get girls...
By the way, put a hat on that thing... and
watch out. Use caution, my friend. You don't want
one of those unwanted gifts that just keeps on
giving....
***QUESTION***
Greetings David,
I live in small Eastern-European country which is
by all means underdeveloped.
So, after encountering the ad for your book, I
was suspicious if it is going to work for Bosnian
women too. But, after buying and reading it, I
only discovered that the whole story about Bosnian
women was only in my mind. I discovered that after
reading about all kinds of fears men have while
approaching women. Those fears take form of the
entire set of reasons only not to be rejected or
embarrassed. Anyhow, in brief: After browsing
through the book I started implementing concepts.
My address book is now filled with emails and
phone numbers right below the email. I am
constantly going out with girls. And I enjoy it.
But the biggest benefit I derived from the book
was: it has instructed me to be a better person
and man. It has also shown me how. So, thank
you for sharing your knowledge with me. I am
very much interested in your new publications,
should you have some. And in joining the Buyer's
club if you have one, too.
Could you please let me know about these things?
Many greetings to DoubleYourDating community.
It's OK to be a man. Regards, D
>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Thanks for your email.
I get a lot of emails and questions from guys
who ask, "Will this work in my country?"
Now, I personally don't have a lot of
experience in different countries and cultures...
but from what I hear back from guys all over the
world who are using these concepts, they are
universal.
Congratulations, and thank you for your email.
***QUESTION***
Hi David
Dave, I can safely say you've changed my life. I
was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I
had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend
when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by
loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this
is my complete lack of confidence, I just had
none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go
over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I
was approached by a lady, I either froze up or
shook so much that everyone in the room thought
their cell phone was vibrating!
I just got up 1 day decided to go on the
internet and learn! I really didn't think I would
come across so much rubbish! But I signed up to
all the free newsletters and I used techniques
subtly with me female friends! Well as you've
obviously guessed, your tips were the ticket! I
bought the book and I was off... ..
I am now 28, been using your techniques for
about a year, year and a half.and I am so happy! I
have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating
3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont
leave me alone!
I am emailing you to say thank you, I would
really appreciate an email back if you don't post
it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it,
or I might send it again knowing me!
Ok here's the question, I have heard similar
questions so much on your newsletters but this is
quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be
great, rather than the default one!
Right, the one girl that I want is the one
playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I
knew her from work but didn't know her very well,
she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told'
her to give me her number! I rang her but her
phone is always off, so I sent her a text message
(sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee
during the week. She replied that she's busy all
week and she said that she has just got back with
her ex and if I want to get to know her as a
friend is my decision.
I REALLY like her, and she does not know this
(because she doesn't need to know). I am still a
novice at the game so could you tell me exactly
what you would do and exactly what you would say?
please
Thanks again
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well then... welcome to the world of being an
adult man! Exciting.
And I'm glad to hear that you're doing well
with the ladies... FINALLY.
Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer
to your "special situation."
Let's see...
You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and
they're chasing you around like you're some kind
of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women...
of course.
Nooooo...
You want the ONE who isn't interested in you...
the one who just got back with her boyfriend.
Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like
you to consider your own situation.
Let's be honest, shall we?
Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL.
You are not into this girl because she's
actually that "special."
You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU.
If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit
that you're basically out of control in this
situation, then we can make some progress.
So admit it. Say it out loud.
"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly
because she doesn't want me... and it really
fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop
thinking about it."
Just read that out loud.
Read it again, just so you hear the words this
time.
Think about it for a minute.
You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF!
And it STILL works on YOU.
That's profound.
And by the way, the more you try to "resist"
the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a
challenge and you only want her because she's
"special," etc. the worse it will get.
So what should you do?
Hit the road.
Say "Next."
Move on.
Walk.
One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF
is to get the number of an unusually attractive
woman, then THROW IT AWAY.
Why? Duh.
Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to
yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and
meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am."
That kind of thing will help you, big time.
Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to
take my advice... and you want to make yourself
crazy some more, here's what to do:
1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.
2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a
question that I really need to ask you... call
me".
3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you
why it's taking you so long to call and ask me
out...." Tell her about some beautiful and
intelligent woman you've been dating, and then
tell her that you'd like to get together with her
and hang out as friends.
4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill
out, and give her space.
5) Take the time and energy to actually get to
know her as a person. Find out if she is really
the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make
a list of all the things that would make a
"perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the
things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all
the questions when you meet her... and do it in a
"friend" kind of way.
I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that
she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want
to be with.
On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl,
lean back and take your time.
Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.
Tell her that you can't possibly understand how
her boyfriend could stand her.
Chances are that she won't be with this guy for
long, and you will have now established that she's
your dream girl... and you'll be ready to
"pounce."
Moral?
Just get on with your life, man.
You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to
pretend that he's not.
My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July
fireworks.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave!
I'm a quite hot 25 year old (or so I've been
told many times...) woman who's been in a
relationship for several years & a few months ago
my boyfriend "mysteriously" started receiving your
newsletter. Now he says he doesn't read the stuff
(with the way he acts I believe him) but I wish he
did!!! I have to say that I'm considering ending
my relationship since he's become such a wuss (he
didn't used to be) I greatly enjoy reading your
stuff and to all the guys out there, C & F IS THE
BEST WAY TO GET WOMEN, I should know being one
myself. (Also a challenge, well uh... for me, is
always very nice)
Keep up the terrific work & maybe one day all
women will have great men
B, Montreal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'll tell you what... when you do leave the
dumb-ass (and you will, I can hear that you've
already made the decision in your heart... and
you're just trying to rationalize it now) make
sure and email me again.
I can guarantee you that I'LL READ THESE
NEWSLETTERS.
Kiss Kiss,
D.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
It is amazing how some good advice and a simple
change of attitude can make such a difference in
your life. I am in my late forties and have been
physically disabled from birth. (I use a
wheelchair to get around.) Throughout my history
with women, I have always been the "friend." I've
always been a shoulder to cry on and never the
face to sit on! Well, my new best friend, after
reading your e-book, my whole world changed. I've
always been a little cocky, and humor comes
naturally to me. Let's face it, cocky + funny =
Smart Ass, more or less. My concern was getting
punched in the head. But as it turns out, the
women who get what I'm doing, are the ones I'm
attracted to. If I brought to my home every woman
that has given me her number, I would have time
for little else.
I tried to make this one paragraph. Sorry, can't
do it. After realizing that most women love a bad
boy, I became one, saying and doing things I would
never say or do before. IT REALLY WORKS! I have
no questions for you, Dave. I just want to tell
the readers of your newsletter to get your e-book,
videos, audios, whatever, and then practice.
Thanks, David.
c. Anchorage, AK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Thanks for your email.
I have to say something that's probably not
very politically correct... but here goes...
I've done a few seminars around the USA over
the past two years.
Each one has been an experience...
And at each one something VERY interesting
happens.
When we break for lunch or break at the end of
the day, I always have guys come up and talk to
me.
