5 Ways To Lose A Girl FAST

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HOW TO LOSE A GIRL - A DANGEROUS IDEA...

Now THIS sounds like an interesting topic,
doesn't it?

Why would you want to know how to LOSE a girl?

Well, I'm going to propose a DANGEROUS IDEA.

I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT in LOSING a girl.

You might even be a "natural" at it.

Most guys are.

But the PROBLEM is that most guys don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING women.

In other words, they walk through the world
screwing up one situation after another, and never
realize JUST HOW GOOD they are at being BAD with
women.

And they don't realize that just by changing a
few key things they could change their level of
success DRAMATICALLY.

One great way to increase your success in life
is to start REALIZING what you're doing. Once you
actually understand what you're doing and the
results you're triggering, you can CHANGE.

So open your mind. Listen up.

TYPICAL THINGS MEN DO

As you've probably heard me say about a million
times, MEN ARE PREDICTABLE.

In fact, we're PAINFULLY predictable.

We all do basically the same things when we get
into common situations with women...and we don't
even realize it.

I call this the "Originality Paradox."

In our desire to be "original" and "unique," we
guys tend to do the SAME THINGS! Said differently,
while you're doing something that seems thoughtful
and original, the attractive woman on the other
end is thinking, "He's just like all the other
guys."

Ouch.

So why is being predictable so bad?

Look at this formula:

Predictable = BORING.

Boring = NO EMOTIONS.

No Emotions = NO ATTRACTION.

No Attraction = NO GETTIN' SHIZZY WITH THA
NIZZY!

One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a girl is to
be PREDICTABLE.

Another huge mistake men make is GIVING AWAY
OUR POWER to women.

I'm not going to go into it, but the reality is
that women are NOT attracted to WEAK men. And I'm
not talking about muscles here.

If you act like a Wuss, you are shooting
yourself in the foot. Before we go on, I want to
mention something VERY important. If you have a
nasty case of "Wuss-itis" and you can't seem to
get rid of it, then go read THIS before you read
the rest of this newsletter:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

Here are a few examples of how we guys act
PREDICTABLE, give away our power, and make about
147 other huge mistakes with women we've just met:

1) Call Her All The Time

If you like someone, it's logical that you're
going to want to let them know, right?

Well, only if you like the idea of coming
across like a total Jack-Wuss. I just made that
up, by the way. Combination of Jackass and Wuss.
Not sure if I like it, but I'm going to go with
it.

Where was I?

Yeah, calling her all the time.

Calling all the time is usually triggered by
INSECURITY and NEEDINESS. It sounds like a good
idea, but it almost NEVER is.

This is a great way to lose a girl before you
even have her. We might even call this one "Have
Prevention."

2) Offer To Take Her Somewhere "Nice"

What do most guys do when they meet a girl that
they "really" like?

Well, they call her up, and they get into a
boring conversation about schools and families and
jobs and 100 other painfully boring things...and
when they finally realize that they've been on the
phone for an hour, they realize that they'd better
do SOMETHING soon...because she's starting to talk
about having to go wash her dog....

So what do they do?

They think to themselves, "Self, you'd better
get up some nerve and ask her out. Hey! Self! I
have a GREAT idea. Ask her to go out with you to a
REALLY NICE place. She'll be far more likely to
want to do that, and besides, then she'll know
that you REALLY like her...."

And what does this REALLY communicate?

Right, right.

That you have the confidence to just ask her to
spend time with you for NO REASON other than the
fact that you want to...and that you must not be
WORTH spending time with - without some kind of
"meal incentive."

Meal Incentive... lol... I crack myself up.

Well, this is one more example of something
that "sounds good" in the moment, but is BAD BAD
BAD for business.

3) Do "Thoughtful" Things From The Beginning

What's better than a nice, thoughtful guy
showing up at the door with flowers and candy for
the first date?

Well, to quote an old Saturday Night Live
episode, "Throwing an entire box of thumb tacks on
the floor, and rolling around in them naked."

Or maybe taking one of those...you know...
SERRATED KNIVES...yeah, that's it...and putting it
between your big toe and second toe and slicing
back and forth really fast...and then pouring...
you know...HOT SAUCE...yeah, that's it...on the
wound!

I hate it when that happens!

But we men do this kind of thing all the
time...because it sure sounds good in the moment.

By the way, don't try the thumb tack thing or
the hot sauce thing UNLESS you're considering
purchasing flowers and candy to bring to a first
date. In that case, please take these measures to
prevent yourself from acting on the uncontrollable
urges.

If you come on too strong, you appear just like
every other predictable Wussboy who has ever
tried to make himself look better by giving gifts
and food and favors in exchange for attention and
approval.

4) Tell Her How You "Feel" About Her Early On

This might be one of my favorites.

I'm starting to think that we guys must come
stock with a mechanism that actually compels us to
open our BIG FAT MOUTHS and screw things up with
only the BEST women.

I'll call this the "Feeling Confessor"
mechanism. It is triggered by strong feelings of
attraction and emotion toward an unusually
attractive woman.

I've talked to A LOT of attractive women in my
life. And they all have one similar experience to
share...

For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, men just
seem to LOVE telling SUPER HOT women how they FEEL
within the first couple of dates.

As you might realize, I get a lot of emails
from guys...

And one of the common emails I get goes a
little something like this:

"David, I met this unbelievably hot girl...she's
smart, interesting, successful...everything seemed
to be going well...so I decided to tell her how I
felt...and for some reason she said that she needs
some "space" and some "time to be alone"...I don't
get it...."

Again, when you do this you're making all kinds
of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything
you can do to LOSE her.

5) Keep Telling Her How You Feel When She Needs
Space

And as if the last example wasn't painful
enough, most guys usually like to use this final
"nail in the coffin" technique as well...

Here's the situation:

You've met a girl you really like. Maybe you've
gone out with her a few times. Doesn't matter.

You do all the things you can think of to SCREW
IT UP, and you finally succeed.

You prove to her that you just don't get it,
and you don't know how to handle a woman like her.

So she says, "I need some space" or "I need
some time to myself."

And what do most guys do?

Of course. They KEEP telling her how they feel.

And they do it in 100 annoying ways.

The thought that most guys have is, "If she
only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HER, then
she would LOVE ME."

It's painful just typing the words.

So there you have it.

Part of the magic formula for losing a girl
fast. Interesting, isn't it?

But there's a much DEEPER message here.

The message is this:

If you don't understand the process of how to
make women feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to
have success.

Not knowing the rules of a game makes it very
difficult (or impossible) to win.

And, unfortunately, we guys have a HUGE
disadvantage when it comes to women and dating...

We have emotional responses to situations that
take over our "thinking," and makes us do all the
wrong things.