Sometimes one of the guys who comes up to talk
to me has an obvious "physical challenge" of some
type or another... and it's obvious enough that I
mentally think to myself, "OK, he's going to ask
me how to overcome his challenge with women."
And guess what?
MOST of the time, this isn't true at all.
In fact, I would say that most of the guys who
have come up to talk to me who have "obvious"
physical challenges say things like "I'm already
successful with women... but I have this one
question."
It has blown my mind.
My own realization is that the reality of women
being attracted to the INNER MAN is even MORE TRUE
than even I thought.
Thanks for your email, and good work.
***QUESTION***
I happen to get two best female friends. How do I
choose one?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Pick the one with the most money.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi David,
I am 50, look good and always got the women I
wanted... . but was always scared sh**less when I
wanted to approach a woman I see and wanted to
meet, but didn't know how to approach her. Since I
apply your ideas though my fear is gone. It works
like magic.
Till now I am not telling you anything new. But
listen what happened a short while ago. A friend
of mine has this daughter who I have known for
years. She is a lesbian (40), so of course we have
just been friends. We live far apart now and she
asked me if she could stay with me while on
vacation and bring her 22 year young nubile
girlfriend. I agreed and they arrive a month
later. This girlfriend turns out to be a goddess.
So I remember your lessons and I totally bust this
girls' balls (Is that the right expression? Sounds
weird. English is not my native tongue). For some
reason, although she is lesbian, I notice that she
wants me to find her attractive. But I tell her
(her friend is there too) that she is too young
for me, I don't like blonds, bla bla bla. I am
calm and use a subtle smile when I deliver the
messages. She goes nuts and becomes more and more
aggressive, because normally guys are all over
her. Logical, because she is gorgeous. But I keep
ignoring her and give a lot of attention to her
girlfriend. I treat her like a little girl, who is
not really seen by me as an adult. (Of course I
want to bed her, but I don't want to get into a
fight with the other, who is really a good friend
of mine. So I dismiss the possibility altogether.)
nThen she comes to me (after a few days) saying
that she never did it with a guy, but that I am
the chosen one to experience that 'penetration -
thing ' that she misses in the sex with her
girlfriend. (I kid you not! ) Her girlfriend is
there when she tells me this and her girlfriend
admits that she is also curious and that they
discussed this the night before and want to give
me a menage-a-tois.
The rest is history.
By the way, I use that line a lot now ('that
they are too young for me') with younger women.
They go crazy. And the older the are, the better
it works. I even tell 'girls' of 30 this and then
they seem to need to show how 'adult' they are,
also in the bedroom.
Thanks again for your ideas. It is great stuff. It
even works on lesbians!!!
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I can't type.
I am sitting in a reverent pose, head bowed to
you.
I think I can speak for all fellow men when I
say:
"You suck, and all men wish they were you."
Powerful male energy has that effect... and now
you have seen it first hand.
***QUESTION***
David,
I loved your book. And I really think that the
advice of "the more women you talk to the better
at it you will be" is worth the price of the book
alone. I have one dilemma. My local mall where I
live is "the" place where all the women go, but
after years of rejection or faint politeness at
best by doing exactly that over the years, I am so
defeated, I cant bring myself to walk over cold to
a female in that mall anymore. I am 44 years old
and after getting the cold shoulder for over 20
Years wherever I go, particularly in malls, its
hard to believe I can get any other kind of result
other than making an ass out of myself. What
repulsive vibes I must be giving off! I am a so-
so looking guy, 5'9 170 lbs in decent shape and I
approach women from 19-38 and I cant seem to get
positive reactions. And I don't talk like a truck
driver either. I am college educated. Yes I am
scared shitless upon approach till they talk to
me, but once they open up, I am so relaxed and
funny (not cocky though) you'd think I was Johnny
Carson's son.
Anyway, how do I get my confidence back at
approaching women in malls? I sometimes walk into
a dept store and go to the mens section hoping to
see a lady buying something for a relative that i
can ask advice. Or I may go to the ladies section
and compliment her on something she is thinking of
getting. Or, I flirt with the cashier, or one of
the sales girls. Sometimes I will even try the
passive approach and sit on a bench and let
someone come sit down on the bench next to me and
at least give me a look.! Never works. Not in 20
yrs. I could wait years and Its like I am the
invisible man. Rarely is anyone rude, just
apathetic. This has been happening for over 20
yrs. Literally! I've even put on a suit and tie so
they think I work in the mall and that doesn't
work. And no, my hair Isn't messy, I have no nose
hairs showing, I bathe daily, etc.
Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp!!! By the way, I get the same
results no matter where I approach a women. I've
even tried the personals for 6 yrs and have
emailed over 1000 women and my pic makes me look
5x better than I look in person and
still.......nothing! Also, I am a white guy and
most of the women in the mall are of color, so
should I be using a special strategy or something?
What to do?
M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, remember the advice I gave to the guy
earlier, where I told him to bring a pen and paper
into the bathroom?
I think you need to call him... maybe the two
of you can go into his bathroom together... and
conserve paper.
Let me get this straight...
Sometimes you put on a suit and tie, then go to
the mall... hoping that a girl will come sit next
to you on a bench... and she'll think that you
WORK there?
And you think this is going to work magic for
you?
We need to talk.
First of all, you're whining like a little
girl.
Second, you're committing the sin of using only
half of the Cocky & Funny formula. In other words,
you probably sound like a DORK to women.
Third, you need to go and make friends with
some guys who are GREAT with women, and WATCH them
interact with women in person.
Look, if you're not going to use the materials
the way they're intended to be used, why are you
complaining?
Instead of putting on a suit, just bang your
head against the wall like twenty times a day...
It will save you a trip to the mall...
Here...
The formula goes like this:
COCKY + FUNNY.
COCKY + COMEDY.
You need to use ARROGANT HUMOR.
Bust balls.
Tease with sarcasm.
Create some sexual TENSION.
You're not a clown, so quit acting like one.
Read my book again, and try the materials the
way I've presented them to you....
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
This is for all those people who don't believe
your techniques work in a relationship. I'm 43,
slightly overweight, false teeth, don't make a lot
of money and in the middle of a divorce (my
second) from a plain looking woman (I thought
she'd appreciate me more) who didn't want a "nice
guy" (WUSS) and took advantage of my "approval
seeking". After I filed for divorce, I started
going on-line looking for new prospects, sticking
to my own age group, using a "nice guy" profile,
"WUSS" letters to anyone remotely decent, and
"WUSS" responses to any replies I got. I'm
naturally witty with quick repartee (sexual
innuendo and busting are instinctive to me, but
never when I'm in a relationship), but I kept that
out because I was afraid of offending and scaring
off any potential females. They usually didn't
write more than two times before disappearing.
Your book and e-mails changed all that.
After buying your book, I took C&F on-line, and
it worked so well in my own age group, that I
tried it on a few younger types. I got quite a
few good responses but kept screwing up by
reverting to "WUSS". I finally met this one girl,
22 with good looking picture, and decided to keep
the C&F going and see what happened. After a
while, I said I was going to a movie on a
particular date, and if she wanted to she could
come along. And, I didn't stop busting on her all
night, figuring to just enjoy myself because we'd
never be more than friends. She was laughing
constantly, and at herself. She was the nervous
one, and obviously attracted. But I played hard
to get. I turned all her advances back at her C&F,
until she practically raped me one night. She had
plenty of boyfriends before me, but they never got
anywhere because of their WUSS behavior, like
trying to "buy" her, or proposing after the second
date (one really did). Until that night I used to
call her my "virgin sex maniac" (she was), because
of how passionate she was, and she loved the
nickname. Now I just call her a sex maniac. We've
been together 9 months now, and SHE proposed two
weeks ago for after my divorce is final (it's a
long bitter one). I made her wait almost a week
before accepting. And, I still bust on her
constantly, but always jokingly (C&F) There's some
"WUSS" behavior, like love poems, and going
clothes shopping with her. But those are things I
want to do, not me seeking approval (another
change), and she knows that. I'm not looking for
anyone else, because I'm truly happy where I'm at,
instead of scared like I was in ALL my previous
relationships. Your material is what got me here,
and it's obvious that it's what will keep this
soon to be marriage from ever becoming boring.
Thanks,
R.O.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
All I can say is that I saw the picture, and
your girl is a babe. No question.
You're the man.
By the way, as you know, one of my very
favorite places to use and LEARN how to use Cocky
Comedy is ONLINE.
Chat is great.
It gives you time to FORMULATE great lines and
responses.
It's the ultimate "simulator."
And the great part is that there are literally
millions and millions of REAL WOMEN online who are
willing to "simulate" at any hour of the day.
Good luck with the Virgin Sex Maniac.
And thanks for the email.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought you e-book and must admit it is worth
the price plus its weight in gold. As I read it I
kept saying to myself, "Yeah, I already know that.
Hey, why is this guy telling our secrets?" Over 20
years ago, I did the same thing you did ... I
learned from some really good mentors, I tried
things and found out what worked and what did not,
and most importantly I learned to maintain that
"NEXT!" attitude. Oh, I am not going to ask for a
refund. No way! Your book is the best refresher
course I've seen. When I consider wussing, I just
re-read it and ... Presto! ... an instant cure.
Thanks!!! One thing that always seems to get
attention is a playful look that says "I just had
a great idea!" ... Pop Rocks come to mind! On a
date I bought some while we were sitting and
chatting. As they started to pop in my mouth, I
just raised my eyebrows looking at her and smiled
with a devilish twinkle in my eye, and put the
rest of the package in my pocket. Then I winked at
her and said, "For later." Of course, how far this
is taken depends on familiarity. In this case, she
was anticipating "trying" Pop Rocks for the rest
of the evening, but I never mentioned them again.
I've been to many different countries, and the
general approach you describe has worked in all of
them. It is not a woman's cultural training, but
something more primitive that cocky and funny
appeals to in them. I think it subconsciously
says to them that this man is certain he can take
care of them ... he is not worried, but is so sure
of his abilities that he can actually have fun. I
know what you teach works in Europe, in the
Orient, in Latin America and in North America. I
could give several examples, but here is one from
the Orient... A beautiful woman met me for coffee.
She rather quickly told me that other men always
told her how beautiful she was and suggested that
I do the same. I replied with, "Well,...
(pause)... they are trying to get laid. And you
can't believe everything a guy tells you when he's
trying to get laid.... (pause)... Of course you're
attractive. You're having coffee with me, aren't
you?" By the way, she was late, so I handed her
the bill after a delightful conversation about
culture, customs and local history. She looked
shocked and I laughed and said (with a smile),
"I'll pay it. But if you are late next time, don't
expect me to be so nice." She would tell me that
the things I said would make her angry, but she
just could got bored with the guys who were
telling her how beautiful she was all the time.
Guess whom she called frequently to see if we
could go out? Also, she was never late for another
date. We won't go into who got laid and who did
not. =)
Dave, there is a question I have for you. At
this time in my life I am enjoying being single
again. Sure, if I met a woman who made me feel
that the better part of me was missing when she
was not there, I would be delighted to settle
down. However, I find that women frequently just
assume that a relationship is serious or exclusive
and get really angry when I let them know that is
not the case. I've tried telling them from the
beginning that I was also dating others and I get
an I-don't-want-to-hear-about-it reply. I've
tried explaining that for now, I am looking for
anything special, but it seems that they WANT a
relationship, even when they SAY they just want to
have fun and date as friends. How do you
recommend handling this situation?
R. from all over, but currently living in LA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, yes.
It's taken me a long time to figure out the
answer you're looking for... but I believe that
I've found it.
I personally believe that the "relationship
trigger" inside of a woman is tied to the amount
of time you spend with her and/or talking to her
on the phone.
If you want a girlfriend, talk to her and see
her several times a week.
Her "relationship emotions" will kick in almost
immediately.
If you want to date casually, don't talk to her
more than once or twice a week, and don't see her
more than about once per week.
If you do that, it will eliminate the need to
"have the talk"... because there will be no talk
required.
No technique is perfect, but you'll find that
this one is as close as they get...
***MORE COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave
I love your material. I am an average looking,
fun, 27 year old female. I have always hated those
wimpy, clingy guys that want a relationship and to
"please" me before they even get to first base. I
have introduced several of my male friends to your
materials and they email me volumes of dating
success stories. For all of your readers that
still don't 'get it,' I wanted to share an example
of what not to do. I had begun to frequent a local
club and got to the point that I was comfortable
going in alone. After a long day at work all I
wanted was to sit and sip my drink and enjoy the
music. If a C&F guy was to come along then I was
open to conversation. What I got instead was the
loser guy that goes from table to table asking
women to dance or just make idle chit chat. I
politely tell him that I had a long day and I just
want to sip my drink. Instead of taking the hint
he slides in closer to me, puts both elbows up on
the bar and asks what made it a long day. I told
him as nicely as I could that I wasn't in the mood
for chit chat. He looked like a wounded puppy and
sauntered off. Exactly one week later I was at the
same place with some friends. Sitting one dance
out, the same guy walks up to me with a killer
opening line, "You look bored." He doesn't get it
when I tell him that I am not going to tell him my
name AGAIN, he must have enjoyed some liquid
confidence because this time he was touching my
shoulder and getting right in my face. It took
telling him that I was there with someone to get
him to go away. Bottom line, watch the creep
factor. If practicing C&F then this shouldn't be a
problem. Thanks Dave, by improving the dating
lives of men everywhere you are improving the
dating lives of woman as well. S. in Seattle
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, nice.
I wrote a newsletter recently that mentioned
the emotion women feel called "The Instant Ewww."
Well, you've demonstrated yet another way that
any guy can make any woman feel it within moments
of meeting.
Thanks for the story...
GUYS! Take note... don't do this kind of
stupid, Jack-Wuss stuff.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
First, I should say that I enjoy reading your
letters, comments, etc. I definitely think you
have some interesting insight on women and dating.
I would like to share some thoughts that I
recurrently have while reading your newsletter.