We usually sabotage OURSELVES.

Well, the good news is that it does NOT have to
be this way. There is a BETTER way.

If you found this particular discussion
interesting, then you're probably ready to learn
the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful
with women and dating.

If you're ready to STOP losing women faster
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And if you're reading this right now and you
haven't yet downloaded your copy of my online
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tell you...

My eBook is the foundation for everything that
I teach in these newsletters, and it's the
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Guys are surprised when they listen to the
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tricks.

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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***QUESTION***

Honestly Dave, I think you need more caution,
and warning signs on your products, before some
knucklehead tries to sue you for loading his life
with more women than the poor soul knows how to
handle.lol I've followed your newsletter,
purchased your Ebook, and Advanced Series. Totally
Incredible stuff. I dated my High School
sweetheart for the better portion of 5 years, and
honestly if I knew way back then what I know now
it probably wouldn't have lasted 5 months. She was
always demanding, and got upset when I tried to
hang out with friends of mine, pretty much your
average basket case, but I felt like she was the
only girl that I could ever attract. Then I
managed to stumble over your site and signed up
for your newsletter and not long after I cut the
ties with her, and I am happier today and date
more interesting, intelligent women than I ever
thought possible. All thanks to your ingenious,
and selfless hard work and research.

I would say that my greatest problem is that I'm
generally a pretty low keyed mellow kind of guy
that doesn't mind going out to clubs but would far
rather find a few girls that don't mind chilling
out at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell just wrestling around on the
bed.(no pun intended) lol However if these girls
tend to stay homebound for the most part what sort
of venues would you recommend for meeting these
types. Door to door dating perhaps.. lol I have
also tried the online personals which is where
much of my success come from, but many of these
girls you have to look out for or you could have a
bona fide stalker on your hands.(I know this from
experience)Yeah it sucks being a good looking,
confident guy huh? This is my first time emailing
you after reading the newsletter for well over a
year now..(yeah I stay busy) but I wanted to tell
you what a awesome job your doing and that it's
greatly appreciated from myself and multitudes of
others, not that you didn't already know that;
just thought I'd annoy you by saying..lol OK
Dave.. Take care and keep up the terrific
work..God Bless

Lionhart, DE

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, first off I want to thank you for the
shameless promotion and over-hyping of my
materials.

I appreciate it...

Next, let's talk about your "wish list."

You "don't mind going out to clubs," but you'd
"far rather find a FEW GOOD GIRLS that don't mind
chilling at home or enjoying a walk on the beach,
stargazing or hell, just WRESTLING AROUND ON THE
BED."

With each other, I'm assuming...

Hey, sounds good to me.

Maybe while they're wrestling they'd let you
videotape...and you could start an internet
company based on the concept.

Cut me in for a percentage.

And ya know, I like the way you think.

Well, I hate to break the news to you...but if
you want to meet women, you're going to have to do
SOMETHING.

The internet-bed-wrestling-make-money idea was
a pretty good one...hey, kill two birds with one
stone.

Other than that, you might try out a few of
those magical activities that are interesting,
enjoyable, and (BIG AND) also draw intelligent,
gorgeous women like a magnet.

Try an art history class.

Or go to a classy "food fair" or restaurant
opening.

Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing aerobics
class.

Dance classes are also a big winner.

In other words, there are some great places you
can go to meet women...AND have fun...AND become a
more interesting, classy guy.

Who'd-a-thunk-it?


***QUESTION***

I have been talking to this girl for about a month
now and I find myself falling in love with her
everytime we see each other (every Tuesday Night).
She recently told me that she didn't want to date
me yet, because she would hurt me. She also said
that if it is meant to happen it will, and that we
shouldn't force it. My question is how do I get
her to realize that it is meant, and that we
should push it, and how do I prove to her she
won't hurt me??

Sincerely, -J.K.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I'd say that the FIRST thing you should
do is grab a piece of paper and a pen, and walk
into the bathroom right now.

Turn on the light.

On the piece of paper I want you to write the
word "YSSUW" on it. I know, it doesn't make
sense... but do it anyway.

Now, hold the piece of paper in front of you,
so it's facing the mirror... almost as if it's a
CAPTION for YOUR FACE.

Look at yourself in the mirror.

Let that settle in for a minute.

Now that you have a clear picture of what a
WUSSY looks like, move on to a more advanced
maneuver.

Carefully take your right hand, and raise it up
next to your face.

Hold it about 12 inches away.

Now firmly BITCH SLAP yourself with it.

Repeat until the Wuss has been slapped out of
you...

Dude, duuuuuude.

You are SOOO missing the point here.

She does not want a guy who will prove to her
that she won't hurt him. She doesn't want to be
with you because you're acting like a WUSSBAG.

Women aren't attracted to girly-men.

Girly-men freak women out.

Women RUN from girly-men.

The answer is for you to start acting like a
MAN... and stop acting like a GIRL.

You need to get yourself a copy of my Advanced
Dating Techniques Program immediately.

This is an emergency. Do it.

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave,

I have in my life had good and bad success with
women and I just learned to live with it. I have a
very good job I'm a big guy 6'3" 240 nice build
and
I get told a lot that I'm good looking. So with
all
that being said I just thought I would take things
as they come. I have always been cocky+funny
naturally BUT I didn't use that on the women that
I really wanted always one ones that wanted me or
just girls I work with etc.. Also I wasn't doing
it in the fashion that you teach. I wouldn't use
the lines " you know you want me admit it" or
"just say please" those would move the attention
to ME and away from the situation I would think
which wasn't what I was after while doing it. I
would always be C+F just because that was me.. I
wasn't trying to pick anyone up lol its so funny
thinking back now. Anyway. after reading your mail
bag and book it dawned on me.. WTF was I
thinking.. I would have literally dozens of women
chasing me but all of them I didn't want (not cute
or what ever).. but the ones I wanted were like
he's cool but what ever..well this girl that I
like is a bartender at a bar I go to every
weekend, we joke play but never date.. I started
using the stuff you teach on her as a test (was in
friend zone) and BAM she wont leave me alone said
to me today on phone that she's liking me more and
more every day..I said damn your slow.. everyone
else gets it what's taking you so long.. I helped
her tend bar last night and every time she passed
me I said loudly "will you stop grabbing my ass"
its like a different girl.

I have lots more stories since I've been using
your stuff for weeks now and its un-real I am able
to get laid 3 or 4 times a week now with out even
really trying. (need to rest sometimes) lol. I
wasted so much time and I'm only 34.. oh one more
thing to those people that worry about age.. the
oldest girl I was with since I started Dave's
stuff was 30 and that's cuz she was a challenge..
the rest are 22-26 its like magic man.. get rid of
your fears and go for it P.S. since I started
DD101 I have filled my cell phone book with
numbers and most I didn't even ask, they would
take my phone and put it in themselves. J from
Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I love getting emails like yours...