Cocky and Funny doesn't just work on women. I have
always used cocky and funny as a flirting
technique and men love it too. I think it
communicates some important things about a person.
1) I am a fun person capable of letting my hair
down. 2) I am confident in myself. 3) For the
person on the other end of C&F, assuming he/she
responds well, it says he/she is confident enough
to take the teasing and roll with it. Frankly, C&F
is just fun, and people like to be with fun
people. Also, I have some reflections on the
whole "nice guy" thing. When women say they want
"nice" men they aren't lying or misunderstanding
what they want. But, I do think that what women
mean by "nice" and what men think we mean are two
different things. When it comes to relationships,
I don't want to be physically or emotionally
harmed, cheated on, or stood up, etc. Basically, I
want a partner who is reliable and trustworthy and
who shows me on occasion that I am special, he
cares about me, and enjoys being with me. When it
comes to dating, especially first dates, men can
take "nice" waaaayyy too far. Often this equates
to "creepy." For instance, a guy once gave me on
the second date an extremely large bouquet of
exotic flowers and a pineapple (?). I would guess
the bouquet cost him at least $100, if not more.
CREEPY. I was already slightly creeped out by this
guy because he wanted to drive one hour at 11pm
the day after our first date to see me. When I
said no, he practically begged. I did see him the
following day which is when he presented the
flowers. I sent him home an hour later and he did
not get date 3. Another guy showed up on the first
date with a bouquet of roses, had the waitress box
up left-over iceburg lettuce for me, and told me
later that he was glad he took some time off from
college because otherwise he would have never met
me! CREEPY. Guy did not get second date. Another
guy, on the first date, was so concerned about
being chivalrous that he would run ahead of me to
reach doors before me and open them for me. He was
so concerned about pleasing me that he would not
assist in making decisions about plans for the
date. I ended the date as soon as possible. These
are extremes, but other things include calling
constantly and demanding lots of time from me
right away. All of these things come down to
trying TOO hard which communicate to me, not
niceness, but a level of desperation and neediness
that makes me worry if I have a stalker on my
hands. I begin to wonder 1) is this guy extremely
emotionally needy and will become possessive and
physically scary? 2) is there something really
wrong with this guy that makes him incapable of
having a relationship with women and so he is THIS
desperate?
Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy men doing nice
things for me, but there are limits. For instance
my current boyfriend (in a monogamous
relationship) treated me to an expensive,
beautiful dinner and flowers for my birthday. This
was a special occasion for two people who really
care for each other. On first dates there should
be no expensive dinners, no expensive gifts, no
extensive flattery, no expression of emotion that
shouldn't yet be felt. I also like to contribute
to the date in some way, say purchase coffee at
the end of the evening. If a man is paying for
everything, all the time, I begin to feel guilty,
like a mooch. I don't think all women are like
this, but I feel uncomfortable with too much
financial and emotional flattery, especially early
on. A--Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ohhhh... this is good stuff.
More of the infamous "Instant Ewww"
phenomenon...
You're really onto something here because I
have heard women say "He gives me the creeps" on
MANY, MANY occasions myself.
Yeah, it's worse than most guys think.
A little bit of a good thing is a good thing.
A lot of a good thing too early is the kiss of
death...
Write in more often. Love it.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
I'm a guy who has had pretty good success with
women. I'm in shape, and attractive, not shy, and
have always had the attitude that if she isn't
interested there must be something wrong with HER.
But your materials are fantastic. They have
helped me have a PLAN so I have been better
prepared in certain situations. And the entire
C/F thing has helped me weed out the right women.
In other words... some women get offended, turned
off to this approach. GREAT!!!! If you are a
stuffy, too good for everyone, can't have any fun
woman I don't need you OR your attitude. It helps
find out who the fun ones are.
Now for how your materials helped me this past
weekend. I'm in a college football town and was at
a huge tailgate (10,000 people) party that takes
place near the stadium in front of a local hotel.
I'm in the hallway of the hotel using my cell
phone and see a GORGEOUS girl sitting on a bench
doing the same. Heres the dialogue when she gets
up to leave.
Me: "You're going to leave without even hitting on
me" Her: "You need a better line than that" Me:
"That wasn't a line" Her: "That was a line and a
bad one" Me: "For it to be a line I would have
had to be interested in you" Her: Laughs and
hits me Her: "You're a player" Me: "You're not
very smart are you? The game already started and
the players are on the field. I see...you thought
you would meet some athlete down here, seduce him
and hit the lottery huh? Her: Hitting me again.
Me: Why don't you try Los Angeles. Kobe's out
there
Her: I have to go into the bathroom DONT go
anywhere.
This is where it gets Classic. While she is in the
bathroom her friend (who I don't know is her
friend
and wasn't around earlier) sits down on a chair
near me and we make eye contact. I think to myself
that if I weren't waiting on the other one I would
get to know this one. We exchange a couple of
smiles and thats it. I thought about getting an
email, but didn't. so here is how it picked up
with
the original girl.
Me: Its about time. I almost didn't wait that long
Her: Stop!!!! Me: Plus I had that girl over there
hitting on me Her: Thats my friend I came with!
Me: Some friend, she tried to steal me when you
weren't looking Her: (to her friend) Were you
hitting on him Friend: Maybe (laughing) Her: The
love of my life and you try to steal him
(sarcastic) Me: I have to get to a private party
I'm here for... do you have email Her: Only if I
get yours Me: Only if I get a kiss goodbye Her:
(quick kiss on the lips) Me: Thats not what I
meant....tell your friend you will be back in
about 5 minutes Her: (to friend) You going to be
here for 5 minutes. Me: Follow me!
The rest is private! But again....your information
is priceless!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What you have written here is GENIUS LEVEL
material.
I could write an entire chapter of a book on
this one short story... hell, I might even do that
some day.
The one thing that I will comment on here is
the amazing ability you've demonstrated of serving
the ball back over the net EVERY TIME she tried to
be a stuck-up, bratty girl.
Most guys would have thrown in the towel at the
very first, "You need a better line than that."
As soon as a woman says something like that to
most guys, the guy crumbles... he falters... he
loses his composure... and he's DONE.
In that moment when he loses his balance, she
instantly and unconsciously has that gut-level
"Wuss" response... and the door SLAMS shut.
Most guys don't realize that if you can "keep
the ball in play," you can turn a situation like
this from "bad" to "WAAAAYYY GOOD" in a matter of
a few SECONDS.
I was talking to a good friend of mine
recently, and we were talking about starting
conversations with women.
We were talking about that moment when you
first start using Cocky Comedy with a woman... and
she says "You're kind of full of yourself... what
makes you think you're so cool?"... as if she's
put off by your attitude...
And my friend looks at me, shakes his head,
smirks, and says, "Yeah, you own her at that
point."
Now, what did he mean?
How is it possible that if you've apparently
acted too cocky... and turned a woman off... that
you could "own her?"
Well, it's true.
I was once joking with a friend... sometimes
you'll meet a girl... and you'll bust her balls
and tease her so much that she starts to get
agitated... and all of a sudden she snaps into a
mode of:
"I don't know what it is that makes you think
you're god's gift... but I need to make out with
you to find out!"
LOL... it's funny.
Now, like I mentioned before, this is more
advanced stuff.
You need to have a good feel for chemistry and
sexual tension before you really try these types
of moves with women you don't know.
But there's a very interesting lesson here...
A woman doesn't have to LIKE you to feel
ATTRACTION for you. The ATTRACTION happens on its
own... regardless of other things happening at the
same time.
Certain traits and communication techniques
trigger ATTRACTION... and if you know what they
are, and how to amplify them, then you can create
results that will literally seem like MAGIC to
others watching.
...and if you're reading this right now and
you'd like to be one of the few men on this planet
that actually GETS IT when it comes to this "other
level" of communication, then you need to get your
hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD program.
It will open up a new world that you never knew
existed, and teach you how to be the kind of man
that women have been hoping for all their lives...
And the best part is that women in your life
will THANK YOU and APPRECIATE YOU for learning
this stuff. If you doubt me, just read the letters
from women in this newsletter... I'm not kidding.
All the details, plus some great free audio and
video clips are here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded my online ebook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then go get it! You can
download it right now and be reading it within a
few minutes... download it here:
http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Friday, November 27, 2009
A Place You Can Meet Women ANYTIME
>NOTE: I think that the internet is a literal
MIRACLE when it comes to meeting women, practicing
conversations skills, and learning how to create
attraction using only your words, humor, and other
communication. If you'd like to learn some of my
personal secrets for turning the internet into a
dating BONANZA for yourself, then take a minute
and read this:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/MeetingWomenOnline
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on
what you've gained from writing and responding to
online personal ads. I'm not having a great deal
of luck so far. Specifically, my questions are:
1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said
that "brevity is the soul of wit", but you also
want to be memorable, right?
2. When writing descriptions, should you stick
with C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't
translate well in written form, so I wasn't sure
how to go about all that.
3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that
you recommend not posting a picture. At the same
time, I tend to avoid ads without pictures due to
having one too many blind dates which ended with
me throwing a stick and shouting "fetch!" in order
to distract her long enough to get away. Don't you
think that by committing a picture on your ad,
women might pass you up for the same reason? Or am
I mistaken? An apprentice,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've asked some questions that really require
more of an in-depth treatment... but here are a
few pointers that have taken me YEARS to figure
out:
1) You'll get more responses in general by
replying to personal ads placed by women than you
will by placing your own ad (Unless you're a
master of writing personal ads).
2) If you're going to use the personals, look at
the new ads that are placed daily, and respond as
soon as a woman places her ad. Attractive women
typically get 50-100 responses per DAY to personal
ads, and it's very easy to get overwhelmed. You'll
notice that a lot of women take their ads down
after just a few days... this is why.
3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and
funny) in your replies (or in your ad, if you
write your own). Say things like "I was looking
through all these ads here on the internet
thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad
and thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor,
desperate, lonely woman that's actually CUTE..."
so I thought I'd write and see if you're as
interesting on the inside as you are in this
picture..."
4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I
got an email from a guy who had his picture taken
with some dolphins... and that he's getting tons
of responses from that. I've never done it myself,
but it sounds like a great idea!
***QUESTION***
Dave, love your book. I have learned more about
women in the last two months than I knew in my
lifetime. The teasing and being cocky/funny really
turns them on. I have know this girl for some time
and we were mostly friends. Just lately she said
to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to tell her
I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.
R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Take a cue from Han Solo...
Say "I know".
You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her
know that you're having fun after you say it.
As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell
her that I love her too?" I can't answer that.
You're at a stage that is past our topic here.
I think that love and relationships are great,
but since this isn't the area that I choose to
talk about, you're going to have to decide for
yourself.
Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no
matter what.
***COMMENT***
It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to
your newsletter and buy the book - myself included
- are average guys who have trouble with girls
just because they are afraid of getting rejected.
I've got an idea that might help. Get two or three
good friends together and have a 'contest' where
the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day or a
night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc.
going up to girls with the sole intention of
having them reject you, and whoever gets rejected
the most times wins. Try out any approach - good
or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude, funny,
serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want,
and take notes on how the girls react. If she
slaps your face, that's fine because that's the
goal. And if she doesn't shoot you down, that's
even better. After a night like this you'll become
a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in the future,
and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out
there, so that you aren't afraid of running into
these girls again.
- C.L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd
say that you're probably better off seeing who can
get the most email addresses - instead of seeing
who can get shut down.
If you go out with the specific idea of being
rude, crude, a jerk, etc., I think you're working
on the wrong outcome.
I get what you're saying about how this might
make you "numb" to future rejection...
But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take
the approach of "We're each going to approach 50
women today, and let's see who can get the most
email addresses". Focus on what you want, not what
you don't want.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was
the answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from
dating a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating
3 women at once, all 3 call me every day, and this
was before I even bought the book, just from the
advice from your emails!! You have definitely
"Doubled" my dating!!
My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she's afraid to break up with. He's the kind
of guy that would threaten to kill himself if she
were to leave him, but basically uses her for sex,
and controls most aspects of her life. Should I
just stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls
about why she's still with him? Because I find
myself feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and
its affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with
her at least).
Thanks for your help!!
C. from MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Let me ask you a question...
Why in the world would you want to be with a
woman who has a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend
fetish?
When you meet a woman like this, the warning
bells should be going off in your head... "Danger
Will Robinson, Danger!"
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's
interesting and "challenging" like her that
DOESN'T have a psycho neurotic boyfriend... and
don't turn into one.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I just wanted to say thank you, from all the women
out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from (another website) to see
what all this great advice was about. just from
reading about your "kiss test" I knew you had
figured it out. I like being hit on by a confident
assertive man. I also like a man who can figure it
out that I'm not interested. Honestly, I will
fall over and spread my legs for any man that does
the right things whether he's extremely attractive
or not. I would never tell him how to do it. I
guess that's your job. Anyway, like I said, I just
wanted to thank you. I personally hope I get hit
on in the grocery store by someone who has read
your book!
Thanks,
K.H.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thank you for your letter. I truly
appreciate your honesty and directness.
Most men can't believe that what you're saying
could actually be true, but as we both know, it
quite often is.
The interesting thing you say (which I agree
with) is:
"I would never tell him how to do it."
In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A
WUSSY BOY WHO DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS
OF GETTING HER.
Translation for guys: If you don't know what
you're doing when it comes to women, LEARN.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I have been reading your articles and from other
guys out there trying to improve their macking
skills, your articles and tips are on point on how
to be a mack with the ladies, but I feel that
because of a negative experiences with women in my
teenage and college years, really hold me back
from being the mack that is inside of me along,
now in my mid-twenties, I need to get passed this
negative experiences with women, I have no problem
talking to women or having a conversation, but i
don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me,
could you give me some advice to get pass this
fear that because i have very little now plus the
past experience with women in the past, plus I
live in nyc where women are into themselves, and a
man without his own place, car, and little money
are looked at like "why are you talking to me, you
have nothing to offer me."