One of the great things about the Cocky & Funny
(now referred to on occasion as Cocky Comedy) is
that so many guys ALREADY GET IT.

And, just like you, many of us have understood
EXACTLY what to do... we just never did it when we
were around women that we LIKED.

I'm glad you're figuring out how all of the
pieces fit together...

And thanks for reminding all of us that just
because you're tall and good-looking does NOT mean
that you're going to automatically get girls...

By the way, put a hat on that thing... and
watch out. Use caution, my friend. You don't want
one of those unwanted gifts that just keeps on
giving....


***QUESTION***

Greetings David,

I live in small Eastern-European country which is
by all means underdeveloped.

So, after encountering the ad for your book, I
was suspicious if it is going to work for Bosnian
women too. But, after buying and reading it, I
only discovered that the whole story about Bosnian
women was only in my mind. I discovered that after
reading about all kinds of fears men have while
approaching women. Those fears take form of the
entire set of reasons only not to be rejected or
embarrassed. Anyhow, in brief: After browsing
through the book I started implementing concepts.
My address book is now filled with emails and
phone numbers right below the email. I am
constantly going out with girls. And I enjoy it.

But the biggest benefit I derived from the book
was: it has instructed me to be a better person
and man. It has also shown me how. So, thank
you for sharing your knowledge with me. I am
very much interested in your new publications,
should you have some. And in joining the Buyer's
club if you have one, too.

Could you please let me know about these things?

Many greetings to DoubleYourDating community.

It's OK to be a man. Regards, D

>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Thanks for your email.

I get a lot of emails and questions from guys
who ask, "Will this work in my country?"

Now, I personally don't have a lot of
experience in different countries and cultures...
but from what I hear back from guys all over the
world who are using these concepts, they are
universal.

Congratulations, and thank you for your email.


***QUESTION***

Hi David

Dave, I can safely say you've changed my life. I
was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I
had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend
when I was 17. And get this, I've been told by
loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this
is my complete lack of confidence, I just had
none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go
over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I
was approached by a lady, I either froze up or
shook so much that everyone in the room thought
their cell phone was vibrating!

I just got up 1 day decided to go on the
internet and learn! I really didn't think I would
come across so much rubbish! But I signed up to
all the free newsletters and I used techniques
subtly with me female friends! Well as you've
obviously guessed, your tips were the ticket! I
bought the book and I was off... ..

I am now 28, been using your techniques for
about a year, year and a half.and I am so happy! I
have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating
3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont
leave me alone!

I am emailing you to say thank you, I would
really appreciate an email back if you don't post
it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it,
or I might send it again knowing me!

Ok here's the question, I have heard similar
questions so much on your newsletters but this is
quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be
great, rather than the default one!

Right, the one girl that I want is the one
playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I
knew her from work but didn't know her very well,
she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told'
her to give me her number! I rang her but her
phone is always off, so I sent her a text message
(sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee
during the week. She replied that she's busy all
week and she said that she has just got back with
her ex and if I want to get to know her as a
friend is my decision.

I REALLY like her, and she does not know this
(because she doesn't need to know). I am still a
novice at the game so could you tell me exactly
what you would do and exactly what you would say?
please

Thanks again

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well then... welcome to the world of being an
adult man! Exciting.

And I'm glad to hear that you're doing well
with the ladies... FINALLY.

Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer
to your "special situation."

Let's see...

You are surrounded by gorgeous women... and
they're chasing you around like you're some kind
of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women...
of course.

Nooooo...

You want the ONE who isn't interested in you...
the one who just got back with her boyfriend.

Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like
you to consider your own situation.

Let's be honest, shall we?

Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL.

You are not into this girl because she's
actually that "special."

You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU.

If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit
that you're basically out of control in this
situation, then we can make some progress.

So admit it. Say it out loud.

"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly
because she doesn't want me... and it really
fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop
thinking about it."

Just read that out loud.

Read it again, just so you hear the words this
time.

Think about it for a minute.

You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF!

And it STILL works on YOU.

That's profound.

And by the way, the more you try to "resist"
the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a
challenge and you only want her because she's
"special," etc. the worse it will get.

So what should you do?

Hit the road.

Say "Next."

Move on.

Walk.

One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF
is to get the number of an unusually attractive
woman, then THROW IT AWAY.

Why? Duh.

Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to
yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and
meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am."

That kind of thing will help you, big time.

Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to
take my advice... and you want to make yourself
crazy some more, here's what to do:

1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.

2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a
question that I really need to ask you... call
me".

3) When she calls, say "Yeah, I wanted to ask you
why it's taking you so long to call and ask me
out...." Tell her about some beautiful and
intelligent woman you've been dating, and then
tell her that you'd like to get together with her
and hang out as friends.

4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill
out, and give her space.

5) Take the time and energy to actually get to
know her as a person. Find out if she is really
the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make
a list of all the things that would make a
"perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the
things that would be "deal-killers." Ask her all
the questions when you meet her... and do it in a
"friend" kind of way.

I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that
she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want
to be with.

On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl,
lean back and take your time.

Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.

Tell her that you can't possibly understand how
her boyfriend could stand her.

Chances are that she won't be with this guy for
long, and you will have now established that she's
your dream girl... and you'll be ready to
"pounce."

Moral?

Just get on with your life, man.

You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to
pretend that he's not.

My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July
fireworks.


***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hi Dave!

I'm a quite hot 25 year old (or so I've been
told many times...) woman who's been in a
relationship for several years & a few months ago
my boyfriend "mysteriously" started receiving your
newsletter. Now he says he doesn't read the stuff
(with the way he acts I believe him) but I wish he
did!!! I have to say that I'm considering ending
my relationship since he's become such a wuss (he
didn't used to be) I greatly enjoy reading your
stuff and to all the guys out there, C & F IS THE
BEST WAY TO GET WOMEN, I should know being one
myself. (Also a challenge, well uh... for me, is
always very nice)

Keep up the terrific work & maybe one day all
women will have great men

B, Montreal

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'll tell you what... when you do leave the
dumb-ass (and you will, I can hear that you've
already made the decision in your heart... and
you're just trying to rationalize it now) make
sure and email me again.

I can guarantee you that I'LL READ THESE
NEWSLETTERS.

Kiss Kiss,

D.


***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

It is amazing how some good advice and a simple
change of attitude can make such a difference in
your life. I am in my late forties and have been
physically disabled from birth. (I use a
wheelchair to get around.) Throughout my history
with women, I have always been the "friend." I've
always been a shoulder to cry on and never the
face to sit on! Well, my new best friend, after
reading your e-book, my whole world changed. I've
always been a little cocky, and humor comes
naturally to me. Let's face it, cocky + funny =
Smart Ass, more or less. My concern was getting
punched in the head. But as it turns out, the
women who get what I'm doing, are the ones I'm
attracted to. If I brought to my home every woman
that has given me her number, I would have time
for little else.

I tried to make this one paragraph. Sorry, can't
do it. After realizing that most women love a bad
boy, I became one, saying and doing things I would
never say or do before. IT REALLY WORKS! I have
no questions for you, Dave. I just want to tell
the readers of your newsletter to get your e-book,
videos, audios, whatever, and then practice.

Thanks, David.

c. Anchorage, AK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email.

I have to say something that's probably not
very politically correct... but here goes...

I've done a few seminars around the USA over
the past two years.

Each one has been an experience...

And at each one something VERY interesting
happens.

When we break for lunch or break at the end of
the day, I always have guys come up and talk to
me.

Sometimes one of the guys who comes up to talk
to me has an obvious "physical challenge" of some
type or another... and it's obvious enough that I
mentally think to myself, "OK, he's going to ask
me how to overcome his challenge with women."

And guess what?

MOST of the time, this isn't true at all.

In fact, I would say that most of the guys who
have come up to talk to me who have "obvious"
physical challenges say things like "I'm already
successful with women... but I have this one
question."

It has blown my mind.

My own realization is that the reality of women
being attracted to the INNER MAN is even MORE TRUE
than even I thought.

Thanks for your email, and good work.


***QUESTION***

I happen to get two best female friends. How do I
choose one?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Pick the one with the most money.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi David,

I am 50, look good and always got the women I
wanted... . but was always scared sh**less when I
wanted to approach a woman I see and wanted to
meet, but didn't know how to approach her. Since I
apply your ideas though my fear is gone. It works
like magic.

Till now I am not telling you anything new. But
listen what happened a short while ago. A friend
of mine has this daughter who I have known for
years. She is a lesbian (40), so of course we have
just been friends. We live far apart now and she
asked me if she could stay with me while on
vacation and bring her 22 year young nubile
girlfriend. I agreed and they arrive a month
later. This girlfriend turns out to be a goddess.
So I remember your lessons and I totally bust this
girls' balls (Is that the right expression? Sounds
weird. English is not my native tongue). For some
reason, although she is lesbian, I notice that she
wants me to find her attractive. But I tell her
(her friend is there too) that she is too young
for me, I don't like blonds, bla bla bla. I am
calm and use a subtle smile when I deliver the
messages. She goes nuts and becomes more and more
aggressive, because normally guys are all over
her. Logical, because she is gorgeous. But I keep
ignoring her and give a lot of attention to her
girlfriend. I treat her like a little girl, who is
not really seen by me as an adult. (Of course I
want to bed her, but I don't want to get into a
fight with the other, who is really a good friend
of mine. So I dismiss the possibility altogether.)
nThen she comes to me (after a few days) saying
that she never did it with a guy, but that I am
the chosen one to experience that 'penetration -
thing ' that she misses in the sex with her
girlfriend. (I kid you not! ) Her girlfriend is
there when she tells me this and her girlfriend
admits that she is also curious and that they
discussed this the night before and want to give
me a menage-a-tois.

The rest is history.

By the way, I use that line a lot now ('that
they are too young for me') with younger women.
They go crazy. And the older the are, the better
it works. I even tell 'girls' of 30 this and then
they seem to need to show how 'adult' they are,
also in the bedroom.

Thanks again for your ideas. It is great stuff. It
even works on lesbians!!!

G.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I can't type.

I am sitting in a reverent pose, head bowed to
you.

I think I can speak for all fellow men when I
say:

"You suck, and all men wish they were you."

Powerful male energy has that effect... and now
you have seen it first hand.


***QUESTION***

David,

I loved your book. And I really think that the
advice of "the more women you talk to the better
at it you will be" is worth the price of the book
alone. I have one dilemma. My local mall where I
live is "the" place where all the women go, but
after years of rejection or faint politeness at
best by doing exactly that over the years, I am so
defeated, I cant bring myself to walk over cold to
a female in that mall anymore. I am 44 years old
and after getting the cold shoulder for over 20
Years wherever I go, particularly in malls, its
hard to believe I can get any other kind of result
other than making an ass out of myself. What
repulsive vibes I must be giving off! I am a so-
so looking guy, 5'9 170 lbs in decent shape and I
approach women from 19-38 and I cant seem to get
positive reactions. And I don't talk like a truck
driver either. I am college educated. Yes I am
scared shitless upon approach till they talk to
me, but once they open up, I am so relaxed and
funny (not cocky though) you'd think I was Johnny
Carson's son.

Anyway, how do I get my confidence back at
approaching women in malls? I sometimes walk into
a dept store and go to the mens section hoping to
see a lady buying something for a relative that i
can ask advice. Or I may go to the ladies section
and compliment her on something she is thinking of
getting. Or, I flirt with the cashier, or one of
the sales girls. Sometimes I will even try the
passive approach and sit on a bench and let
someone come sit down on the bench next to me and
at least give me a look.! Never works. Not in 20
yrs. I could wait years and Its like I am the
invisible man. Rarely is anyone rude, just
apathetic. This has been happening for over 20
yrs. Literally! I've even put on a suit and tie so
they think I work in the mall and that doesn't
work. And no, my hair Isn't messy, I have no nose
hairs showing, I bathe daily, etc.
Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp!!! By the way, I get the same
results no matter where I approach a women. I've
even tried the personals for 6 yrs and have
emailed over 1000 women and my pic makes me look
5x better than I look in person and
still.......nothing! Also, I am a white guy and
most of the women in the mall are of color, so
should I be using a special strategy or something?
What to do?

M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, remember the advice I gave to the guy
earlier, where I told him to bring a pen and paper
into the bathroom?

I think you need to call him... maybe the two
of you can go into his bathroom together... and
conserve paper.

Let me get this straight...

Sometimes you put on a suit and tie, then go to
the mall... hoping that a girl will come sit next
to you on a bench... and she'll think that you
WORK there?

And you think this is going to work magic for
you?

We need to talk.

First of all, you're whining like a little
girl.

Second, you're committing the sin of using only
half of the Cocky & Funny formula. In other words,
you probably sound like a DORK to women.

Third, you need to go and make friends with
some guys who are GREAT with women, and WATCH them
interact with women in person.

Look, if you're not going to use the materials
the way they're intended to be used, why are you
complaining?

Instead of putting on a suit, just bang your
head against the wall like twenty times a day...

It will save you a trip to the mall...

Here...

The formula goes like this:

COCKY + FUNNY.