M.
nyc
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, YES, there are women who will
only talk to you if you have money...
BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.
If a woman feels the magical emotion of
ATTRACTION, then it matters not how much money you
have.
I used to believe that it was probably only
guys who had nice cars and lots of cash who got to
go out with all the women...
But then, as I got to know more and more guys
who were VERY successful with women. I realized
that it came down to their personalities more than
anything else... including looks, height, money,
etc.
In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are
very successful with women aren't rich at all.
You need to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION by using your personality. That's the
ticket.
Really.
Go download this right now and read it all:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave:
I have been reading your material for a few months
now. One of the best things I learned about your
work is how to get e-mail addresses and phone
numbers from women. I have great success at this
point. This has also helped my business. I need
help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle
down. Firstly, how can I figure out which one of
these girls is the BEST for me in terms of
personality and chemistry. My last relationship
lasted a year and a half and did not work because
we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just
need to stop playing games and be nice to these
women... What do you think?
B. NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm
not going to address how you should choose a woman
to settle down with...
But I will comment on your question of whether
or not there is a point when you should stop
"playing games" and "be nice to these women".
The mind set and techniques that I teach are
not
my idea of a "short term technique to get laid".
Once you start using the methods, you'll find that
women respond to them on an ONGOING basis. In
other words, if you can keep up the charming,
Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.
"Nice" is not a word that you want associated
with yourself, in my opinion. Women aren't
ATTRACTED to guys who are "nice".
Be interesting, unpredictable... even
thoughtful and original.
But don't be NICE.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy,
22years old. I always had the fear to approach
beautiful women. I'm funny by nature, but only
with my friends. I've totally changed my behavior
with women, when I've read your book. I now meet
women on every step (bar, caffe, library,...),
using your C&F approach and a lot of them are in
my bed in a week or so. Now the only problem at
the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-
buddy";). Of course, they don't want to hear about
that. So after first sex, when I try to explain to
her, what I want, either she gets mad and I can go
;) or I am the biggest male egoist... bla bla bla.
So, tell me, is there any way to do that with
success? Tnx again,
B. from Slovenia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you're at that stage where you'd like to use
your newly found success to attract only "sex
buddies"... and you don't want the women you date
to think of you as their "boyfriend", then DON'T
ACT LIKE ONE.
Don't call more than once or twice a week.
Don't stay on the phone for more than 5 or 10
minutes. Don't see her more than once or twice a
week.
In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.
I know this sounds rather simple, but think
about it...
Women are just as interested in sex as men are.
In my experience, if a woman knows that you're
only interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.
The problems come up when you start calling all
the time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you
care for her...
At this point a woman starts to become
emotionally attached to you. She thinks that
you're becoming her boyfriend.
If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't
act like one!
***QUESTION***
Hello,
Your are the man. I have been using your cocky
funny method on girls i already know and see the
difference in the way they act towards me, they
seem to definitely be more interested. My dilemma
is that i run out of cocky comments and little
jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop yesterday
with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we
where in line and i looked back and smiled but i
had no idea what to say to them or what to make
fun of and they got what they wanted and left. I
simply had no idea what funny comment to make.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the answer...
List the 10 most common situations that you'd
find yourself meeting women... and list 10 cocky
and funny things to say in each situation.
Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so
you have them ready!
If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny
doesn't come "naturally", then you're going to
have to PRACTICE.
Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make
their sports look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY
dominate all of the other players around them?
Practice, of course.
Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and
start practicing. Practice makes magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I
find myself waiting at a stop light with a good-
looking girl waiting next to me. Some of these
girls, we make eye contact, others just glance
over. Sometimes I'll drive for miles with the same
girl to the side of me. The problem is I never
really know what to do next. So I guess my
question to you is this:
1. How do I get her to roll down her window? 2.
Once she does, what should I tell her?
I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know
they're not looking at that, but I'm just
uncertain how to get her attention.
Thanks for the help.
R. in So Cal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.
I have a good friend who can't drive up next to
a woman without flirting. He likes to "waggle his
eyebrows" at every woman he sees.
Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your
brows and wave. When she smiles, make the old
fashioned motion of rolling down your window to
her, and roll down yours.
Finally, take out your cell phone, point to it,
and say "What's your number?"
I've done variations of this myself, and had
some great fun success with it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the
e-book yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic
work firsthand, just from the newsletters I have
been getting. Check this out! About a week ago, I
send an email to a totally rad chick suggesting
that we meet for coffee. I used the movie "You've
Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and although it
was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that it
was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO
REPLY for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email,
this time busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well
I guess my dazzling good looks and wicked sense of
humor didn't catch your fancy, eh?" The response
was lightning fast and almost instantaneous!!! She
wrote that she had every intention of returning my
email, but she was "out of town" blah blah blah,
and she would meet me for coffee sometime. I
really believe that if I had not sent her that
second email, I never would have gotten a reply to
the first one.
Here's the question (and problem): In addition to
the "ball busting" in my second email, I also told
her I liked her! (a big faux pas, I know, but I
never expected a reply!) She had taught a class of
which I was a student, and I made a comment like,
"Well I'm probably not the first of your students
to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this
damaging admission? I already sent her a reply
email, in which I poured on the cocky/funny, but I
wanted to get your input and hopefully I made the
right choice by my reply.
Thanks Dave!
--C.K. San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10
MORE WOMEN!!!
Duh!
And what are you doing writing to me asking for
advice on how to un-screw-up your situation... and
you haven't even read my book? Go to:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
RIGHT NOW and get it. You are doing great, you
just need to get some of the details together.
And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU
LIKE HER! And start acting like the Cocky and
Funny guy that make her respond to you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I just started receiving your newsletter. And I
was just curious about the letters that are coming
in. Are these letters from real guys or is it
something that 's written by your staff just to
sell your ebook? I can't honestly believe a book
can really do that much for a guy. I get another
newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't
seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write
about.
Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50
yr young man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health.
Have all my hair and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I
want to shed that image but not be an asshole if
you know what I mean. I don't want to even tell
you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can
your book really help a guy like me? I've been
going on the online dating seen but don't always
see what I want which is a sexy young woman. Also,
how young can I acceptably go. Anything you can
tell me would be a help.
Sign me,
Not getting enough
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love letters like this one...
OK, to answer your first question... EVERY
SINGLE LETTER THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF
MY NEWSLETTERS IS REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.
I have every one of the originals saved to
prove it.
To answer one of your comments of "I can't
believe that a book can really do that much for a
guy"...
IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.
It's a combination of the material in the book
and actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.
It's taken me YEARS of trial and error...
trying just about everything under the sun to
learn the things that I've learned. I really went
out there and did the work.
I tried and tested everything I could find...
If you're reading this right now, and it's time
for YOU to get this part of YOUR life handled, and
finally start enjoying the kind of success with
women that you've only dreamed about it the past,
then maybe it's time for you to TAKE ACTION.
If you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes look
into the minds of women, and you'd like to learn
the techniques for attracting women and creating
ATTRACTION that it's taken me literally YEARS to
figure out, then I'd recommend you go and check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is a "condensed education" that
has taken me a LONG time to organize, prepare, and
create.
Instead of spending years of your OWN time and
spending (or rather WASTING) a lot of money... and
dealing with the pain of trial-and-error, you can
save yourself a LOT of frustration...
This program contains literally HUNDREDS and
HUNDREDS of step-by-step techniques for overcoming
fears and improving your self image, approaching
women, meeting women online, getting dates, and
taking things to a "physical level" smoothly and
without rejection.
You can check out some great free audio and
video clips from it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it
and be reading it in just a few minutes... it's
here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
...and download it now.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
>NOTE: I think that the internet is a literal
MIRACLE when it comes to meeting women, practicing
conversations skills, and learning how to create
attraction using only your words, humor, and other
communication. If you'd like to learn some of my
personal secrets for turning the internet into a
dating BONANZA for yourself, then take a minute
and read this:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/MeetingWomenOnline
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on
what you've gained from writing and responding to
online personal ads. I'm not having a great deal
of luck so far. Specifically, my questions are:
1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said
that "brevity is the soul of wit", but you also
want to be memorable, right?
2. When writing descriptions, should you stick
with C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't
translate well in written form, so I wasn't sure
how to go about all that.
3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that
you recommend not posting a picture. At the same
time, I tend to avoid ads without pictures due to
having one too many blind dates which ended with
me throwing a stick and shouting "fetch!" in order
to distract her long enough to get away. Don't you
think that by committing a picture on your ad,
women might pass you up for the same reason? Or am
I mistaken? An apprentice,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've asked some questions that really require
more of an in-depth treatment... but here are a
few pointers that have taken me YEARS to figure
out:
1) You'll get more responses in general by
replying to personal ads placed by women than you
will by placing your own ad (Unless you're a
master of writing personal ads).
2) If you're going to use the personals, look at
the new ads that are placed daily, and respond as
soon as a woman places her ad. Attractive women
typically get 50-100 responses per DAY to personal
ads, and it's very easy to get overwhelmed. You'll
notice that a lot of women take their ads down
after just a few days... this is why.
3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and
funny) in your replies (or in your ad, if you
write your own). Say things like "I was looking
through all these ads here on the internet
thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad
and thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor,
desperate, lonely woman that's actually CUTE..."
so I thought I'd write and see if you're as
interesting on the inside as you are in this
picture..."
4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I
got an email from a guy who had his picture taken
with some dolphins... and that he's getting tons
of responses from that. I've never done it myself,
but it sounds like a great idea!
***QUESTION***
Dave, love your book. I have learned more about
women in the last two months than I knew in my
lifetime. The teasing and being cocky/funny really
turns them on. I have know this girl for some time
and we were mostly friends. Just lately she said
to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to tell her
I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.
R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Take a cue from Han Solo...
Say "I know".
You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her
know that you're having fun after you say it.
As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell
her that I love her too?" I can't answer that.
You're at a stage that is past our topic here.
I think that love and relationships are great,
but since this isn't the area that I choose to
talk about, you're going to have to decide for
yourself.
Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no
matter what.
***COMMENT***
It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to
your newsletter and buy the book - myself included
- are average guys who have trouble with girls
just because they are afraid of getting rejected.
I've got an idea that might help. Get two or three
good friends together and have a 'contest' where
the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day or a
night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc.
going up to girls with the sole intention of
having them reject you, and whoever gets rejected
the most times wins. Try out any approach - good
or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude, funny,
serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want,
and take notes on how the girls react. If she
slaps your face, that's fine because that's the
goal. And if she doesn't shoot you down, that's
even better. After a night like this you'll become
a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in the future,
and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out
there, so that you aren't afraid of running into
these girls again.
- C.L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd
say that you're probably better off seeing who can
get the most email addresses - instead of seeing
who can get shut down.
If you go out with the specific idea of being
rude, crude, a jerk, etc., I think you're working
on the wrong outcome.
I get what you're saying about how this might
make you "numb" to future rejection...
But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take
the approach of "We're each going to approach 50
women today, and let's see who can get the most
email addresses". Focus on what you want, not what
you don't want.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was
the answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from
dating a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating
3 women at once, all 3 call me every day, and this
was before I even bought the book, just from the
advice from your emails!! You have definitely
"Doubled" my dating!!
My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she's afraid to break up with. He's the kind
of guy that would threaten to kill himself if she
were to leave him, but basically uses her for sex,
and controls most aspects of her life. Should I
just stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls
about why she's still with him? Because I find
myself feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and
its affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with
her at least).
Thanks for your help!!
C. from MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Let me ask you a question...
Why in the world would you want to be with a
woman who has a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend
fetish?
When you meet a woman like this, the warning
bells should be going off in your head... "Danger
Will Robinson, Danger!"
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's
interesting and "challenging" like her that
DOESN'T have a psycho neurotic boyfriend... and
don't turn into one.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I just wanted to say thank you, from all the women
out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from (another website) to see
what all this great advice was about. just from
reading about your "kiss test" I knew you had
figured it out. I like being hit on by a confident
assertive man. I also like a man who can figure it
out that I'm not interested. Honestly, I will
fall over and spread my legs for any man that does
the right things whether he's extremely attractive
or not. I would never tell him how to do it. I
guess that's your job. Anyway, like I said, I just
wanted to thank you. I personally hope I get hit
on in the grocery store by someone who has read
your book!
Thanks,
K.H.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thank you for your letter. I truly
appreciate your honesty and directness.
Most men can't believe that what you're saying
could actually be true, but as we both know, it
quite often is.
The interesting thing you say (which I agree
with) is:
"I would never tell him how to do it."
In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A
WUSSY BOY WHO DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS
OF GETTING HER.
Translation for guys: If you don't know what
you're doing when it comes to women, LEARN.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I have been reading your articles and from other
guys out there trying to improve their macking
skills, your articles and tips are on point on how
to be a mack with the ladies, but I feel that
because of a negative experiences with women in my
teenage and college years, really hold me back
from being the mack that is inside of me along,
now in my mid-twenties, I need to get passed this
negative experiences with women, I have no problem
talking to women or having a conversation, but i
don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me,
could you give me some advice to get pass this
fear that because i have very little now plus the
past experience with women in the past, plus I
live in nyc where women are into themselves, and a
man without his own place, car, and little money
are looked at like "why are you talking to me, you
have nothing to offer me."
M.
nyc
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, YES, there are women who will
only talk to you if you have money...
BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.
If a woman feels the magical emotion of
ATTRACTION, then it matters not how much money you
have.
I used to believe that it was probably only
guys who had nice cars and lots of cash who got to
go out with all the women...
But then, as I got to know more and more guys
who were VERY successful with women. I realized
that it came down to their personalities more than
anything else... including looks, height, money,
etc.
In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are
very successful with women aren't rich at all.
You need to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION by using your personality. That's the
ticket.
Really.