COCKY + COMEDY.

You need to use ARROGANT HUMOR.

Bust balls.

Tease with sarcasm.

Create some sexual TENSION.

You're not a clown, so quit acting like one.

Read my book again, and try the materials the
way I've presented them to you....


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

This is for all those people who don't believe
your techniques work in a relationship. I'm 43,
slightly overweight, false teeth, don't make a lot
of money and in the middle of a divorce (my
second) from a plain looking woman (I thought
she'd appreciate me more) who didn't want a "nice
guy" (WUSS) and took advantage of my "approval
seeking". After I filed for divorce, I started
going on-line looking for new prospects, sticking
to my own age group, using a "nice guy" profile,
"WUSS" letters to anyone remotely decent, and
"WUSS" responses to any replies I got. I'm
naturally witty with quick repartee (sexual
innuendo and busting are instinctive to me, but
never when I'm in a relationship), but I kept that
out because I was afraid of offending and scaring
off any potential females. They usually didn't
write more than two times before disappearing.
Your book and e-mails changed all that.

After buying your book, I took C&F on-line, and
it worked so well in my own age group, that I
tried it on a few younger types. I got quite a
few good responses but kept screwing up by
reverting to "WUSS". I finally met this one girl,
22 with good looking picture, and decided to keep
the C&F going and see what happened. After a
while, I said I was going to a movie on a
particular date, and if she wanted to she could
come along. And, I didn't stop busting on her all
night, figuring to just enjoy myself because we'd
never be more than friends. She was laughing
constantly, and at herself. She was the nervous
one, and obviously attracted. But I played hard
to get. I turned all her advances back at her C&F,
until she practically raped me one night. She had
plenty of boyfriends before me, but they never got
anywhere because of their WUSS behavior, like
trying to "buy" her, or proposing after the second
date (one really did). Until that night I used to
call her my "virgin sex maniac" (she was), because
of how passionate she was, and she loved the
nickname. Now I just call her a sex maniac. We've
been together 9 months now, and SHE proposed two
weeks ago for after my divorce is final (it's a
long bitter one). I made her wait almost a week
before accepting. And, I still bust on her
constantly, but always jokingly (C&F) There's some
"WUSS" behavior, like love poems, and going
clothes shopping with her. But those are things I
want to do, not me seeking approval (another
change), and she knows that. I'm not looking for
anyone else, because I'm truly happy where I'm at,
instead of scared like I was in ALL my previous
relationships. Your material is what got me here,
and it's obvious that it's what will keep this
soon to be marriage from ever becoming boring.

Thanks,

R.O.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

All I can say is that I saw the picture, and
your girl is a babe. No question.

You're the man.

By the way, as you know, one of my very
favorite places to use and LEARN how to use Cocky
Comedy is ONLINE.

Chat is great.

It gives you time to FORMULATE great lines and
responses.

It's the ultimate "simulator."

And the great part is that there are literally
millions and millions of REAL WOMEN online who are
willing to "simulate" at any hour of the day.

Good luck with the Virgin Sex Maniac.

And thanks for the email.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I bought you e-book and must admit it is worth
the price plus its weight in gold. As I read it I
kept saying to myself, "Yeah, I already know that.
Hey, why is this guy telling our secrets?" Over 20
years ago, I did the same thing you did ... I
learned from some really good mentors, I tried
things and found out what worked and what did not,
and most importantly I learned to maintain that
"NEXT!" attitude. Oh, I am not going to ask for a
refund. No way! Your book is the best refresher
course I've seen. When I consider wussing, I just
re-read it and ... Presto! ... an instant cure.
Thanks!!! One thing that always seems to get
attention is a playful look that says "I just had
a great idea!" ... Pop Rocks come to mind! On a
date I bought some while we were sitting and
chatting. As they started to pop in my mouth, I
just raised my eyebrows looking at her and smiled
with a devilish twinkle in my eye, and put the
rest of the package in my pocket. Then I winked at
her and said, "For later." Of course, how far this
is taken depends on familiarity. In this case, she
was anticipating "trying" Pop Rocks for the rest
of the evening, but I never mentioned them again.

I've been to many different countries, and the
general approach you describe has worked in all of
them. It is not a woman's cultural training, but
something more primitive that cocky and funny
appeals to in them. I think it subconsciously
says to them that this man is certain he can take
care of them ... he is not worried, but is so sure
of his abilities that he can actually have fun. I
know what you teach works in Europe, in the
Orient, in Latin America and in North America. I
could give several examples, but here is one from
the Orient... A beautiful woman met me for coffee.
She rather quickly told me that other men always
told her how beautiful she was and suggested that
I do the same. I replied with, "Well,...
(pause)... they are trying to get laid. And you
can't believe everything a guy tells you when he's
trying to get laid.... (pause)... Of course you're
attractive. You're having coffee with me, aren't
you?" By the way, she was late, so I handed her
the bill after a delightful conversation about
culture, customs and local history. She looked
shocked and I laughed and said (with a smile),
"I'll pay it. But if you are late next time, don't
expect me to be so nice." She would tell me that
the things I said would make her angry, but she
just could got bored with the guys who were
telling her how beautiful she was all the time.
Guess whom she called frequently to see if we
could go out? Also, she was never late for another
date. We won't go into who got laid and who did
not. =)

Dave, there is a question I have for you. At
this time in my life I am enjoying being single
again. Sure, if I met a woman who made me feel
that the better part of me was missing when she
was not there, I would be delighted to settle
down. However, I find that women frequently just
assume that a relationship is serious or exclusive
and get really angry when I let them know that is
not the case. I've tried telling them from the
beginning that I was also dating others and I get
an I-don't-want-to-hear-about-it reply. I've
tried explaining that for now, I am looking for
anything special, but it seems that they WANT a
relationship, even when they SAY they just want to
have fun and date as friends. How do you
recommend handling this situation?

R. from all over, but currently living in LA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, yes.

It's taken me a long time to figure out the
answer you're looking for... but I believe that
I've found it.

I personally believe that the "relationship
trigger" inside of a woman is tied to the amount
of time you spend with her and/or talking to her
on the phone.

If you want a girlfriend, talk to her and see
her several times a week.

Her "relationship emotions" will kick in almost
immediately.

If you want to date casually, don't talk to her
more than once or twice a week, and don't see her
more than about once per week.

If you do that, it will eliminate the need to
"have the talk"... because there will be no talk
required.

No technique is perfect, but you'll find that
this one is as close as they get...