Go download this right now and read it all:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave:
I have been reading your material for a few months
now. One of the best things I learned about your
work is how to get e-mail addresses and phone
numbers from women. I have great success at this
point. This has also helped my business. I need
help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle
down. Firstly, how can I figure out which one of
these girls is the BEST for me in terms of
personality and chemistry. My last relationship
lasted a year and a half and did not work because
we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just
need to stop playing games and be nice to these
women... What do you think?
B. NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm
not going to address how you should choose a woman
to settle down with...
But I will comment on your question of whether
or not there is a point when you should stop
"playing games" and "be nice to these women".
The mind set and techniques that I teach are
not
my idea of a "short term technique to get laid".
Once you start using the methods, you'll find that
women respond to them on an ONGOING basis. In
other words, if you can keep up the charming,
Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.
"Nice" is not a word that you want associated
with yourself, in my opinion. Women aren't
ATTRACTED to guys who are "nice".
Be interesting, unpredictable... even
thoughtful and original.
But don't be NICE.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy,
22years old. I always had the fear to approach
beautiful women. I'm funny by nature, but only
with my friends. I've totally changed my behavior
with women, when I've read your book. I now meet
women on every step (bar, caffe, library,...),
using your C&F approach and a lot of them are in
my bed in a week or so. Now the only problem at
the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-
buddy";). Of course, they don't want to hear about
that. So after first sex, when I try to explain to
her, what I want, either she gets mad and I can go
;) or I am the biggest male egoist... bla bla bla.
So, tell me, is there any way to do that with
success? Tnx again,
B. from Slovenia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you're at that stage where you'd like to use
your newly found success to attract only "sex
buddies"... and you don't want the women you date
to think of you as their "boyfriend", then DON'T
ACT LIKE ONE.
Don't call more than once or twice a week.
Don't stay on the phone for more than 5 or 10
minutes. Don't see her more than once or twice a
week.
In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.
I know this sounds rather simple, but think
about it...
Women are just as interested in sex as men are.
In my experience, if a woman knows that you're
only interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.
The problems come up when you start calling all
the time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you
care for her...
At this point a woman starts to become
emotionally attached to you. She thinks that
you're becoming her boyfriend.
If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't
act like one!
***QUESTION***
Hello,
Your are the man. I have been using your cocky
funny method on girls i already know and see the
difference in the way they act towards me, they
seem to definitely be more interested. My dilemma
is that i run out of cocky comments and little
jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop yesterday
with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we
where in line and i looked back and smiled but i
had no idea what to say to them or what to make
fun of and they got what they wanted and left. I
simply had no idea what funny comment to make.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the answer...
List the 10 most common situations that you'd
find yourself meeting women... and list 10 cocky
and funny things to say in each situation.
Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so
you have them ready!
If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny
doesn't come "naturally", then you're going to
have to PRACTICE.
Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make
their sports look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY
dominate all of the other players around them?
Practice, of course.
Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and
start practicing. Practice makes magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I
find myself waiting at a stop light with a good-
looking girl waiting next to me. Some of these
girls, we make eye contact, others just glance
over. Sometimes I'll drive for miles with the same
girl to the side of me. The problem is I never
really know what to do next. So I guess my
question to you is this:
1. How do I get her to roll down her window? 2.
Once she does, what should I tell her?
I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know
they're not looking at that, but I'm just
uncertain how to get her attention.
Thanks for the help.
R. in So Cal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.
I have a good friend who can't drive up next to
a woman without flirting. He likes to "waggle his
eyebrows" at every woman he sees.
Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your
brows and wave. When she smiles, make the old
fashioned motion of rolling down your window to
her, and roll down yours.
Finally, take out your cell phone, point to it,
and say "What's your number?"
I've done variations of this myself, and had
some great fun success with it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the
e-book yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic
work firsthand, just from the newsletters I have
been getting. Check this out! About a week ago, I
send an email to a totally rad chick suggesting
that we meet for coffee. I used the movie "You've
Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and although it
was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that it
was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO
REPLY for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email,
this time busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well
I guess my dazzling good looks and wicked sense of
humor didn't catch your fancy, eh?" The response
was lightning fast and almost instantaneous!!! She
wrote that she had every intention of returning my
email, but she was "out of town" blah blah blah,
and she would meet me for coffee sometime. I
really believe that if I had not sent her that
second email, I never would have gotten a reply to
the first one.
Here's the question (and problem): In addition to
the "ball busting" in my second email, I also told
her I liked her! (a big faux pas, I know, but I
never expected a reply!) She had taught a class of
which I was a student, and I made a comment like,
"Well I'm probably not the first of your students
to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this
damaging admission? I already sent her a reply
email, in which I poured on the cocky/funny, but I
wanted to get your input and hopefully I made the
right choice by my reply.
Thanks Dave!
--C.K. San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10
MORE WOMEN!!!
Duh!
And what are you doing writing to me asking for
advice on how to un-screw-up your situation... and
you haven't even read my book? Go to:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
RIGHT NOW and get it. You are doing great, you
just need to get some of the details together.
And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU
LIKE HER! And start acting like the Cocky and
Funny guy that make her respond to you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I just started receiving your newsletter. And I
was just curious about the letters that are coming
in. Are these letters from real guys or is it
something that 's written by your staff just to
sell your ebook? I can't honestly believe a book
can really do that much for a guy. I get another
newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't
seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write
about.
Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50
yr young man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health.
Have all my hair and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I
want to shed that image but not be an asshole if
you know what I mean. I don't want to even tell
you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can
your book really help a guy like me? I've been
going on the online dating seen but don't always
see what I want which is a sexy young woman. Also,
how young can I acceptably go. Anything you can
tell me would be a help.
Sign me,
Not getting enough
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love letters like this one...
OK, to answer your first question... EVERY
SINGLE LETTER THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF
MY NEWSLETTERS IS REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.
I have every one of the originals saved to
prove it.
To answer one of your comments of "I can't
believe that a book can really do that much for a
guy"...
IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.
It's a combination of the material in the book
and actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.
It's taken me YEARS of trial and error...
trying just about everything under the sun to
learn the things that I've learned. I really went
out there and did the work.
I tried and tested everything I could find...
If you're reading this right now, and it's time
for YOU to get this part of YOUR life handled, and
finally start enjoying the kind of success with
women that you've only dreamed about it the past,
then maybe it's time for you to TAKE ACTION.
If you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes look
into the minds of women, and you'd like to learn
the techniques for attracting women and creating
ATTRACTION that it's taken me literally YEARS to
figure out, then I'd recommend you go and check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is a "condensed education" that
has taken me a LONG time to organize, prepare, and
create.
Instead of spending years of your OWN time and
spending (or rather WASTING) a lot of money... and
dealing with the pain of trial-and-error, you can
save yourself a LOT of frustration...
This program contains literally HUNDREDS and
HUNDREDS of step-by-step techniques for overcoming
fears and improving your self image, approaching
women, meeting women online, getting dates, and
taking things to a "physical level" smoothly and
without rejection.
You can check out some great free audio and
video clips from it here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries
And if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it
and be reading it in just a few minutes... it's
here:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook
...and download it now.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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