***MORE COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave

I love your material. I am an average looking,
fun, 27 year old female. I have always hated those
wimpy, clingy guys that want a relationship and to
"please" me before they even get to first base. I
have introduced several of my male friends to your
materials and they email me volumes of dating
success stories. For all of your readers that
still don't 'get it,' I wanted to share an example
of what not to do. I had begun to frequent a local
club and got to the point that I was comfortable
going in alone. After a long day at work all I
wanted was to sit and sip my drink and enjoy the
music. If a C&F guy was to come along then I was
open to conversation. What I got instead was the
loser guy that goes from table to table asking
women to dance or just make idle chit chat. I
politely tell him that I had a long day and I just
want to sip my drink. Instead of taking the hint
he slides in closer to me, puts both elbows up on
the bar and asks what made it a long day. I told
him as nicely as I could that I wasn't in the mood
for chit chat. He looked like a wounded puppy and
sauntered off. Exactly one week later I was at the
same place with some friends. Sitting one dance
out, the same guy walks up to me with a killer
opening line, "You look bored." He doesn't get it
when I tell him that I am not going to tell him my
name AGAIN, he must have enjoyed some liquid
confidence because this time he was touching my
shoulder and getting right in my face. It took
telling him that I was there with someone to get
him to go away. Bottom line, watch the creep
factor. If practicing C&F then this shouldn't be a
problem. Thanks Dave, by improving the dating
lives of men everywhere you are improving the
dating lives of woman as well. S. in Seattle

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, nice.

I wrote a newsletter recently that mentioned
the emotion women feel called "The Instant Ewww."

Well, you've demonstrated yet another way that
any guy can make any woman feel it within moments
of meeting.

Thanks for the story...

GUYS! Take note... don't do this kind of
stupid, Jack-Wuss stuff.


***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

First, I should say that I enjoy reading your
letters, comments, etc. I definitely think you
have some interesting insight on women and dating.
I would like to share some thoughts that I
recurrently have while reading your newsletter.
Cocky and Funny doesn't just work on women. I have
always used cocky and funny as a flirting
technique and men love it too. I think it
communicates some important things about a person.
1) I am a fun person capable of letting my hair
down. 2) I am confident in myself. 3) For the
person on the other end of C&F, assuming he/she
responds well, it says he/she is confident enough
to take the teasing and roll with it. Frankly, C&F
is just fun, and people like to be with fun
people. Also, I have some reflections on the
whole "nice guy" thing. When women say they want
"nice" men they aren't lying or misunderstanding
what they want. But, I do think that what women
mean by "nice" and what men think we mean are two
different things. When it comes to relationships,
I don't want to be physically or emotionally
harmed, cheated on, or stood up, etc. Basically, I
want a partner who is reliable and trustworthy and
who shows me on occasion that I am special, he
cares about me, and enjoys being with me. When it
comes to dating, especially first dates, men can
take "nice" waaaayyy too far. Often this equates
to "creepy." For instance, a guy once gave me on
the second date an extremely large bouquet of
exotic flowers and a pineapple (?). I would guess
the bouquet cost him at least $100, if not more.
CREEPY. I was already slightly creeped out by this
guy because he wanted to drive one hour at 11pm
the day after our first date to see me. When I
said no, he practically begged. I did see him the
following day which is when he presented the
flowers. I sent him home an hour later and he did
not get date 3. Another guy showed up on the first
date with a bouquet of roses, had the waitress box
up left-over iceburg lettuce for me, and told me
later that he was glad he took some time off from
college because otherwise he would have never met
me! CREEPY. Guy did not get second date. Another
guy, on the first date, was so concerned about
being chivalrous that he would run ahead of me to
reach doors before me and open them for me. He was
so concerned about pleasing me that he would not
assist in making decisions about plans for the
date. I ended the date as soon as possible. These
are extremes, but other things include calling
constantly and demanding lots of time from me
right away. All of these things come down to
trying TOO hard which communicate to me, not
niceness, but a level of desperation and neediness
that makes me worry if I have a stalker on my
hands. I begin to wonder 1) is this guy extremely
emotionally needy and will become possessive and
physically scary? 2) is there something really
wrong with this guy that makes him incapable of
having a relationship with women and so he is THIS
desperate?

Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy men doing nice
things for me, but there are limits. For instance
my current boyfriend (in a monogamous
relationship) treated me to an expensive,
beautiful dinner and flowers for my birthday. This
was a special occasion for two people who really
care for each other. On first dates there should
be no expensive dinners, no expensive gifts, no
extensive flattery, no expression of emotion that
shouldn't yet be felt. I also like to contribute
to the date in some way, say purchase coffee at
the end of the evening. If a man is paying for
everything, all the time, I begin to feel guilty,
like a mooch. I don't think all women are like
this, but I feel uncomfortable with too much
financial and emotional flattery, especially early
on. A--Florida

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ohhhh... this is good stuff.

More of the infamous "Instant Ewww"
phenomenon...

You're really onto something here because I
have heard women say "He gives me the creeps" on
MANY, MANY occasions myself.

Yeah, it's worse than most guys think.

A little bit of a good thing is a good thing.

A lot of a good thing too early is the kiss of
death...

Write in more often. Love it.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I'm a guy who has had pretty good success with
women. I'm in shape, and attractive, not shy, and
have always had the attitude that if she isn't
interested there must be something wrong with HER.
But your materials are fantastic. They have
helped me have a PLAN so I have been better
prepared in certain situations. And the entire
C/F thing has helped me weed out the right women.
In other words... some women get offended, turned
off to this approach. GREAT!!!! If you are a
stuffy, too good for everyone, can't have any fun
woman I don't need you OR your attitude. It helps
find out who the fun ones are.

Now for how your materials helped me this past
weekend. I'm in a college football town and was at
a huge tailgate (10,000 people) party that takes
place near the stadium in front of a local hotel.

I'm in the hallway of the hotel using my cell
phone and see a GORGEOUS girl sitting on a bench
doing the same. Heres the dialogue when she gets
up to leave.

Me: "You're going to leave without even hitting on
me" Her: "You need a better line than that" Me:
"That wasn't a line" Her: "That was a line and a
bad one" Me: "For it to be a line I would have
had to be interested in you" Her: Laughs and
hits me Her: "You're a player" Me: "You're not
very smart are you? The game already started and
the players are on the field. I see...you thought
you would meet some athlete down here, seduce him
and hit the lottery huh? Her: Hitting me again.
Me: Why don't you try Los Angeles. Kobe's out
there
Her: I have to go into the bathroom DONT go
anywhere.

This is where it gets Classic. While she is in the
bathroom her friend (who I don't know is her
friend
and wasn't around earlier) sits down on a chair
near me and we make eye contact. I think to myself
that if I weren't waiting on the other one I would
get to know this one. We exchange a couple of
smiles and thats it. I thought about getting an
email, but didn't. so here is how it picked up
with
the original girl.

Me: Its about time. I almost didn't wait that long
Her: Stop!!!! Me: Plus I had that girl over there
hitting on me Her: Thats my friend I came with!
Me: Some friend, she tried to steal me when you
weren't looking Her: (to her friend) Were you
hitting on him Friend: Maybe (laughing) Her: The
love of my life and you try to steal him
(sarcastic) Me: I have to get to a private party
I'm here for... do you have email Her: Only if I
get yours Me: Only if I get a kiss goodbye Her:
(quick kiss on the lips) Me: Thats not what I
meant....tell your friend you will be back in
about 5 minutes Her: (to friend) You going to be
here for 5 minutes. Me: Follow me!

The rest is private! But again....your information
is priceless!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What you have written here is GENIUS LEVEL
material.

I could write an entire chapter of a book on
this one short story... hell, I might even do that
some day.

The one thing that I will comment on here is
the amazing ability you've demonstrated of serving
the ball back over the net EVERY TIME she tried to
be a stuck-up, bratty girl.

Most guys would have thrown in the towel at the
very first, "You need a better line than that."

As soon as a woman says something like that to
most guys, the guy crumbles... he falters... he
loses his composure... and he's DONE.

In that moment when he loses his balance, she
instantly and unconsciously has that gut-level
"Wuss" response... and the door SLAMS shut.

Most guys don't realize that if you can "keep
the ball in play," you can turn a situation like
this from "bad" to "WAAAAYYY GOOD" in a matter of
a few SECONDS.

I was talking to a good friend of mine
recently, and we were talking about starting
conversations with women.

We were talking about that moment when you
first start using Cocky Comedy with a woman... and
she says "You're kind of full of yourself... what
makes you think you're so cool?"... as if she's
put off by your attitude...

And my friend looks at me, shakes his head,
smirks, and says, "Yeah, you own her at that
point."

Now, what did he mean?

How is it possible that if you've apparently
acted too cocky... and turned a woman off... that
you could "own her?"

Well, it's true.

I was once joking with a friend... sometimes
you'll meet a girl... and you'll bust her balls
and tease her so much that she starts to get
agitated... and all of a sudden she snaps into a
mode of:

"I don't know what it is that makes you think
you're god's gift... but I need to make out with
you to find out!"

LOL... it's funny.

Now, like I mentioned before, this is more
advanced stuff.

You need to have a good feel for chemistry and
sexual tension before you really try these types
of moves with women you don't know.

But there's a very interesting lesson here...

A woman doesn't have to LIKE you to feel
ATTRACTION for you. The ATTRACTION happens on its
own... regardless of other things happening at the
same time.

Certain traits and communication techniques
trigger ATTRACTION... and if you know what they
are, and how to amplify them, then you can create
results that will literally seem like MAGIC to
others watching.

...and if you're reading this right now and
you'd like to be one of the few men on this planet
that actually GETS IT when it comes to this "other
level" of communication, then you need to get your
hands on a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
CD/DVD program.

It will open up a new world that you never knew
existed, and teach you how to be the kind of man
that women have been hoping for all their lives...

And the best part is that women in your life
will THANK YOU and APPRECIATE YOU for learning
this stuff. If you doubt me, just read the letters
from women in this newsletter... I'm not kidding.

All the details, plus some great free audio and
video clips are here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And if you haven't downloaded my online ebook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then go get it! You can
download it right now and be reading it within a
few minutes... download it here:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

5 Mistakes That Make Women "Flake Out"

On a Tuesday I am out with a friend & we bump into his ex & her roommate. Both girls are 9's (pushing 10's). I immediately go to work! She's wearing a turtle neck sweater (I see a weak spot) so I start calling her "Tippy the Turtle" all night. She acts all defensive about it, but keeps laughing & asking me WHY, WHY, WHY do you keep calling me that?...So I just keep pouring it on. I bust on her humorously every chance I get. Within 2 hours, she's leaning on me, squeezing me & following me around the club like a puppy..... SO, we go to another club & I go to the bar to get a drink and the waitress at the bar (whom I know from being there in the past)asks me why I have never asked HER to go out & do anything (LIGHT BULB GOES ON).

So I tell her it's "because I don't have a way to get a hold of her". So she pulls out a dollar bill from her money holder & writes her number down and gives it to me (this girl is a solid 10 by the way... and trust me, IM PICKY!). Needless to say,
IM STOKED! So I tease her a little about her name (because her name is B...a guys name), take the number & go back to my friend & the girls.....

Everything is great RIGHT????

Now the problem & the question:

I ask a friend of mine about her (the waitress). He works at the same night club she does. He said that she was "all about money". He also told me that she just quit her job that weekend & didn't work there anymore...

So I called her on the following Sunday (gave it about 5 days). I decided to check this "money thing" out in a humorous way. When she finally realized who I was (which kinda pissed me off that I had to explain to her who I was on the phone...I went as far as suggesting that I hang up & call back & try this again) I told her that I heard she quit her job & then asked her "How are you going to take me to lunch & pay my way if you don't have a job"? I thought it was funny & was awaiting a laugh, but she responded with "why do you have to start the conversation off like that?

I had to support my last 2 boyfriends, so don't go there". Needless to say I'm shocked & respond with "Its becoming a habit huh?"...and then heard silence & broke the silence with "I'm just giving you sh**!" (I know, I know....a WUSS moment)

SO, I set a simple meeting with her (for some lunch before I had to go to work) for that same Thursday (today actually...4 days later). She said the date & time were cool so I closed the deal (kept the phone call at about 3-4 minutes). Before
I hung up she said "why don't you call me between now & then so we can talk". Well I'm picking up on that one right away, so I respond with. What would be the point in that? We are getting together Thursday to talk". And we said our goodbyes & that
was it....

NOW I get a phone call 3 hours before we have to meet & she tells me some BS story about her brother coming in town & she can't meet me for lunch. Well I'm not stupid, and I just had another girl cancel in a similar fashion on me last night.

DUHH!!!... So my question is this:

QUESTION: If a girl cancels on you, how should you really handle it? Especially if you know her excuse is bull sh**?!?! (I can pick liars out a mile away... its a gift!). I realize she maybe testing me, but when a girl expresses interest in
YOU & makes it a point to make sure that YOU leave WITH HER PHONE NUMBER, how should you handle it when they cancel last minute with a lame ass excuse? My feelings are to talk to them in a manor making them feel as stupid as they think YOU are.

For Example:

When she tells me her brother is going to be in town & she had to cancel THREE HOURS before we meet, I felt like saying "Well I gave you 4 days notice to meet me for ONE hour. Your brother hasn't seen you in six months & you didn't know this when we talked the first time??"

I was just real quiet & said nothing when she fed me this "Line" & responded with "ok, whatever... maybe some other time...you have my number" & that was the end of the conversation, I hung up.

Are they testing to see if you WILL be an a**hole (DO THEY WANT YOU TO?), or are they testing to see if you will be sympathetic (WHICH WOULD BE BAD)..... Personally, I want to be an asshole because I get kind of upset with flakey people in
general...

Also, do you think I should ever call & set a date up again with a woman like this, or did I already blow it?

My novel......

C. (Kansas)

>>>MY (David's) COMMENTS:

OK, first things first.

You really have the right idea here. Your thinking is right on, and your use of the Cocky & Funny attitude is great!

And I'm guessing that the REASON why the cute waitress started asking why you never ask her out is BECAUSE you showed up with a hot girl that was chasing you around.

It certainly helps the stock value when you're seen around with a hottie.

I'd love to talk more about all the RIGHT things you did, but, alas, I'm going to focus this newsletter on the WRONG things you did.

Now, please don't take any of what I'm about to tell you PERSONALLY, because it's all in good fun.

But pay attention, because by making fun of you in a public newsletter (that many thousands of guys read) only hurts a little (but remember the joy I'm getting from it, and maybe you'll feel better).

MISTAKE #1: LISTENING TO YOUR FRIEND

Dude, what are you thinking?

When your friend who worked with her told you that she was "all about money", it probably meant:

- He was in love with her.

- She wasn't interested in him.

- He tried to buy her dinner and gifts, but she only wanted to be friends.

- He hated the idea that you were going to date her.

- He wanted to put you off the trail.

Think about it.

MISTAKE #2: WAITING 5 DAYS TO CALL HER.

Now, of course you don't want to call a woman ten seconds after you meet her and say, "Hi, I'm the needy dork you just gave your number to...".

But think about it...

This girl works in a BAR. She meets about a million guys every night.

She probably gives her number to more guys every week than you have FRIENDS.

I would have called her the next evening... two days later at the most.

This way she'll at least REMEMBER you.

And I would have said "You know, I've never had a woman PAY ME to call her. But this dollar is only going to buy you about 15 seconds. You can ask me what I'm wearing or something, and then you'll have to give me a Visa card to continue the
call..."

You're good with the Cocky & Funny, but you should get THIS to make yourself KILLER:

http://www.datingtechniques.com/CockyComedy



MISTAKE #3: DISCUSSING THE "MONEY THING" ON THE PHONE

What are you thinking... bringing up something like this by telling her that you heard she quit her job?

Something like this at the beginning of a first call CAN'T go anywhere but a BAD place.

I can see what you were trying to do, but you were on a slippery slope, and you were only irritating her.

Save the ball busting for when you're alone with her in person.

This is where you REALLY screwed up, man.

At this point she was probably thinking "What the hell is this guy talking about?" because it was a sensitive subject for her, and you didn't have enough of a connection with her to be talking to her about this topic. Too early.

I'm going to say that you basically SET HER UP to flake on you.

Shortly after that, she gave you the NEON SIGN of "why don't you call me between now and then so we can talk".

TRANSLATION: "I'm going to flake on you for SURE, but I just don't want the confrontation right now, so I'll put doubt in your mind".

MISTAKE #4: LETTING HER THINK THAT FLAKING WAS OK

When you just let the "call me between now and then" comment go by and hung up, you made a big mistake.

Right then and there you should have STOPPED the conversation and said something to the effect of:

"Whoa. I'll tell you what, I have a pet peeve, and I HATE it when people flake out on me. So, if you're gonna flake, just tell me now. I'm only going to make plans if you're CERTAIN that you're going to be there."

Now, a lot of times when you say something like this, you'll scare a woman off. But it's worth it.

The last thing you need in your life is a flaky woman.

Better to get it handled early on.

But, if she's NOT a flaky woman... but only trying to figure out how to flake on YOU because you acted like a DUMB ASS, then this might change things.

When a woman sees you standing up for yourself, and basically saying "Look, if you're going to flake out or be late, then I don't want to meet you", it shows her beyond the shadow of a doubt that YOUR TIME is more important to you than HER.
This is a good thing.

This kind of comment will often result in a woman saying "No, no... I'll be there. I'll be there."

MISTAKE #5: LETTING HER ACTUALLY FLAKE ON YOU

If a woman called me three hours before we were supposed to meet and said, "Oh, my long lost brother is coming to town..." I would say:

"Well thanks for the three hours notice. What are you going to do to make this up to me?"

NOW IS THE TIME TO BUST BALLS!

Of course, you don't want to do it in an emotional, hurtful way... or in a way that lets her know that you have been upset by her.

I'll mention one thing here... I have a friend who has gotten tired of women flaking out on him. So he now calls THEM on the day he's supposed to
meet them for the first date, and FLAKES ON THEM.

He tells me that this works like a charm, and they always show up for the next planned meeting.

Go figure.

Now, I personally don't like the idea of lying to or deceiving women, but it's an interesting lesson.

In the final analysis, I'd say that you screwed up in the beginning, and created your own problems.

Instead of saying, "I heard you quit your job" (which makes you sound like an amateur stalker), you should have just said a few charming things,
set up a meeting with her, and gotten off the phone.

That probably would have prevented your problems.

Which leads me to another idea...

EVERY STEP with a woman will go MUCH SMOOTHER if you set it up well beforehand.

My experience is that most guys CREATE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS with women, then come to me to solve them.

Isn't it a much better idea to not run into these problems in the first place?

I mean, you'll never reach a point where you never have any problems with women, but you sure can prevent and eliminate about 80% of them by just knowing what to do to set up each step with women, and how to respond to certain situations.

Where's the best place to learn how to do just that?

Of course, my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

One of the most important things you can do to make your dating life go more smoothly is to REALLY get your "inner game" together.

By this, I mean how you think about women and dating, what you believe, how you see the world, and how you psychologically respond to common situations.

One of the things that separates my materials from all the other "dating" stuff out there is the fact that I teach the "inner game" at a DEEP level.

I think it's important to understand what ATTRACTION is, and how to create it (which is something you were NOT doing with this woman on the phone).

You must understand that there's a time and place for everything, and if you screw something up because you DIDN'T KNOW what to do in a certain situation, the only clue you're going to have is that the woman just disappears.

In other words, unless you understand what the RIGHT thing to do is, you might very well keep doing a WRONG thing (or many of them) without realizing that you're even making a mistake.

Like I said, my Advanced Dating Techniques Program is the answer. I spend several HOURS going over the "inner game" and ATTRACTION... and teaching you how and why it works the way it does.

Of course, I also spend several hours teaching the exact, specific, step-by-step techniques that I personally use to be more successful with women and dating... and I also interview several of my friends live and extract their secrets as well.